My Hunny and I have been together (finally after waiting forever) for 5 months. We have been the best of friends for 4 years prior to this. We're madly in love and soul mates for sure. I have never had such an awesome relationship with any man before. Our communication and team work skills as parents and mates is phenominal. He has three kids from a prior marriage and has been divorced for the past 10 years. I have a daughter from a prior reltaionship also but, I'm happy to say, I've never been married. I know that marriage is just a piece of paper to some people but, it's much more for me. Yes, we live together now with two of the four kids total. I love him so much!! He knows how I feel and I'm sure he feels the same way. My whole family is getting ancy as well....he's definately the one! Please help. How can I drop him a hint? Or should I just be totally honest and tell him I want to marry him?
2007-12-05 07:58:08 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, you guys are right. But, I'm just not the patient type. I want it so bad! XOXO
2007-12-05 08:03:28 · update #1
We've know each other for almost 4 1/2 years people...he packed and threw away most of his stuff and moved in with me. It was a mutual decision. He's been single for 10 years since his divorce, until I came along. We used to work together. He's been there for my daughter since she was born more so than her biological father. I didn't and havn't coaxed him into anything. He and his boy moving in was his idea. We're there for each other mentally, emotionally and financially. (as if we were actually married) I just want to live a girl's fantasy and marry the man of my dreams. We love each other!! In case you were all wondering. I am 30. Not a little girl.
2007-12-05 08:56:13 · update #2
Simple, just say where's my F****ng ring?
2007-12-05 08:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by macsareeback 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Apparently, he's content with the way things are, and doesn't feel the necessity to make it legal. Maybe he thinks you feel the same way. There is evidently a lack of communication between the two of you, and he probably doesn't have a clue that you want a more permanent relationship. I guess it's time to speak up and let him know how you feel. Since you've been willing to settle for something less than marriage, he probably sees no big hurry to tie the knot. So start talking! Good luck!
2007-12-05 08:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate to sound old fashioned but this guy is already divorced and you already live together. Do you really think he is going to rush into walking down that isle and saying I do? He still has his freedom at any time he can pack up and leave with no messy paperwork or lawyers You need to talk to him about what you want but to be honest after 5 months most men would run if they heard the M word. Enjoy the relationship and don't pressure him.
2007-12-05 08:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never ever coerce someone to propose. It won't work. But, 5 months is not a very long time at all, I dated my husband for 9 years before we got married. If you feel it necessary, then propose to him. But, if I were you, I'd wait, he will propose when the time is right. Believe me. Be patient, marriage is all about patience. But.... you can be totally honest with him and tell him how you feel. Tell him you love him and you want to be married to him, preferable sooner than later and see what he has to say. Good Luck!
2007-12-05 08:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Only In Dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think it's right for you to rush into this.... be a woman of virtue... If you have waited patiently fo some tiome now you have nothing to loose until you are proposed to... by the way knowing a man for 5 months is not enogh to know him well.. you need to know him for sometime time >12 months - marriage is not like a tea party wher you rush n and out... having been divorced previously should indicate to you that patience and gaetting married officialy is the right thing than gtting to live together first then trying to get proposed to...
2007-12-05 08:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by fhlkn;linkjnlkh'ph890t9p7y09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think you should talk to him and see if you are on the same page. For all you know, he might have no intention of getting married again if he's satisfied with the status quo. Would you stick around if you found that out? If not, then definitely see if you want the same thing. That's not to say you should force him to marry you or set a date, but at least see if he and you have the same goals. If you have a good relationship then you should be able to talk about these things.
2007-12-05 08:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do women have to ruin it by being pushy or dropping hints? if the guy is ready, he'll do it. There's nothing worst for a guy then doing something and thinking if he did it because he was ready, or because he was pressured. As for your family, they can wait and stay out of it. I guy feels bad when he's put on the spot in front of the maybe soon to be in-laws. Just wait it out. Like they say "good things come to those who wait".
2007-12-05 08:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Yes, we live together now " So why SHOULD he propose to you? No sense in buying the cow when one is getting the milk for free. He obviously has no need to get married. You can drop hints from now until doomsday and it's not going to work. If he doesn't WANT to get married he isn't going to propose...
2007-12-05 10:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot get him to do anything he does not want to do. The best way is just to come out and ask him "when are we getting married?" I know it's not the most romantic thing to do, but beats waiting around and stressed over.
2007-12-05 08:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have never heard of proposing marriage to someone since its your idea. maybe you should ask to find out if your both at the same place. if not then you can move on since a piece of paper fulfills your dreams.
2007-12-05 08:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is probably in his past. Has he talked about his experience in his first marriage? What happened? Can you figure out how it made him feel and what kind of emotional baggage he's carrying around as a result? Is he bitter over the financial settlement? (True for most guys, I think.) Before you do anything, you should try to understand what his resistance points are and then figure out your best approach.
2007-12-05 08:08:46 · answer #11 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋