My husband and I are expecting and well through out my years in knowing him hes always said he wants a little girl. WHich is fine by me im happy either way. Heres my question, we do not know the sex of the baby but im due next month and well, im worried if he doesnt get a girl he will be dissapointed in me. I know he loves and cares for me we dated for 4 years and have been married 2 1/2. I just dont want to dissapoint him, ive been able to give him anything and everything he has wanted etc(not just material things)but this is the one thing i can not control and i just dont want him to be upset, how do you think he will react? Has anyone else felt this way?
2007-12-05 08:57:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all for your answers, they are all very helpful. I doubt my husabnd will be dissapointed i think its just "new mommy jitters" etc...i know he loves us both and has said to me all he wants is for both of us to be safe/healthy when its time. Just a mental thing i needed to get some opinions on...thank you all
2007-12-05 09:17:23 · update #1
This is his first baby, isn't it?
Have him watch the delivery up close. When he sees the miracle of birth (and the unbelievable ability of the woman to do it) the thought of disappointment will go out the window.
2007-12-05 09:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I waited 8 years till I had my first baby. Endless tests and miserable miscarriages, constant trying and late periods that raised our hopes - then nothing... 8 years... Go and read up on people that go through hell to have a baby then just be thankful that you have been given this gift easily and naturally. Why the pressure? What are you so insecure about? Having babies is not a game to see how perfect you are, they reflect your perfectness when they come into the world and grow with the values you give them, thats you're success. Stop being silly and be thankful for what is growing inside of you. A healthy baby and an easy birth is what you should wish for and that you will be a good parent to it. Only those things will make him proud. Good luck and relax, you're baby feels all this tension.
2007-12-05 09:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by dunwerse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is any kind of man his first concerns will be are you and the baby fine and healthy. After that he may look at the sex, but if he is disappointed then he has to realize that the sex is determined by the male and not the female. Don't worry though. No matter what sex the baby is, once he/she is out and he holds it for the first time he won't care about what plumbing it has. He will just be happy to be a daddy.
2007-12-05 09:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel my hubby has been talking abotu children latley and he was saying how he only wants a boy. I would be scared too... But don't worry about it talk to him and let him know how you feel you can always try again for a little girl just let him know that you don't want to dissapoint and talk about what if's... what if we had a little boy?? what would we call him?? prepare him for a boy so if it is a boy he won't feel so let down plus you can't control these things... it's a 50/50 chance of being a boy or girl
2007-12-05 09:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sweet but u have no control over what the sex of the baby will be and Im sure he knows this and in the end Im sure he will love the baby no matter if its a boy or girl.
2007-12-05 09:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it comes out to be a boy, I think he will love it no matter what. It all changes once the baby is here and I think the moment he sees it, it will not matter what the sex is. You sound like a good wife and I am sure he is not going to hold you responsible or be disappointed in you in any way. His heart will melt at the sight of that baby.
2007-12-05 09:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by bbygrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A Man's Strength Is In His Character...
He is the one who determines the sex of the baby so if he does end up being disappointed (I don't think he will) he should only be mad at himself.
Congratulations and God Bless.
Have a healthy baby!!!!!
2007-12-05 09:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by ZarahzMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he throws a fit when the baby comes out and it's not a girl he needs to hit the bricks... Like the first poster said his sperms decides the baby's sex...
2007-12-05 09:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will not be disappointed. My fiance and I had our child last month and it doesn't matter the sex of the baby.. when that child is born your husband will be over the moon! You will both be overcome with an awesome feeling! Congratulations!! Don't worry, everything will be great! :)
2007-12-05 09:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by NBBTB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me when that baby shows up he will be so happy it wont matter. I wanted and got a boy for my first one, I was scared of having a girl on my second.
But when she came out was my angel from day one.
Dont stress, he will be overjoyed either way.
2007-12-05 09:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋