anything i do..even if its correct she has the balls to criticise me ... and wehn my sil.. her younger dil.. demands food on bed cos she had a NORMAL delivery ...and has trouble walking in house..mil is ok with that ,
iv been married 8 years but i have not much say .
if i go to holiday and i WANT my kids to be with my mom im having a hard time thinking how to convince them???
2007-12-05 07:39:47 · 3 answers · asked by barley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know, families are funny. Some folks (mothers) can't see the shortcomings of their children but every one else's is a huge problem.
I think your first step is to stop taking these people so seriously. So your sil is a spoiled brat demanding breakfast in bed? So what? Who cares? I don't mean it may not be annoying but really.
To answer your question, you are never going to convince them of anything. If you want to be with your mom during the holidays, do that. Don't explain other than to say (when asked), you've made your plans and that's what you and your children are doing.
The more you ask permission of others, the more you give them the power to say "No." Even if you live in the same house with these people (and I hope you don't), you, your husband and children are a unit and that's what comes first.
I get the impression you've been trying very hard to be accepted by these people. Maybe they will, maybe they won't but please don't let it affect your mood or feelings one way or the other. Be polite, be respectful but honey, live your own life. Do what you think is best for you, your hubby and your babies.
2007-12-06 00:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by CGordo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are an adult and if you want to have your children spend a Christmas with your mother that is your decision. You do not need to convince them, tell them. The next time she is out of line call her on it. She will only treat you how you allow her to treat you. Tell her that you don't know why she thinks that she can be rude to you but she cannot and you will not take it any longer. Tell her also that respect is a two way street and she has to respect you also. She picks on you because she has been able to. It might feel funny at first telling her this but she will stop if she knows you will not take it. What does your husband do?
2007-12-05 08:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your husband won't stand up for you, there's not alot you can do.
If you had married a MAN, he would stand up for you to his mother and tell her to either respect you or get out of his house!!!
2007-12-05 08:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by serene e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋