How do I find out if I'm sexually satisfying my wife. I ask her and she says yes, but how do I know if she's just being nice. And also how can I found out how freaky she'll get without upsetting her. I know I could ask her but what if she goes light just to make me think she's not a freak. Which I would be totally ok with.
2007-12-05 08:18:03 · 22 answers · asked by lifelongskinsfan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not only can you talk to her, but you can "experiment" while you are intimate. Express your desire to please her in every way, and that the two of you can try a few things. Keep it light and loving and keep the communication open. Most women feel better about doing this if they're married versus if they aren't. Ask her what she feels comfortable doing to and with you as well. Have fun!
2007-12-05 08:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing the "what if" game. The only way to find out the answer to a question is to ASK THE QUESTION!! She may not want you to think she's freaky, but if you assure her that that's ok with you, she might open up and let you see her freaky side. Watch her body language. If her moans are any indication that she likes whatever you're doing, keep it up.
Remember, you can't control how another person thinks, you can only control yourself. Good luck.
2007-12-05 08:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change things up in the bedroom, discuss with her different ways & means of pleasure. Have her agree while ya'll are in the bedroom, if she isn't "feelin it" don't move or make a noise. But if she is... let her moans get louder or movements get more obvious to equal the amount of pleasure :) Just tell her you want to experiment, and use that as a scale so you can remember what she likes... she shouldn't get upset at that :)
And well... if she sounds like a bullhorn the entire time... either your doing everything right, or she's faking.
2007-12-05 09:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to believe her when she says you are satisfying her, I know it is hard, my husband asks me that all the time and I totally say yes, and I also let him know what he can do do heighten the pleasure, that helps a lot, by communicating and being comfortable with eachother also.
Just ask her and talk to her in bed, ask her what feels good, and what does not feel good to her, ask her what you can do and what she does not want you to do, just talk while you are getting intimate, maby she likes music, and dimming the lights, and candle light, and a bubble bath and you can wash her hair, I love that when my husband does that to me, it is totally romantic, and totally relaxing!!!!!
Just use your imagination!
2007-12-05 08:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, Im gonna be honest with you, & Im guessing your aware of this anyway, but many,many women fake being satisfied with their husbands just to keep them satisfied, I know it sounds weird, but its so true, we are the best fakers, and I fake it all the time to, but I can give you some hints as to if she is sexually satisfied or just doing what she see,s as a job that needs to be tended to, here,s the #1 deal breaker, does she initiate sex? Does she ever make the 1st move? If she does, chances are pritty good she is really feeling you and desires you, ok #2 does she claim she,s not feeling good, the ole, honey I have a headache routine? And this can come in many forms, from pms, to headaches to backaches to any ailment she can come up with at the time, #3 does she just lay their like a rock on a log, or does she seem to be enjoying herself? { you can tell by looking in her eyes, as her eyes can tell if shes happy or just plain bored }, and keep in mind women are the best actors, so the eyes never lie. #4 Did she seem more interested in sex at the begining of your relationship? or has she seemed to lost interest? Their are lots of ways of finding out if she,s satisfied, but asking her isnt gonna answer the question, the answer comes from her actions, like they say, trust actions not words, and if her actions are telling you she isnt satisfied, then maybe shes not? Its up to you as her husband to find what makes her tick, you are the one who knows her better then anyone else, and Im guessing in time, you will find your answer, till then just try to be their for her and love and respect her, the rest will fall in place in time.
2007-12-05 08:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well the element of surprise does it for me. Shakle the bed, tie her up, smotther her with cream, whip her slightly (to be Safe) the world is your oyster if you dare. she will soon let you no if she aint happi with your actions be lead by her. as a girlie i will shout if im unhappi but hey if your tryin summut new fair play too you, gud luck. also you have to take into considration that your ife is truly satisfied by you! eye eye tiger. best way to find out do a girlie thing and find out by alternative methods. mr and mrs games wot are her fantasies (dont expect her to tell you sum fantatsies best left fantiatses) but think about other things she says ie she loves chocolates. smoother her in chocolate or you in choc and it has to be licked off before anything else happens. keep her in suspence smoother her in choc lick it off to her delight then say goodnight and turn over. keep it reaL and alive good luck
2007-12-05 08:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say to have her write you a letter of what she'd like you to do to her and be really detailed. . My husband and I do this and it trips him out because normally Im not going to say real hardcore stuff to his face but I'll let it all out in a letter. You can tell alot by how a person expresses themselves (whether you are doing it for her or not) AND she will open up about stuff that you probably didnt know like...she wants it on the dryer or she wants you to talk to her a certain way...
God bless your desire to be all things to your wife~
2007-12-05 08:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you took the 1st step by asking her. But, there is nothing wrong with adding some spice to the relationship...Sex toys are a great start...Trust me...try them and she will see how great things really can get. Plus, it will give you a chance to see just how FREAKY she is willing to get. Have fun!
2007-12-05 08:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to tell from her responses. You should also be able to feel it. As for being freaky, make suggestions during the act and see if she is game. She will let you know where the line is.
2007-12-05 08:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key! Talk to her! Ask her how she feels, she'll be grateful that her husband is actually taking the time to want to make her happy and want to jazz up the sex life a bit! Just talk to her! Ask her what she likes, dislikes, would be comfortable with, etc.
2007-12-05 08:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋