okie i recently broke up with my boyfriend and my ex bf before him is so happy that i am single again .....he is willing to leave his woman to be with me again.. well we've been together for 7 years before and still in love with each other... now he wants to have a baby.... i don't mind ...i love him to death would do anything to be with him again..and i know he loves me ..so should i?
p.s. remember he currently seeing someone and we separated cause he cheated....its been 1yr and 10 months separation.
2007-12-05 09:06:29 · 53 answers · asked by Tricia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's an old saying, "fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me!" He cheated on you once, is practically cheating on his gf now with you, and you think he's suddenly going to be faithful to you again? Good luck, but a baby is not a band-aid for a broken relationship.
2007-12-05 09:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by ♀Redheaded Sunshine☼ 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋
As a couple of different posters have already mentioned, it can be your alternative and no person can make it for you. I consider your factors for wanting an abortion are valid ones. I'm now not for or against abortion...I do believe that in some instances, it can be vital however it will have to now not be used as a type of start control. What happened? Delivery control failure? It is going to be a rough selection and one in an effort to cling over you the relaxation of your existence. It won't be anything which you could just omit about. Be ready for a way you are going to feel after it's accomplished and i urge you to search pre-and submit- abortion counseling. Have you ever regarded adoption for the baby? I am no longer announcing you will have to but try to hold an open mind. It possibly a legitimate substitute. You must come to a decision for your self which is the quality choice for you. Good success. EMT
2016-08-06 10:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What????? Are you Nuts? He's with another girl after cheating on you and leaving you, and now he wants to get you pregnant...why? Why doesn't he get the new GF pregnant instead, why the estranged ex......and you are willing to go along with this? Excuse me while I bang my head against the table....
Sweetie, a baby is a lifetime commitment and a full time responsibility emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially for at least 18 years...and beyond for some states say a parent is financially responsible until age 21..yup 21.
That baby will tie the two of you together for a lifetime...and if the relationship is unstable, or doesn't work, that tie can be very, very unhappy.....
My question is, do you trust him so that there is absolutely no doubt in your mind that he will always be there for the baby, always do his fair share to support that child in all the ways I mentioned above...or is this a game with him...I got ...........
amount of girls pregnant, hey I'm the Man! Look at how far I've spread my seed around....
Babies deserve to be born into a stable relationship with two parents who are willing to give all they can to that child....not because an ex sees some sort of status in inpregnating a ex GF...please, for your sake think this thru...and tell him no.....
..unless you two are looking for some Baby-Mama-Daddy drama for the Maury Povitch show.....yikes!
2007-12-05 09:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No.
A million times. No.
That is NOT a reason to bring a child into the world. It's okay if you say you "don't mind" when he wants to go out with the guys, or have pizza instead of chicken for dinner. It's not something you say when it comes to making lifelong deciisons like marriage and children.`
Let me get this straight. You dated, and he cheated on you with another person. Later, he dated someone else, and cheated on them with you? Are you not seeing a pattern here?
If he loved you like you think he does, you would not be made to feel like you need to "do anything to be with him again," especially when "anything" is something THIS major! If he loved you as much as you think he does, he wouldn't "be willing to leave his woman to be with you again." He would have ended that relationship already.
Other than the fact that you love him, WHAT would make you think he's even capable of having a lasting, monogomous relaitonship? Now, I don't really believe the "once a cheater always a cheater" line. I think people CAN change if they try hard enough. But this guy has NOT changed. He's proving it by cheating on his current girlfriend, who I assume at one time he sweet-talked her the same way he is with you.
If you decided to have his baby right now, what will you do when (not "if") he cheats on you again? Do you really want to be the responsible parent for the child HE wanted, because the guy is apparently not capable of maintaining the kind of commitment involved in raising a child.
Honey, having kids is HARD work. It's harder than anything you've ever faced. I guarantee, a guy who is that much of a flake will NOT step up to his parental duties. I'm married to (well, divorcing, but that's another story) a man who is just the best dad in the world. But even with that wonderful fatherly support, it's overwhelming and unbelievably hard. It'll be even harder for you.
I promise.
2007-12-05 09:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dumbest idea ever.
If you get back with him, then you would be the stupidest woman alive.
It would be a shame if you had a child together. That child would suffer the consequences of having unhappy parents.. a dad who is a cheater and a mom who is a doormat.
Now if you walk away from this loser, then you are brilliant!
Find someone who knows how to keep it in his pants and will wait until he wants to marry you before talking about having a baby.
2007-12-05 14:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. He left you because he was cheating with someone, now he wants to leave his present girlfriend for you. What do you think the odds are that he won't do it again. Do not have a child with him unless he is serious enough to give you a ring, get married and give up the life of a stray cat in heat. Fooled you once, shame on him, fooled you twice, you get what you deserve. Pain in spades.
2007-12-05 09:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should make sure that you are getting back together because of love, and NOT the fact that he wants a baby. You should be together for awhile before getting pregnant to make sure. Having a baby and then breaking up again wouldn't be good for anyone involved, especially the baby. If he loves you that much he shouldn't mind waiting to make sure.
Good luck.
2007-12-05 09:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by msnite1969 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Are you kidding? Um, hello, he cheated...once a cheater always a cheater. If you did get pregnant, by your 9th month when your belly's huge he won't be able to cheat fast enough! Would you really want to bring a child into the world w/ a cheating father? He'll leave you high and dry AND a single mother.
2007-12-05 09:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by tahnwen 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeah it all sounds like a fairytale, but wake up and smell the sh*t stinking from the roses, it ain't all good! If you value yourself as a woman and a soon-to-be mother, then you will not go through with this nonsense. He cheated on you before and now he wants to cheat on his new girlfriend with you, and he is hoping that you are dumb enough to keep falling for his bs! This will be a big mistake on your part because he is having his cake with frosting and his ice cream too, and you will be stuck chewing something that is hard to swallow! Get yourself a man that will respect you, marry you, and then have a child with you, don't keep putting yourself in the midst of mess!
2007-12-05 09:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole J 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
He's a cheater. He cheated on you once, now he's cheating on the woman he's currently with by saying he wants to have a baby with you. Don't get back with him and don't complicate the relationship more by adding a baby to the mix.
2007-12-05 09:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by :) 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i would give it some more time before jumping into something as permanent as another human being. remember, he is an ex for a reason. a baby does not make a relationship better nor does it enhance it. a baby is an expression of unity and continuity. babies are beyond what present feelings you may have now,
2007-12-05 09:10:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋