Ok what do you think about this......?

Question

Alright my cousin is only 16. She recently had a beautiful baby boy in July. She got pregnant when she was 14 yrs old by a man who is now 38. (SERIOUSLY) All my cousin does is smoke trees, drink, hang out and have sex all the time w/ the 38 yr old in my Grandmothers house. This man climbs up a ladder in the back of the house to get into my cousins room. Neither my cousin nor her baby daddy take care of their child my grandmother who is 74 w/diabetes and kidney failure does. Whenever my cousin has the baby (on days my grandmother does to dialysis 3 days out of the week) he has bruises and cuts like shes abusing him. What can I do (not being her legal guardian)about this whole situation?

P.S My cousins mother and father aren't in her life.

I have already tried talking to her many times before when she was 13 this is when she started getting out of control, staying out late, smoking, drinking and just hanging with the wrong crowd. I was trying to tell my grandmother to put her in some kind of program then and she didnt so things just kept getting worse. We are religious people and we pray for her all the time and seems like its not working. I would hate to take the baby from her and he ends up in a situation that is ten times worse. So I have considered taking him as my own. But I'm 22 yrs old, married, in school, I already have a 1 1/2 yr old and struggling to live myself and I just dont know what to do.

Answer 1

Wow! This is very serious. I take it that the grandmother is too old to even do anything about the 38 year old sneaking into her granddaughter's bedroom??? Have you tried to have a conversation with your cousin? If you haven't, maybe try to. The important thing is that when you do, you do it in a loving caring, and uplifting manner. Do not accuse her of anything, but let her know that you are trying to help her out of love. She is only 16 and she has such a fantastic life ahead of her. Help her to see a promising future with promising changes that she needs to make right now. If you both are in school, I would like to suggest that you take this to a school counselor to receive their input, as well. Maybe actually loving this baby enough would mean putting it up for adoption. Is it possible for you to talk to your cousin and then you both talk to your grandmother? She needs help. She is a child and this pervert is taking advantage of her. That is illegal and he can go to jail for it. Someone must step in and intervene before your cousins life is flushed down the drain for good. Like I said, she has a promising future and is still young. It is important that she receives positive guidance right now. I know you will think I am a religious nut, but I honestly think you should find a local Jesus teaching, bible based church. Make sure they have a youth group for teens. Their youth minister and adults at the church will be able to help you through this. Maybe, you can get your cousin to join you in time. This is such a sad situation. I will keep both you and your family in my prayers. Just remember that we are coming into the Christmas season. This is the time that we celebrate the birth of Jesus. He is God. When my life feels hopeless, I cry out to Him to help. He always does. I promise He can help you in your situation, too! While He lived here on earth, He told His followers that if we simply ask for anything in the name of Jesus, and it is going to bring God the attention, He will answer your request. Ask Him, don't be shy.

Answer 2

You should report it to child services. If a family member can take the child they do sometimes let it depending on the state. If you really think the child is being abused you need to report it so nothing serious happen to him. Obvisouly she is not a fit mother for the fact she can't even make responsible life decisions like being 16 and dating a 38 year old, drinking underage, and forcing a 74 year old to take care of a baby who is in poor health. Police might charge the man with rape of a minor but usually it has to be the guardian. You need to do that too to get him away from her because he isn't very mentally there either if he thinks its okay to be with a 16 year old. Get the poor kid away from these people before he gets older and is really emotionally messed up from all of it. The first 18 months are also critical to a childs development and if he is being neglected or abused all the time he is going to have issues later in life.

Answer 3

Call social services! I'm a teen father and I KNOW this is just wrong! You're cousin's BF needs to go to jail and ur cousin needs counselling and rehab! Also she needs to know that THIS was her mistake and she HAS to accept the consequences! When that's taken care of find someone else to care for the baby. Maybe you'll do, because your grandmother is in NO shape to care for the child.

Answer 4

You need to do something before this child gets killed. You have the responsibility to call dfs and get this reported. Obviously this girl cannot take care of this baby and somebody needs to. Is there anyone in your family responsible enough to do this? DFS would rather place the baby with family than to put him in foster care. Even if that happens, it is better than what is going on now. Maybe getting her baby taken away will wake her up. And if not, she doesn't deserve to be a mother anyway. You have to think of the baby.

Answer 5

Technically this guy could be prosecuted for having sex with a minor, but this is unlikely, unfortunately. Have you spent time with your cousin while she's got the baby? If you're really worried, I hate to say it but that's what Social Services are for. They might even be able to help with the rest of the issues.

Answer 6

I'm not sure how old you are or whether or not you want to be the legal gardian but I would have to say that you should call child protective services. I know it will be the hardest thing you'll ever do but you need to put the needs of the child in front of the protection of your cousin.

Answer 7

You can contact cps, the health department,anyone can help you out someone that you trust in your community could help you out. You could do it all without her finding out.It's better to do something now then wait. If you wait the child could end up badly hurt or mabey worse.I know it sucks I would hate being in the situation...But for god sake grow up and take care of your child... ya know.Better safe than sorry. I Hope everything goes well. Sorry!!!

Answer 8

you need to call child protective services on her. i swear to it that you do. try to get a little proof frist, but if you can not then you still need to call, that poor baby does not need to be in that situation. does the grandmother know or think anything like that is going on? why does the grandmother allow that creap to be in her house? anyways you need to call, or when you know that they have drugs in the house call the police, then cps will get involved. do the right thing, and do whatever you have to to get that baby away from there.please!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

you can contact child services in your area and let them know your concerns regarding the situation. you can also let them know her age and his age and something can be done about that too. cause he's old enough to be her dad, and maybe you can take care of the child and have full custody if you're qualified. As to the child having bruises it can be from possible child abuse or negligence.

Answer 10

I'd call CPS and have the baby taken away. I would also call the police next time that child molester is around and have him arrested. If DNA proves he's the father he can be sent to prison for stat. rape.