lend his sister my rolex. His mom sends me a message that I need to have love in my heart. I didnt realize having love in your heart is lending someone a rolex. She wants to use it to impress her ex boyfriend and I am not comfortable lending out my jewelry. I dont even let my sister use it. They used to let me use their bmw and compare the two. I told him bmws have insurance and its totally different. I worked so hard to buy this watch that I have always wanted. I would like some opinions. Now I think his family has very bad morals and values.
2007-12-05 08:10:44 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They have no money and buy everything on credit. The family cannot afford to replace my watch if it is lost scratched or broken.
2007-12-05 08:48:07 · update #1
thank your lucky stars he broke up with you.
take your well deserved rolex and stay away from those wackos.
they are all about material possessions and financial gain.
People like that are pathetic and need to grow up.
thank god you were given a "get out of jail free" card before you got married into a family of losers.
2007-12-05 08:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by chilly 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Well, you're right. They do.
I'm not going to say you should or shouldn't have lent the watch. That's up to you. I can understand your position, and can understand theirs.
But the obsessive attitude they're displaying ABOUT you not loaning the watch takes the shouldya/shouldn'tya to a whole new level.
Really, do you want to have spent the rest of your life dealing with these people? If they get this ticked off that you don't loan her your very expensive watch so she can impress an EX-boyfriend, it's doubtful they would be really flexible and loving in other future situations.
LOL You're right, having love in your heart is not lending someone a rolex. Neither is what they're doing to you.
Cut your losses and thank your lucky stars you got out of this crazed family before it was too late.
2007-12-05 08:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I find it very odd that he would break off an engagement over something so petty. If you feel his family has very bad morals and values then be glad that the wedding is called off. As once you marry him you marry his family. As far as the watch goes he should have respected the fact that you did not want to loan out your jewelry. The fact that she wanted to borrow it to make impress her ex is very strange. I find it odd her mother approved of her daughter needing an expensive watch to get a guy to have interest. He should like her for herself not what money they may have. The text message his mother sent should have been sent to her daughter as if she loved herself she would not need to try to buy a guy to be with her.
The whole family is nuts, right now your hurt and upset. In time you will look back and say thank you God that this happened and I am not stuck with these people You will find a great guy with out all these issues. Give it some time.
2007-12-05 08:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he broke off the engagement because you wouldn't let his sister borrow your Rolex, then you should be glad you didn't end up married to him. Was he just going to break up with you every time you didn't do what his family wanted? That's no way to live!
Did they lend you their BMW just to show off, or did you really just need a car to get to work? If you borrowed it just to show off, then you probably should have lent them your Rolex. I'm sure they'd have replaced it if they lost it. If you were just borrowing the car to go to work, then there was no reason for you to give them your watch.
This whole thing is pretty silly. Even if you were rude by not lending the watch (which I don't think you were), that's about the dumbest reason I ever heard for breaking off an engagement. Like I said, be glad this happened before you got married!
2007-12-05 08:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Call me crazy, but it seems to me that if they can aford to have a BMW to loan out, thy can afford a Rolex as well. Even more, if something were to happen to your precoius watch, and God forbid that, I do believe that they would compensate you. When someone values possesssions more than people, they have flushed their own humanity down the toilet. SHAME ON YOU. You "worked so hard" for your watch...no, excuse me-timepiece? Get rid of some of that vanity & get some humanity, try like hell to get your man back, and clean off everybody's shoes you just stepped on. And by the way, good luck to you and have a very Merry Christmas.
2007-12-05 08:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by marcavelli0569 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are seeing the bigger picture...this is just the tip of the iceberg. If your potential husband lives a life on credit and you are a saver, and like to own things out right, you are going to have some big problems in your marriage. If you end up divorcing, you are going to suffer the most because you will be sacrificing all your values and ethics because you will be having to pay all the debts he incurs due to his lifestyle. Is that what you want? He wont lose, because he has nothing, but you will.
2007-12-05 10:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is ridiculous! That is your watch and even though they did let you borrow their BMW that was their choice.. this is your choice.. Just explain to them that you did not feel comfortable lending it out because if it gets lost or broken you could not afford to replace it and you worked hard to get something nice for yourself. Don't tell them you think THEY couldn't afford to replace it.. That would be offensive!! :)
2007-12-05 09:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by NBBTB 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok there are lot of really stupid points as far as everything goes! Ok You should have let her use the watch you used a car that Costs alot more than your dumb watch! She is Dumb for trying to impress a guy with your dumb watch! They are dumb for expecting pay back for a favor you need to learn to share they need to learn to forgive! I am sure they worked hard to buy that BMW which is dumb to because they are the least safest as of 2007 but this isn't about cars its about to different familys of spoiled selfish people isn't it! I think if you could have just typed up somthing simple stating that if she scratched it or broke it in anyway that they would replace it and have it notorized if it is that precious to all of you! Geez maybe you should have had to get treated like a criminal about using their car to!
2007-12-05 08:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like complete pretentious snobiness to me. if they want a rolex in family then hey let them get one. why on earth wud sum1 want a rolex to show there boyfriend even lone an ex boyfriend! wots going on here. happiness is so much more than designer labels or rolex get a grip material things count for nothing. its love understanding and commitment that will get you through a rolex wont be there for you when things get tough, please see the light and if he doesn't he really isn't worth it materialistic and not will neva mix well
2007-12-05 08:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When lending things out, you have to decide that on an individual basis. One person may appear more trustworthy than another, or more responsible. If you drove someones car, would you let someone drive your car knowing that their car is dinged up due to the way they drive? If you let his sister use your watch, is his Mom going to allow you to wear her wedding ring for a night out on the town? (I bet you they would draw the line there.) Everyone has their boundaries, and they are as different as how we like our pizza.
Some things are off limits and only you can decide that, no one else. It is especially hard to lend your watch for something so frivolous and phony. You have your boundaries, and they have theirs, and that is all it is. This is not something to end a relationship over. This is something that is between you and his sister. It really isn't relevant to your relationship with him, and it sounds like he has trouble recognizing that.
If he chooses to end it with you because of something so petty, then he isn't respecting your boundaries. He is trying to control you by telling you that your boundaries are wrong, and that isn't right. I don't agree with some things in my spouses family, but I wont end our marriage over it, because it doesn't really impact my life with my spouse.
2007-12-05 09:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by Trevor McKinney 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would be glad that you found out now how he is. This is something trivial and he dumped you for it.You are better off without him. Trying to impress and ex with a watch is one of the dumbest things I have heard in a while. They all sound immature and manipulative. When it comes to personal things, only lend out what you might not mind losing.
2007-12-05 08:21:50 · answer #11 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋