Me is 3 months old, I know its my fault, cos I cuddled him to sleep a lot during the day, but now he wont goto sleep without me. I have tried putting him in his cot, he just screams and screams. If I put him in his bouncy chair, he just stares about until he is so tired he is hysterical. It would be so nice just to be able to put him down somewhere when he is tired and for him to go to sleep, lol.
He will sleep when out in his buggy, but I dont really want to take him out 3 times a day!
2007-12-05 06:59:14 · 24 answers · asked by Raych-S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I had to do this with my daughter. She had to learn that we weren't coming, and after about a week, she stopped, and was fine. It's actually harder on the parent, and you MUST resist going in to comfort him! He'll learn after a short time, and you'll be a lot happier then. And he won't remember and grow up resenting you...
2007-12-05 07:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
My son was the same way...he slept longer periods at night, but NO naps during the day. I would lay down on my bed with him and he might fall asleep, but only an hour MAX.
Right around 5 months, I just said..enough...and I put him to bed for nap time in his crib. He cried a bit, I checked on him and held his hand...and eventually he did it all by himself. He takes one nap a day at 18 months old...stopped his 2 naps around 12 months old.
Everyonce in a while he'll fuss for a good long time about a nap..but he's much better than he was.
Just keep checking on him, talk to him from the other room and let him know you are nearby...but dont pick him up. Just get him to realize you dont need to be there, but you are there if you need him.
Takes a while, but it will work eventually.
2007-12-05 07:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by GayLF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem with cuddling him to sleep?
It may seem like a "bad habit" right now. What bollocks. In a dozen years when your son is embarrassed to hug you, you'll cherish every minute of cuddling you managed to get in now.
Cuddling is GOOD for babies -- it's not just a nice thing to do, but absolutely vital for normal development.
Please do not 'let him cry it out.' Here's a good summary of the research on that:
http://www.talaris.org/pdf/research/CIOPoster.pdf
How sad that that's what people think you should do. You cuddled him 24/7 for nine-plus months; there is nothing wrong with continuing to do so.
(And if you have stuff that REALLY needs to get done, pop him in a sling or carrier!)
2007-12-05 08:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was like this, and it drove me crazy! It seemed I was spending all day on the sofa cuddling him! I started off taking him out everytime it was nap time, so he got used to falling asleep not in my arms the I used controlled crying (leave him for five minutes... go to him, calm him, put him back down, leave him for six minutes... etc).
It worked for me and he's 10 months now and great at taking naps - if fact, it's hard to get him to sleep anyway apart from his cot!
Also, I would suggest that you get him in a routine - try to put him down at the same time everyday, even if it means staying in for a while.
Try putting him down before he gets tired. Remember, at his age if he's been awake two hours, he's probably overtired. So if he gets up at 7am, put him back down at 8.30am - even if he seems happy and wide awake.
Finally, as an encouragement, what really helped my son was when I visited my sister-in-law. She has a big house with three kids, so when I put him down I couldn't hear him cry and just left him. I don't know how long he cried for, but he did get to sleep!
Remember, he'll be happier and more settled if he gets the sleep he needs. If he's just overtired, it's not cruel to let him cry, unless he's completely lost it.
2007-12-05 07:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by Purple_ giraffe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 07:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son does the same thing. hes almost 5 months. I told myself this. When hes ready he will fall asleep when hes tired ~ and since then he has done it once. However, until then I am gonna enjoy cuddling probably the only baby I will have. What will you remember when he is 16 and embarrassed to be seen with you, that he went to sleep alone or that you spent quality cuddle time?
Don't worry, it will come!
2007-12-05 07:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have one get him a swing. The gentle motion will help soothe and it's just fine for him to nap in it. When I put my son in his swing when he's tired and turn on some music he's out within minutes, and as long as the swing keeps going he'll stay asleep for an hour or so.
2007-12-05 07:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by Dani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read that if he's got a favourite blanket put it into bed with you for a couple of day's so the blanket gets your body scent on it that way it will keep him calm coz he will think he is with you, or do what we done buy a disco ball and put the mobile on, our 6 month old loves watching the lights float round the room, it soon sends him off to sleep. I hope this helps
2007-12-05 07:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by sthkingprawn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is still pretty young to expect too much. If you know he is super tired and he's just fighting it, just let him cry. He will fall asleep. Some babies need to cry in order to fall asleep alone. Mine was exactly like that. At that age, he mostly slept in his bouncy seat. Be patient. My baby is 8 months old and just started napping without help.
2007-12-05 07:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Carimel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son is like this too and yes it's my fault but I rock him to sleep and when he's out I lay him down. Thats the only thing I can suggest unless get a sling and wrap him in it and let him fall asleep that way.
2007-12-05 07:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by ღStarzzღ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋