alimony from my ex! Is is selfish of me to stay single?
2007-12-05 07:17:39 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No...
why marry at all. If it aint broken why fix it. (cliche but it's true)
2007-12-05 07:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No I don't think that is selfish I think it's smart. I am divorced now for two years and will get alimony for the rest of my life as long as I don't re-marry. I haven't been in a relationship where it has become an issue but my ex knows I'm not ever planning on remarrying even though he keeps telling me I should when we talk lol. He and I both joke about why I'm not going to and he says he is going to set me up with some really really rich man lol. Wouldn't matter though, I was married for over 20 years and have the mentality of been there done that.
2007-12-05 07:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your new guy sounds like a keeper. He wants to marry you inspite of the doe he might get to take advantage of if you guys just stay boyfriend and girlfriend and you get alimony. But, yeah. A little selfish.
2007-12-05 07:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IS your alimony indeffinate to begin with? Most states will only award indeffinate alimony to "displaced"spouses who are totally disabled. Besides your ex can petition the court to cease alimony at any point, especially if you have a new "love interest". I suggest you get a job and learn how to support yourself, that alminoy isn't going to be there forever.
2007-12-05 11:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How "new" is he? It's not selfish of you to stay single. If you loved him enough to marry him than to heck with the alimony, but clearly you don't feel that way. And if he's "new", marriage shouldn't even be an issue yet.
2007-12-05 07:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by AJ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
situation the ultimatum... exceptionally if the organic and organic clock is ticking. you have spent this plenty time with him... your coronary heart is genuine. Is he demanding approximately dropping his freedom? After 12 years it may take a divorce to get your workplace work separated... extremely in case you very own components mutually (and are the two on the deed). How approximately having somebody waiting to make judgements for him if he gets into an twist of fate and can't confer with the docs interior the emergency room? ordinary regulation spouses won't be in a position to try this for him! he's constrained to blood kin in basic terms at that factor. He the two loves you or he does not at this factor. Why not do the civil ceremony on the county courthouse and then carry a outstanding little cake and punch reception on the homestead for pals and relatives? Sleep in yet another room till he's prepared to barter. that is pay-to-play time. If he nevertheless won't do it, you rather want to re-examine this relationship.
2016-12-17 08:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Selfish - Yes, absolutely. You should not even have to ask this question.
Smart - Hell yes. Why would you voluntarily cut off a source of income?
This is why the system needs to change. It encourages divorce and the disintegration of the family as a means to produce income. When you pay for a behavior, you increase the behavior. Simple Pavlovian response.
2007-12-05 07:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I saw this on "As the World Turns" last time I was on night shift. It ended up with the EX getting in a bad car accident and not remembering to cash the check.
2007-12-05 07:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by bootsontheroad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to prolong any contact with your ex? Even if it is just about the money, he is an ex for a reason. Let it go and get on with life.
Or do you still have a secret hankering after the ex? Don't wanna break the contact? If so, that's unfair on your current partner.
2007-12-05 07:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. You really do not love your new partner if alimony is more important. So, it is best not to marry him.
2007-12-05 07:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wants to marry u, but
Do U LOVE HIM?
if u do yes ur selfish lol i would think the same way though
marriage is a huge step maybe is not that ur selfish u just don't want to considerate for now.
2007-12-05 07:23:36 · answer #11 · answered by *~cALI gUrL~* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋