There's this one guy, his really nice but he's annoying. He sits with me during our 20 minute break, in between classes, and talks to me all through last hour, and sometimes even at lunch. How do I tell him that I would rather just sit with my friends at lunch and break without being mean or too harsh?
2007-12-05 07:29:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He sits with my friends and I, he just joined in one day.
2007-12-05 07:41:44 · update #1
Well don't we really hate these kind of guys? Anyway, ask him if you can tell him something without hurting his feelings? Or say something like.... "We have been friends and are comfortable enough with each other to be honest......." and tell him you need some alone time and your friends are wanting to spend time with you too.
He also sounds a little creepy. Make sure you do this soon. You never can tell. Good luck
2007-12-05 07:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure when you sit down there is no extra available space for him to squeeze in. As for last hour can you change your seat & sit were there are no empty seats anywhere around you?
Try taking your break some place else if at all possible, some where that he doesn't know you will go. I think after a while he will get the hint & you won't have to say a word & hurt his feelings.
2007-12-05 15:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look him in the eyes and tell him, bluntly or gently - your choice, that you are flattered by the fact that he finds you attractive enough to want to be close, but you're not interested in him.
If he's simply picked-up a habit of flopping down next to you at lunch and break, pointedly indicate to him that that kind of rudeness you don't like.
From his behaviour, it sounds like he's either staked a claim on you, or has glommed onto you in an attempt to improve his social standing in school.
If he doesn't take the hint, you will have to come right out and tell him that if he continues to try to monopolise your time, you will have to report him for harassment.
In any case, good luck, and remember that being nice diesn't mean being a door mat! Stand-up for yourself!
2007-12-05 15:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already sitting with your friends and he's just joining you, then start paying more attention to them, less and less as the days go by, and hopefully he'll get the point.
If you arent sitting with your friends because hes taking up your time, do whatever you have to do to sit with them, and then do what I said first.
That's a take on it, and good luck!
2007-12-05 15:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to say something to him. What my girlfriends and I used to do in bars or when we were younger is just politely say, "I'm sorry, but my girlfriend really needs to discuss some personal things with me." This way, he'll know he's not invited and yet you won't be rude. Do that enough times and he'll get the picture. You may, at some point, though have to say too that you just really look forwarding to sharing your break with your girlfriends because it's really the one time you can connect with them.
2007-12-05 15:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there is no way to not be mean or too harsh.
You need to retake your own time and space. This is likely going to hurt him a little, regardless of how you approach it. He digs you, and it's going to hurt to realize that you don't dig him too.
However, the sooner you do it the better. The longer this goes on, the more hope he will have and the more it will hurt when he discovers this isn't going to go where he ultimately wants it to.
2007-12-05 15:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by 92BuickLeSabre 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just be mean and harsh, otherwise he'll never get it. even then he might not get the picture. Guys are incredibly thick headed wen it comes to girls, and quite frankly usually very stupid, take it from a guy lol
2007-12-05 15:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by MAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if you can have some money each time he sits with you. not alot of money, just a few bucks each time. dont tell him what you want it for, and if he refuses, pretend to be upset and go sit with your friends. it may take a while to drive him away, but youll profit from it!
2007-12-05 15:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Wesley H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start to act like you are rushed say Hi how are you today ?
then say oh my god i got to sit with my friend today she's wait ting see you soon always looked rushed like you got to go or be somewhere...in a few days he will be used to your new rushed schedule
2007-12-05 15:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by Hulagirl96734 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him like this "hey, I'm going to sit with my friends today, they have something they would like to tell me privately, I'll catch up with you later." if he doesn't get the hint, and you dont mind loosing him as a friend, then just start to ingore him.
2007-12-05 15:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋