Plz HELP! Sex makes me sick to my stomach, going places without him is awesome, he is so jealous of everything, even my girlfriends. I don't want to stay just because of the kids, they are old enough 17,13,12. I am scared to hurt his feelings!!!
2007-12-05 09:16:21 · 17 answers · asked by lilyjo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i just went though someting like this with my wife . just go and talk with some one .both of you need to go. but i can tell you thats something is missing and you two need to find it together.tell him to stop being so jealous .open up a little bit.
but he's being to protective of you .show him the theres other men out there that will treat you better and i promise that he will be a differnt person.
2007-12-05 09:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by michael h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 13 years , love waxes and wanes. Everyone gets tired of what is the same, every day. The catch is that you will also get tired of the next relationship that comes along. you are just feeling a mid-life crisis, realizing that you are not so young anymore. Unfortunately, you can't recreate your youth. What you will be doing is hurting yourself and your kids. Could he be jealous for a good reason? It sounds like he is feeling very insecure and for a good reason. No you shouldn't stay "just for the kids" but, after 13 years you do owe him the respect of talking it over and and trying some counseling. You aren't going to turn into a 20 year old just because you leave.
2007-12-05 17:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made three babies with him, promised to love him forever and never do anything to make him feel insecure and bad, and how you're laughing it up as you run around with your female friends and it bothers him. Well, what a nice example you're setting for your kids about how to keep a commitment. You need counseling in a big way. If you were a guy, people would be jumping all over you about how mean you are being to your wife. Stop being so careless with your husband, there are lots of women out there who would love to make him a happy man while you run around with your gal pals. Maybe she'd be a more reliable mother to the children as well. Get yourself some help before you ruin everyone's life.
2007-12-05 17:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kyle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a psychotherapist specializing in couples and family therapy, you're probably correct in stating that your kids are old enough to cope. Staying for the children is often a bad idea because children know when their parents are in an unhappy relationship.
See this great guide:
Should I Stay Or Go? Knowing When To Move On
http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/relationshipadvice-should-i-stay-or-should-i-go.html
Is Your Relationship Healthy? Some Questions To Ask Yourself
http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/relationshipadvice-is-your-relationship-healthy.html
2007-12-05 19:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by lovehealer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't stay just for the kids.It might be awful to say but a person can fall out of love with someone. Look at it this way some ones feelings are going to get hurt it may as well be his. Sounds like it has been over for a while anyway.
2007-12-05 17:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by mikk 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't see how sex makes you sick unless it's forced or unnatural but that's not important here but the fact that you are not sure you love him anymore is. Without justifying the reason for leaving him can you honestly say you don't love him anymore? If yes than do it.
2007-12-05 20:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by ibanchief 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. I am going through the same thing. Luckily, for me, we don't have children. I am also afraid of hurting his feelings. I have told him I am not in love with him anymore. Have you tried counseling? You at least have to make the attempt.
Good Luck
2007-12-05 19:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Zoe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are at a point in your life where no matter what, it will hurt him. you guys (with having 3 teens) have been together long enough for there to be a problem with you divorcing him.
when it comes down to it, you have basically already made your decision. get out of there.
it sounds like even though he loves you, he knows you are unhappy.
2007-12-05 17:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
im in a similar situation!
i was gonna leave the other night but decided to try counseling first~ by myself~ see what they have to say
2007-12-05 17:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its always easier to leave than work it out -- try self therape first, then both of you, at least try ,, grass always looks greener on the other side
2007-12-05 17:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by chaaalie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋