2007-12-05 07:44:06 · 23 answers · asked by mc o 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
there is no way i am sending my mum or dad to a home, if/when the day comes they need help it will be me and my sister who give them that help! they give up so much for us as kids i do not see the harm in us giving up a couple of months/years to look after them, even if that means them coming to live with me.
2007-12-05 07:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Izzy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's obvious by the previous answers that this can't be answered with a simple yes or no.
I really feel that it depends on each individual situation.
If the child has the time to care for the parent and is able & willing to do so,then they should be cared for in the comfort of their own home.
If the parents illness or disability is bad enough to warrant 24hour care,being in a home would probably be the best option,due to the professional care available.
Sometimes the family 'network' is not large enough to make caring at home practical and it is a difficult job if there is just one carer at home with a job & kids to look after as well.
I hope you make the right decision!
2007-12-05 08:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by jixer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on one hell of a lot doesn't it??
Depends on the ability of that old person, the relationship they've maintained with their offspring, the regard their offspring has of them, the finances of the parent and their offspring.
In general terms I would say no, but if that parent can't feed themselves, go to the loo, speak, hold a fork etc.. then probably a home, or a home nurse would be best.
My grandmother is being looked after by my mum in my mum's house, and neither of them would have it any other way. I hope I will be strong enough and brave enough to give the same support to my mum when the time comes. It's tough, but that's life isn't it.
Do what you think is best for everyone.
2007-12-05 07:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I would never send my parents to a home, but at the same time I can't condemn others for doing so, I have no way of knowing their circumstances. In some cases their old folk are better off in a home.
2007-12-05 07:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a support care worker. And no, it is not good to be placed in a care home. As for the person going in the change in environment can be very monumental. It would be much better if the elderly person remained in the comfort of their own home and had outside help come in and see that they had everything they required and got the attention that they deserved.
2007-12-05 19:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took care of my grandmother and parents 24-7 for many years. It became a real hardship on me. I started looking for a home for them and found their really wasn't any good ones out here. Way to much abuse for me. They have passed I am not sorry. I believe it depends on the relationship you have with them and the willingness and the PATIENCE you have. It is a 24 hour job and can be very straining. It is a personal decision.
2007-12-07 06:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by eaglewoman57 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, a nursing home should be the last resort.
If your parents are unable to care for themselves, do they have the finances or insurance coverage to afford a home health aide? Do their health problems require constant attention, or do they simply need a little help?
Are you financially and mentally able to support them in your home?
If they require 24 hour care, and you are unable or unwilling to provide that, then yes, place them in a REPUTABLE nursing home. Check the place out first. You don't want them to be stuck in a home that neglects them.
2007-12-05 07:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could never send my mum to an old folks home. She's looked after me all my life and she deserves to be looked after too. Thats me personally though, alot of people are better taken care of there than with anyone else.
2007-12-05 07:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy Diamond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on the individual situation. Anyone at any age who can't take care of themselves will probably need assistance in some way.
2007-12-05 07:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by dumb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've ever spent any period of time in one you wouldn't want to "send" your parents there. It would put you off for life.
Having worked in one for 2 years both residential and dementia. Seeing how members of staff treat residents, lack of activities and general life in some of these places is just a really sad sight and I would hate for someone I love to go in one, unless there was no other option!! At all!!
2007-12-05 07:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by jlaura103 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋