I have to get an abortion?

Question

so anyone that has ever got an abortion please tell me all about it because I'm scared

I'm pro choice so please don't judge me. If you dont believe in abortions good for you. But I'm not askingnyour opinion about that.

ok I dont have to get one I chose to. My boyfriend supports my decisision. He said whatever choice I made he will support. I dont think abortion is wrong. And I dont want to have to carry. Around a bay then have to give it up. I think that will hurt me more.

Answer 1

Geeze people, quit judging her. She already said it, if you don't believe in abortion fine. Thats your choice, but don't act like you're better than her because she doesn't share your beliefs. Just go no your merry way with your ideas & let her make her own decisions.

I'm sorry I can't give you any advice because I've never been through it. Don't let all these judgemental people hurt you either. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

I have not ever had one, and I know you're looking for people who have for answers.... so sorry if my answer is off base.
But I just really wanted to comment here in hopes of being of help.
About four yrs ago a friend of mine, against my wishes, went ahead and had an abortion. Let me tell you, to this day and probably for the rest of her life, she's regretting it. She'll call me up every now and then crying, saying "my baby would have been two..." or "my baby would have been three..."
My other friend went with her to the store once and she broke down by the baby things, so bad... they had to leave.
It will emotionally wreck you.... whereas, from my experience, being a mother will make you stronger.
I have been doing a lot of research on the topic lately, for a paper I've been writing for one of my classes... and just so you're informed I'd like to share this information with you.
1.) First, how many weeks along are you? They say most abortions happen between 8 and 12 weeks. Are you in there somewhere? The reason I ask is because, you may not know this, but at FOUR weeks the baby has a beating heart. FOUR WEEKS! So if you're past that mark, there are two hearts inside your body... not just one.
2.) Another thing people don't realize is the awful detail of an abortion. I don't want to frighten you here, but you should read this quote from a former abortionist turned pro-life. This is when he was training... this is what it looks like, what you never see: : "I opened the sock up and I put it on the towel and there were parts in there of a person. I’d taken anatomy; I was a medical student. I knew what I was looking at. There was a little scapula and there was an arm, and I saw some ribs and a chest, and I saw a little tiny head, and I saw a piece of a leg, and I saw a tiny hand. ... I checked it out and there were two arms and two legs and one head, etc. It was pretty awful that first time... it was like somebody put a hot poker into me." (Dr. David Brewer, in training)
3.) Also, please know that raising a child is not easy but it is very possible. My sister's friend is 17 yrs old with TWO children and she's doing just fine. Sure, she's behind on school but she'll get there.

Children are gifts. I was afraid when I was pregnant, too... but let me tell you, my little boy is my BEST friend. It's hard to explain... you can't really. You just have to experience it.
If you are afraid, it's normal. Abortion is not the answer....
Please, you will be like my friend, regretting it everyday forever.
Have that baby and be brave! You'll be a wonderful mother! And that little baby will be your best friend one of these days.
Good luck.....

Answer 3

My first pregnancy was an ectopic that ruptured my tube. By the time they discovered it I was internally bleeding and going into shock. If they had not removed the baby and my tube I would have died. In the case of ectopic pregnancy there is no way to relocate the pregnancy, unfortunately, so it can be considered an abortion because the baby was removed from my body. It still haunts me and makes me very sad even 5 years and two healthy kids later. In my opinion this is the only reason for an abortion- If mom and baby will in fact BOTH die if the pregnancy is continued. Other than that MEDICAL reason I feel that abortion is unjustified murder. So unless you are dying don't tell me you have to get an abortion. If you feel an abortion is being forced upon you please find someone you can talk to, such as a crisis pregnancy center.

And the justification of it being "Your body" is a poor rationalization feminists make. It is another life and not yours to take!

Answer 4

I am pro-life, and I will not judge you for your choice.

But if you do have an abortion, be prepaired for the emotional scaring of what an abortion will do to you. The regret.

Also, the physical damage that an abortion does to a woman's body.

Women who have abortions run a higher risk of misccariage than women who have not had abortions because of scarring from the abortion.

Answer 5

Oh my god,why ppl here judge ppl,do u even know the person wh actually asked this question,just think if u were her at da moment,what would you do?im not saying abortion is good,but maybe she has to do it,for some reasons that you dont know,i mean.maybe she cant even have the baby cuz of her parents,or even other reasons.I have done it,cuz i couldnt have the baby.cuz i was going to college,how can u be pregnant,and at same time go to college?Well,first of all,u need to go 2 a good doctor,for him/her to do the procedure,and u dont need to be scared,cuz they r doctors and they know what to do,i had done it once,and for the first 2 days of the operation,u feel dizziness,but after u will be fine.they just shot u a medicine,which u cant feel a thing,but dont wait 2 long 2 do it,cuz it will be more difficult and painful,i did mine after 3 weeks of finding out i was pregnant.But again consider other opitions as well,dont be too hasty.Good luck

Answer 6

wow. How far along are you? Go get an ultrasound...it'll change your mind....if i knew you I'd bet that on a million bucks. Ain't no way after seeing an ultrasound anyone can abort a baby.

Hey, dont' want a baby. Get on BC and use condoms...or dont' have sex.

Answer 7

I have never had an abortion and personally won't ever have one. I have only known one person that had an abortion and it seemed to not affect her at all like it was nothing...she already had 1 kid, had an abortion, then had nother kid...but she doesn' take care of them which is very sad

Answer 8

I agree with the first poster; you don't HAVE to do anything. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE understand this; an abortion is NOT a quick fix to a "problem". You can end up with more problems than you went in with. It is cold and impersonal. You are rushed in and it is often all about the money for the procedure.

There is a real thing called post abortion stress syndrome. It is characterized by self punishing behaviors and could take a few years to surface. It really had a horrible effect on me for years before I even knew what it was.

Consider adoption. There are open adoptions where you could even help choose the parents. Abortion is not the only alternative.

Answer 9

You are going to terminate the pregnancy. Whatever the reason is that you have to ... make sure you are ok with it first! This is something that will haunt you forever. It will either be something you think back on a know you made the right choice or you will regret it and never fully heal.

You did not say why you had to so I can't help too much with that. All I can say is that its an invasive procedure ... and I imagine it hurts (although I am not sure to what degree).

If you have to than I hope everything works out for you! Hope this helped a little!

(oh and dont let the negative people on here get you down ... this is a touchy subject and everyone has an opinion!)

Answer 10

if u get an abortion thats u. Please dont come on yahoo' s pregnancy board wanting to know about abortion. I know that u said that "if we dont believe in abortions then good for us" (which i dont believe in them at all). Theres other ways to know about abortion. Go or call an abortion clinic they will tell u. Or look up websites to search for abortions. If ur scared then dont get one