My guy and I went out of town for Thanksgiving vacation. He had an attitude so bad that I was ready to leave. I didnt want to argue around his mom. So I left and went back to Atlanta. I miss him so much and I keep asking him when is he coming back. He keep telling me I should not have left him I would be with him and to stop rushing him away from his mom. So this time he tells me he see us not going anywhere because I always leave him. What should I do??? Does he really not want to be with me???
2007-12-05 08:58:29 · 25 answers · asked by perfectanjyl22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hes hurt.imagine him leavin u like this wthout tlkin it all out
2007-12-05 10:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's saying you "keep leaving him" -- so does this mean it's happened before? If he gets in a mood -- do you take off? I'm NOT being mean because I surely don't like hanging out with people with an attitude. But maybe if you feel like you have to get away from the situation, he may not be the person to be with forever, ya know what I mean? It is kind of different for a person to just leave someone while at a visit someplace. I think we may need some more information. I'm sorry you are sad but maybe you shouldn't be wiith him if you feel you want to leave on him? It just sounds too stressful.
2007-12-05 17:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is do you really want to be with him?
You cannot run away from your problems. They do not go away or get forgotten. If anything, they get worse...
If you cannot work the problems out then I'd say thats an issue you both need to work on.
If you feel you cannot discuss things with him then maybe youre in the wrong relationship... Relaionships are give and take and are hard work. Theyre not always easy and it takes dedication and effort to make it work. You cannot always put yourself first when youre with someone... Changes may need to take place and theres nothing wrong with that when youre with someone you love. You gotta ask yourself, is it worth all the time and effort or not?
GL
2007-12-05 17:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His mother would have been an issue, when he was 12!
Sounds like he's closer to his mom and the security of moms apron strings.
If you feel, you need to leave him, in order to avoid an argument, maybe what you're feeling is the need for company, not necessarily his!
Drop him and his mother, as soon as possible, and find a guy in Atlanta, you don't need to leave!
Good Luck!
2007-12-05 17:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky situation. Do you feel like you run away from him when things get tough? If you do, you need to figure out why. And put yourself in his shoes, by running away from your problems you leave no room for them to growth or resolve. I think you could try to make it work with him if you focused on why you need to run away and not deal with things. Once you have figured it out, it should be easier to communicate problems you have with people you are involved with. I had this same problem. When there was a problem in a relationship, I ended it. No matter what the problem was. I just did not have the capacity to deal with anything unpleasant. It took me some time to figure out you have to stay and fight for a relationship. Youll figure it out too! Good luck!
2007-12-05 17:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by Susan F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to change, and neither is his mom. I think the question you asked is wrong, because you DO always leave him.
The question you need to be asking is WHY do you always leave him (because you can't get on with him or his family) and WHY you still want him.
Remember, the only person you can change is yourself, so either you stay with him where he is and not try to inject drama into a situation (when you leave you are forcing him to make a decision to choose his family over you - and you can see where that got you). Your other option is to find someone who's more well suited to you.
2007-12-05 17:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by MomMom 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
first he still wants u because he talked to u after but if u want him u should take the iniciative. there is one thing that a man wont loose that easy and that is called pride u really should get together and talk and trust me u 2 will get back together.
i mean he took to his moms place thats a start of love.
2007-12-05 17:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by ulises 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear, I would let things die down and hope for the best - that he values your relationship more and returns to you wanting to talk. If he doesn't, then it would be pretty clear he doesn't feel the same for you any longer - and I would have to believe it has MORE to do, than just with this "leaving" problem.
If you really think he's "the one" - then you can take the "bull by the horns" write him a heartfelt note of why you left, sorry that you had to, and you really miss him...
The "ball is in your court" dear...
Sincerely,
Grace
2007-12-05 17:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why would you keep leaving him..??
if you want to be with him you shouldnt have left him..
a lot of people have no patience for that.
you say you "keep leaving him"?
it sounds like hes had enough of your games so if he wants to hell come back when hes ready.
if you want to wait for him that is your choice but in the future, stop playing games.
im sorry if i come off kind of harsh but a heart isnt something to play with.
2007-12-05 17:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is probably just upset that you left him he might be taking it as a sign that you do not like his family you should have stayed in all honesty but i think you should just have a talk with him and apologize for leaving after explain why you did
2007-12-05 17:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by crazylady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might just need some alone time to himself. He'll get over it eventually. Don't let this get to you. If he has to be this way and doesn't forgive you then there's plenty of better guys out there. Good luck and have a good early and merry Christmas.
2007-12-05 17:01:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋