2007-12-05 08:44:57 · 25 answers · asked by vw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
noticing someone else i think is normal ... lusting after them im not so sure ...
2007-12-05 08:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
But there is a big difference between lusting after someone else, or fantasizing about someone else, and actually cheating.
Those feelings come naturally, but the main thing is that you not ACT on them. Eventually, if you don't sit around trying to nurse those feelings (putting yourself in the position where you would see them all the time, or you dont' just sit and daydream about him or anything like that), you get past it.
Keep in mind, there is a difference between lust and love. You just need to make sure that you realize that the love you have for your spouse is almost certainly more long-term (and a lot less shallow) than a physical lust for another person.
The love has real substance, something that keeps it grounded.
2007-12-05 16:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be attracted to other people when you are married but to lust after someone is not normal.If you find yourself lusting after another person than you need to stay away from that person and work on finding out what is wrong with your marriage and why you no longer feel as fulfilled by it as you used to.Talk to your husband.
2007-12-05 17:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is soooooo normal. I have a spouse and I lust after Hawiian women daily.
2007-12-05 16:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by blujello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Just because we get married doesn't mean that we become blind to everything around us. We are going to see people who sexually arouse us all of the time, and those are perfectly normal feelings. The key is to not act on them unless you are in an open relationship where it is allowable. We are still breathing and hearts beating even after we are married so to me, lusting is just a normal thing.
2007-12-05 16:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course its normal. Look, there are millions of people out there - can you really say that you'll never fancy anyone else apart from your spouse for your entire lifetime? If you can then you must be a saint.
2007-12-05 17:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by colgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is normal....if you love your spouse why would you want to lust after another?
There is a difference between lusting and noticing someone that is attractive....
2007-12-05 16:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Very normal. All you have to do is realize that it is just that. As long as you never act on it, you're fine. Since I've been with my guy, I've had a couple crushes. With guys I've never talked to; if I was single, I would go talk, but nope. I wouldn't consider it. Also, it will go away after a few weeks. If it doesn't, try to not be around that person.
2007-12-05 16:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lust yes, act on it, never.
2007-12-05 17:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by tahnwen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your spouse, then he/she should be enough for you. Cheating, mentally or physically, is cheating. Nothing personal, but the lack of respect in marriage these days is appalling.
2007-12-05 16:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by justme 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋