There's a fundamental idea here that i'm missing. And I kinda wanted to some help if possible.
I watch a really good movie and i'm done with it. Maybe i can watch it again weeks/months/years later. But for the most part i'm done with it. It was good, i have a good memory of it but that's it.
My girlfriend seems to CLING to the past. Thing she liked when she was like 5 she's still into. And as far as movies, if it's a movie she likes she'll watch it 34781023 times. The same for music cd's. But they're all old and the novelty has worn out, because if she ever catches on to a movie or piece of music that came out this century, it's far too late, simply because she was too busy repeat experiencing all the other old stuff.
I don't really get it, but I don't just wanna chalk this up to incompatibility. It does cause problems though. And it's sorta annoying, i'm sure you can guess why.
2007-12-05 07:48:11 · 7 answers · asked by Gabriel B 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If I really, really like a movie, I can watch it over and over again. Believe it or not, I can always find something I missed in the prior times I watched it.
Same with a good song...if I really, truly like it, I can listen to it all day long.
It's not only women who do this, though...I've heard my son play the same CD repeatedly...and I've seen him watch a movie 4 times straight.
2007-12-05 08:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gabriel,
I'm with you to a certain extent. I've never understood why people purchase movies to watch repeatedly. If I see one I really love with great cinematography and really great acting, I will watch it twice, and it's amazing at times, the new details and nuisances I've missed the first time. Certain older movies like Out of Africa, A River Runs Through It, Tender Mercies, are favorites and I will watch again if I catch them on tv. I often watch Flix classics, too.
It seems your girlfriend is a little obsessive about this, but you seem like a lovely person, just sincerely trying to get a handle on this. I know many people who really do this, but
the only suggestion I can make is get this girl out of this house....take her ice skating, bowling, and out to a new movie. I sure hope this doesn't annoy you too much. You sound like a wonderful guy.
2007-12-05 16:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just gona guess but maybe she has ADD. now this isn't a bad thing in the right train of thought. it may show that no matter what you do she,ll still be with you, she likes to stick with the same ole thing, that could be you. so look for the silver lining to this cloud an enjoy the movie again an again an again he he he
2007-12-05 16:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by als been a dad 3 times 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd be better off chalking it up to just the way she is. It's the way she is, it's the way she is, it's the way she is. Nothing wrong with her, not bad, just the way she is. You aren't , and you aren't like that, and you aren't like that. Not bad, not wrong, just the way you are, just the way you are... :)
But you would also do better for your and her sake not to cut her down for loving to see and hear movies and cd's over and over. It's a common thing whether you enjoy doing that or not. It's one way the two of you differ.
2007-12-05 16:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by Holly Carmichael 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answerer StudiesOne took the words right out of my mouth!
do you know what it is? you guys are different.. you have different mentalities - don't get me wrong but she's probably a giddy, happy person who, when people say something like "remember that time...?" she's like "yea! aw, i wish i could go back" all she is is nostalgic and your way of looking back on things is, it happened, happened, let me move on.
just different mentalities, thats all.. no one is better than the other (except the kind of people that only see it there way... ><)
but hey, who said opposites dont attract?
2007-12-05 16:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by 19 year old girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she can relive the emotion of the movie and enjoy it each time as if it were the first.
You on the other hand feel you have been down that road.. and aren't able to relive that initial response and emotion as well.. therefor the movie is not nearly as exciting for you the next time through.
2007-12-05 15:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by pip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has a psycological problem letting go of the past in which i see where u r coming from ,try asking her out to other new adventures and see if it helps ,and if not she may be very depressed and dont know it
2007-12-05 15:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋