am so mad at my bf because he always cancels his plans on me last minutes before letting me know...so that I could not make any other plans because it's already always late...it has happen in the past many times and I ignored it and tried to dont make a big deal out of it....Im a kind of person who sticks in her plans..values her time and very organized..I got mad because he is too inconsiderate and doesn;t respect my time that I planed to be with him already..(Im not talking bout emergeny times I definitly understand that situation ) But canceling for bullshit reasons pisses me off. I feel so angry and unhappy because this attitude is to immature...That makes me feel unimportant and so that..I was so mad at him and didnt answer his calls..untill now..so I dont know what to do...Im still so mad and also want him come and apologize for what he has done..need some help to calm myself down and some advice how to talk to him to get the best result out of it without hurting his feelings..
2007-12-05 06:51:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Excuse typing errors..Im nervous right now.
2007-12-05 07:09:49 · update #1
looks like that you are the mature adult in this situation, and that is good, you know that time waits for no one, and you have to let your BF know that , you made plans to be with him, he needs to respect that if he really cherishes you, except emergencies of course, but bullshit reasons? you have put up with it far too long,
Tell him how you really feel and if he doesn't feel that you are his gem , rather than BS items, then he might not be the one for you.
Good Luck
2007-12-05 06:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by newingtonnewington 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... technically since you've never told him how you feel on this he hasn't done anything wrong... just as you are an organized person he is a disorganized person who likes spontaneity... that is probably just as important to him as your organization is to you. So you just need to sit down, talk to him and tell him pretty much what you have said here so that he actually knows and doesn't have to guess what the problem is. Then you both need to try and accommodate the others needs.. for that is the essence of what a relationship is.
again though.. if you've never told him.. then you have no reason to be mad at him.. he's not a mind reader. So just sit down and be honest.. we men usually respect that and are actually relieved to know exactly what's going on. Then if he still doesn't at least try to be more reliable it's on him.
2007-12-05 14:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take some time.It helps to sometimes think before you speak,that way you can kinda second think things before they roll of your tongue,if he makes you this angry maybe you need to confront him about this issue one more time and see what he has to say for himself,maybe to you it seems as if he's doing it being selfish or for selfish reasons,but maybe he don't see it that way.You kno we as ladies really hold and take things to heart.Men don't.Just be easy and tell him without cursing or yelling.
2007-12-05 15:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breathe. Try to feel sound within, "call tranquility over''.Be at peace with yourself and your environment.
Analysize and re-consider the situation.
Truth is, as Humans are are bound to fall short somewhere.
It's okay ...
Easy.Things would work out.
''Love''
2007-12-05 15:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by ill zee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'fair exchange has never been robbery' ........ you are subjecting yourself to the 'doormat' principle and unless you are masochistic ..... you should always have a plan B in effect..... however unless there is some legitimate reason that you allow yourself to be treated with so much disregard ..... this 'bf' would be at the back of the line!!!
2007-12-05 14:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by hecate669isis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Goosfrabba.
2007-12-05 14:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Wise Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about your future, dump the sucker now and save yourself a lot of pain and hassles. Surely there is something going on that you are not aware of.
Cut your loses and move on!!
2007-12-05 14:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a punching bag....and no not your bf.....but if he asks what it is for tell him and don't be afraid to hold back, tell him what you feel.whether he asks or not!you have feelings and you deserve to be treated the way you want.....would he like it if you did that to him?
2007-12-05 14:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by spoilt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hit someone in the face who does not deserve it.
2007-12-05 14:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by Φ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think he will change. Fat chance.
Put up with it or get a new boy friend.
2007-12-05 14:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by Fred F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋