2007-12-05 08:32:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I get your question.
I have the same question.
When my husband and i do get a chance to go out together all we wind up talking about is the kids. And most things we do together is centered around the kids.
We either talk about the kids or his job. I don't work outside the home; so I see the kids constantly and the last thing i want to talk about is them.
Don't get me wrong; I love my kids; I'm a the perpetual soccer, pta, basketball, step team, troop leader, mom. However, I do feel like enough already.
I've made some new friends in the past year; we have a standing Friday Girls Night Out. And we have a ball discussing fashion, america's next top model, gossip, etc.
But, I want to have fun discussing things with my husband. Anyway, I guess we need to start taking time for ourselves so that we can be more interesting.
2007-12-05 09:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by Indypendence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'ld hope so wouldn't you. Somethimes couples have barriers (like jeallousy, insecurity, big decisions and you want different things) that make it impossible to talk about what is really going on with you and so the common/safe ground you do still have is the kids. There would really be trouble if you could not even bring yourself to talk about the kids together.
Maybe don't worry so much about what you think your partner thinks of you and you will feel much more free to talk about other things.
We go through stages where the only space to talk is about the kids. But I usually have barriers up when this is the case.
2007-12-05 16:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rinkidink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When married you should about a lot more then the kids. I mean, there is finances to talk about, housing, your relationship wants and needs. Communication in a relationship is a key...Without it, it dies! So, talk about whatever! Thats the best advice I know!
2007-12-05 16:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by jodi1017 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm reading you correctly your question is more complex than this. Is about your fustration of not being able to spend quality time with your partner. Kids do consume a lot of time. We can be drag down by parenthood. But they didn't ask to be here. Now we need to do our best for them. I have a similar situation, but my wife and I have rules about our "couple's night" We don't discuss the kids.....good luck
2007-12-05 16:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We talk about a lot of things. The kids are only one of them.
2007-12-05 16:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I hope so, you will not always have kids in the house to talk about
we talk about
work
life
other family members
what we're doing tomorrow, next week and next year
and my personal favorite
what we're eating next
don't you have anything else to talk about? or is it fight about?
hope so, you have to find other topics to talk about, you didn't talk kids before you were married did you?
2007-12-05 16:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by vjustmehere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We talk about everything, work, politics, religion, future plans, current situations, and the kids and the one on the way we talk about too!
2007-12-05 16:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha! Yes, but we do like to talk about the children.. Keeps us young!
2007-12-05 16:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by ♫♪Bag♫♪ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, we talk about the news, family, work. It usually ends up in my husband trying to be goofy and I laugh so hard.
2007-12-05 16:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I talk about politics, whats going on in the world, his family, my family, our friends, future plans, lots and lots of things.
2007-12-05 16:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋