I am so mad at my bf because he always cancels his plans on me last minutes before letting me know...so that I could not make any other plans because it's already always late...it has happen in past many times and I ignored it and tried to dont make a big deal out of it....Im a kind of person who sticks in her tplans..values her time very organized..I got mad because he is too inconsiderate and doent respect my time that I planed to be with him already..(Im not talking bout emergeny times I definitly understand that situation ) But canceling for bullshit reasons pisses me off. I feel so angry and unhappy because this attitude is to immature...That makes me feel unimportant and so that..I was so mad at him and didnt answer his calls..untill now..so I dont know what to do...Im still so mad and also want him come and apologize for what he has done..need some help to calm myself down and some advice how to talk to him to get the best result out of it without hurting his feelings.
2007-12-05 06:48:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have all the right to be upset. Either he is cheating, doesn't want to be with you in public, doesn't have any money or just down right inconsiderate. When you calm down you need to talk to him like an adult. Don't tell him what to do ask him. The next time he does it which he will then you ignore him for a few days. That will get his attention. It's amazing when you're nice he takes you for granted but when you're mean he wants to be your best friend. Put your foot down and keep it down. You deserve respect and he will give it to you if he cares about you.
2007-12-05 06:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by KSR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It Sounds Like You Need To Sit Him Down And Tell Him Everything That You Wrote Down And Told Us, If He Gets Mad Then You Need To Decide If Staying Together Is Worth The Feeling That You Are Having Or If Being Friends Is Better.
2007-12-05 14:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by aprincessand2froggies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your personalities sound way different, like he is more casual about his time and you are set to a different, rigid schedule. I think if you acknowledge how different you are, you might relax a bit. It sounds like he's backing off sometimes, not answering his phone cuz he is trying to keep his man space. Sometimes the more chics cling, the more men back away. Give him a little time. Let your phone ring if you must, and it will take willpower not to bug him too much, but he'll probly miss ya enough to finally get a hold of you... And if he doesn't, then he's so not worth it. Be a little silent with him, as he probly should know you're upset a little, but don't yell at him to apologize or anything. Let him figure it up on his own.
2007-12-05 14:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you are still thinking about his feelings when he obviously does not care about yours. He clearly does not take you or this relationship as a priority. Sorry girl, I'm not trying to hurt you. I'm only telling you the truth. Plans made with you is just an option to him. That's why if anything else comes up he feels free to change it. It's time to break it off.
2007-12-05 14:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even have to finish reading your question! This is what is so great about dating--you have no obligations. If you are the type of woman who plans ahead and sticks to her plans, then this man is not for you. You sound pretty level headed and this seems to be rocking your boat. Tell him to stop cancelling. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to the friends/family you may be going out with for a good time. It's time to seek out a man who values your time as much as his own and is mature enough to stick to the fairness of dating. Be calm, be firm, and if you get any slack, kick his butt to the curb! Good luck, honey!
2007-12-05 14:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him and ultimatum on this one and set an example in the meantime...Friends and relationships dont work unless they are mutual and come second. There is an order in the mind and spirit that must be met. #1 self/spiritual/God love#2 relational/sharing love if you are not abiding by this you will not only be un successful in your goals you will be frustrated ANGRY and SAD
2007-12-05 14:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by WoRDWiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is for certain. Immature guy need to have their feeling hurt before they learn. Is like, don't play with fire or else you will get burn. At some point in life we are taught that but still play with fire until we get burn.
So you just need to slap him in the face hard about what he did to you is wrong. Period. Immature guy just need to learn it from the hard way.
2007-12-05 15:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think if you married him??? This is only the beginning> Think it over do you deserve more respect>>>There is no excuse for being disrespectful>Your call stay and except him as they don't change for the better>Good luck>
2007-12-05 15:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him how you feel is the best thing you can do. If not, then all you are doing is wasting your time. You know how important time can be, so be honest and communicate your feelings to them. If nothing changes, then find someone else who appreciates your time.
2007-12-05 14:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by low1sk8er 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Helloooooo, HE IS CHEATING ON YOU... It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure this one out... I bet every time you guys do hook up, you have sex right? Well, that's what he has you for, you are not his main girl.. I know that sounds harsh, but that's just the way it is.. Move on with your life unless you don't mind being #2 or #3...
2007-12-05 14:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by veronicasvc 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋