Yesterday i told what my wifes secret fantasy is. She wants to be with multiple men at one time while i watch. I get turned on thinking about it also and might let her do it. I want some married Womens opinions. What would come of this? How many women would do this if it was ok with their husbands?
2007-12-05 07:57:01 · 22 answers · asked by MJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No good can come of this.
Email me for an idea.
2007-12-05 08:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by rjrmpk 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO! It's healthy to fantasize! And you are on the right track, plus I'm sure the sexual rewards are great by helping her! Take your wife to a strip club and buy her a lap dance by a black guy...you will go home and be in such big trouble!!! Here's some info for you.... There are lots of reasons that couples fantasize about another person and they do not necessarily mean that they wish to become swingers. For one, many people enjoy watching others particpate in sexual activity. Have you discussed bringing another woman or man into your bed? If so, a swingers club is certainly the most efficient way to find someone to join you. But you could test the waters by stopping by one. They are all over...where you think they wouldn't be! You can see some of the action, as it's very much an adult party!!! If your initial discussion reveals that you both are interested in swinging, you MUST develop a set of rules in order to be successful. Rules allow each of you to understand each other's comfort levels, interests and "sore spots", and without a good set of rules, you will almost definitely suffer jealousy, and anger, and being uncomfortable. It's a very big step in fantasizing and then making it become a reality. The fantasies can be just as good!!!
2016-04-07 11:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not the wife I am the husband. my wife and I started talking about fantasies. hers was similar. a few days later we looked up information on SwingingLifeStyle, we joined a site, we read all the forums together, it has created an openness between us that is unreal. we now talk about everything (not just fantasy) we don't hide anything from each other, and S** is incredible. so I say if its her fantasy and you are both open and totally honest with each other, do your homework and go for it. good luck.
2007-12-05 08:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by alikes756 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a common fantasy for both men and women. However, usually fantasies should stay just that way, fantasies. That is not to say that it wouldn't work, but do not attempt it unless she and you are both 100% comforatable with it, your marriage is sound, and you both have fully discussed it to know what to expect (boundaries, just a one time thing vs. on-going, both of you present or not, etc.). Like I said before, it is healthy to have fantasies, but be very careful before you try turning them into reality.
2007-12-05 08:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by christina_m_taft 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that your marriage would end pretty quickly.
There's nothing wrong with fantasy.. I think most woman have a very active fantasy world with sex.... The only thing that I would suggest is to try to find a creative way to act out this fantasy with just the two of you....i.e. put a blind fold on her
and start and stop "being with her" as if it is multiple men.
Or hang a curtain at her waist so she can't see...
2007-12-05 08:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After reading the post I see that most opinions are based on fear or the unknown. the one's that gave refferences of where to look for more information tell you THIS is not for everyone but they are also secure in their relationships. the ones that are trying to scare you with god WELL the bible says no man shall come between a husband and wife, if you are doing this together and it makes your relationship stronger, without jealousy, fear, lies, mistrust, then how is sharing this experience against (God or the Bible) society has been brain washed to believe certain things are bad. This is not something to rush into, write your fantasies out in story form to each other, research it, talk about it, if you are both ok with it, why not?
2007-12-05 09:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by fishinbum 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although this would be a little too freaky for me, its kind of fun to imagine. I doubt if I'd be allowed to perform such a risky act. It just doesn't fit right within a marriage to me. Its an exotic fantasy that should remain a fantasy.
2007-12-05 08:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by lovie808 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I do. It is not for everyone, many people can't handle this and get jelous. To me, it's hot, she absolutely loves it and we have great sex after it. To even this out, we also bring other women and other couples into the fun. We understand that sex is sex and love is love. We are swingers and enjoy it. However, most can't handle it and shouldn't even try. Good luck
Anyone that tries to do something like this to try to save their marriage is doing it for the wrong reason. The swinger lifestyle has brought my wife and I closer together, but tears many apart.
2007-12-05 08:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I share my fantasies with my husband, but I defineitely would NOT act on any that brought someone else into our bed. I think it's tittilating to talk about or imagine, but I really only want one man-My husband. he's all I need and I know other women who fantasize but don't really want to do it. I think it'd be a mistake for your marriage and would probably put alot of self doubt in your mind and y'all would probably both regret it later. I know a woman, specifically, who was with another woman, for her husband, & he couldn't get over it. Constantly asking if she liked it, & if it was better than him etc. Don't do it! Dress up or something, pretend to be strangers- liven it up, but don't betray your marriage vows.
2007-12-05 08:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by katskraps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do that ever. I guess if that's her fantasy, but it's weird that her fantasy involves cheating on you. But perhaps it's not cheating if you're there....hmmmm. That's a tough one. I suppose since she came out and told you truthfully, it is now whether YOU feel ok with it. I sure wouldn't want to see my husband with other women and he probably would not want to see me with other men. Good luck with that one.
2007-12-05 09:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jon and Ari P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT a good idea!!!!! Just because it is a fantasy doesn't mean that you should give in to this idea. I mean really do you want other men screwing your wife. Even if you are there watching it is still cheating.
2007-12-05 08:02:16 · answer #11 · answered by sugarbear0772 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋