and now there is a baby thats involved... he says he loves me and he wants to be with me but he feels he has to stay with her to be a good dad WTF should i do?!!?
2007-12-05 07:40:22 · 18 answers · asked by fina87 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should understand that while he says he loves you, it wasn't enough for him to keep it in his pants. What's done is done. All you can do now is move on without him and be glad he is someone else's problem now.
2007-12-05 07:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are no children between the two of you .... RUN RUN RUN.... just move on with your life.
I have a very good friend that was seeing a man that had a wife and a child. My friend got pregnant. The man was telling his wife he had to keep talking to her because he wanted to do the right thing and he was telling my friend he cant leave his wife because of the child. now 5 years later, my friend has 2 children by this man. He still with wife and seeing my friend.
So I say again run while you can no good can come out of this.
2007-12-05 08:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by ladyluckisme2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could tell you the logical thing to do is let the loser go. but sometimes that is easier said than done. my ex and i were in the same situation (she was my friend) . i kept pushing him away and he ended up marrying her. their daughter is so beautiful. but here i am still madly in love with him 6 years later. we sneak around and meet. his brother is married to my cousin and we use them as an excuse for us to accidently see each other. there is just something about him that i can not resist. he is my little secret. i feel bad for not what we are doing to his wife but for what we are doing to his daughter. his wife threatens him with his daughter. by the way we were together 5 years before we broke up. and his wife was previously married to a good friend of mine.
the reality is he wants a family life (with her and the baby) and he wants a whole different life with you. But if you truely love him do not let him go without a fight. show him you can be the better woman. remember that dating a man with a child comes in a packaged deal. the child comes first. but do not mistake the child from the baby's momma. trust me she will try to manipulate and make you look like the evil one.
2007-12-05 08:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by adk_in_ar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just made his own bed so to say. You will be glad later that fate just stepped in. Sorry for your heart but this is a no brain-er. You must move on. If you did try to work it out the other woman will always be in your lives and you will not trust him with her ever. I'm talking about the next 50 years honey.
2007-12-05 07:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by ADC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't believe all that crap he's telling you do you??? You should thank your lucky stars he's an EX and not a husband! Time for YOU to move on and find a quality guy. He's a daddy now.
2007-12-05 10:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, he doesn't have to be with the mom to be a good dad, but this man has alot of issues going on and I am afraid that your relationship will be put on the back burner...
2007-12-05 07:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he feels the same way in 18 years to call you up. In the meantime, he has a child to raise.
2007-12-05 07:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made his choice. He is staying with her.
Go out and visit happy hours between 5pm -8pm and find someone else.
2007-12-05 07:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like things worked out for themselves, huh. get out of there, get over him, and get on with your life (easier said than done, i know, but do it!!!) all that man is doing is literally screwing up his life and trying to take down as many as possible with him. i feel sorry for the child for having to be fathered by a man like that!
2007-12-05 07:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget the ex.
2007-12-05 07:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋