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Question

I've been with my husband for 2 1/2 yrs, married 15 months. He works fulltime and I'm a college student. A month ago, we moved fifty miles to be closer to his son (from city to rural area); and I'm still unhappy- we both said we needed a house, but I don't drive, and I sit around a house until he gets home- sometimes I want to tell him we've made a mistake, because we moved so he and his son could be closer, I see my daughter even less, had to get rid of my pets, at least in the city I could go out, get around-- here I am totally reliant on him? Is it just shock of the move, I keep thinking I can find a at home job, but I'm tired of mood swings from tears to unhappy to contentness all in a day

Answer 1

I'm so sorry. Moving away from everything you ever knew really can stress you out and upset you. You will get better over time, it just takes awhile to adjust. Find things to keep you busy at home, cleaning, baking, knitting, decorating the house etc...good luck and remember we're always here if you need someone to talk to! xoxo

Answer 2

The only way to get over this is to beome social. If that means, takinga break when he gets home and leaving the house for a while. Telling him that you plan on seeing your daughter this weekend, or two weeks from now or whenever. Let him know you are unhappy, but remember that this was also your decision. If it wasn't, and you were forced to move because you felt like you had no other choice, etc, you felt trapped, abused, manipulated, then it's time you leave. If you can't be happy alone, then you will never be truly happy. Sometimes we need this quiet time to reflect and set future goals. I'm sure if it's friends you want and need, your husband will be happy to take you guys out for something social. It was a bad idea to move just because he wanted to be closer to his son and I hope both of you considered the fact that would be further away from your daughter. You have to fix this yourself, honey. But don't be the victim. Stand up, be firm, and if he laughs at you or tells you he's silly, then maybe you need to reconsider the marriage. Good luck!

Answer 3

Judging by your "mood swings" from unhappiness to being content, I'd say that it has very little to do with your marraige, and more to do with YOU.

Anyone can make a marraige a happy one. Even those who have made a mistake in getting married, or saying they married for all the wrong reasons. Remember, you can always stay together for the right reasons.

Look, it's up to you, not your husband, or your ex-pets, to make your marraige a happy one. A concern arises as to what you are going to college for.

Also, it is very commendable that a father desires to reconnect their children, and of all people YOU should be the one to be his biggest supporter and encourager. You can do a right action with a wrong attitude and spirit, and make things very hard on your spouse too.

As well, make sure you're not striking back at him from resentment in the heart because of the move. You'll only sabatage your marriage.

It sounds like both of you need some marraige counseling, and need to realize that his son, and your daughter are NOT the focus of each other. Also, you're emotional up and down is something to conern about. Why?

It appears that you both are loosing the original focus: your marriage.

Make it work.

Answer 4

I hope your not one of those mothers that is not raising there little girl? Well let me tell you how I feel. You should go get your drivers license. Be happy that you are not like I am and disabled to the point of not being able to drive! I live in a brand new home out in the middle of no mans land. My husband and I just moved after living in a small village where the neighbors were all family and I had grown up there all of my 44 years of life. Get over the sob story and do get you an on line business going. Just give it time and you will be addicted to this web site. LOL Life is short and we only get out of it what we put into it. Sounds like your dwelling on the negative aspects a little too much. You should have brought your daughter along with you unless she is of age to live on her own. Make the best of what you have and be happy for it. I wish I could just walk good.

Answer 5

Why did you agree on moving there then? You made a decision, now you have to try to make the best of it.

Get some driving lessons and learn how to drive. Buy a cheap old car and stop depending on your husband. Get to know your neighbors, go to events, so you can make friends and won't feel so lonely anymore. If you are bored, get a part-time job, so you can have some money on the side.

And mostly, stand up for yourself!! Don't do anything that makes you unhappy. It's time to talk to your husband and live on compromises.

Answer 6

Brandee,,this is the perfect opportunity for you to work on you. To start creating some goals. I wish that was my situation. This is how I would handle it. I would get online an join a class. I would take a hands on hobby. I would redecorate the house. I would read a very good book. The list can go on and on. But don't feel that you are worthless. Don't let fustration and sadness get a hold of you. You are awesome, you deserve to be happy. A city will not make you happy,,,you will. Take a hold of yourself,,,,focus,,,

Answer 7

well for one did he take it in for consideration for your daughter??? or did he just say he wanted to move so he could be closer to his son, if it was a selfish idea then tell him the truth, just sitting back and not telling him that you feel its a mistake, he might end up thinking that all his decitions are the better ones for the both of you, and then if that isnt what you wanna do then atleast tell him that you would like to work somthing out so that you can see your daughter, and if you too really care for each-other then you will meet half way and you too should understand your others position.

Answer 8

I cant believe you would get rid of your pets and move to a place where you dont get to see your daughter and give up everything for your husband and his son. I cant believe he would expect you to agree to something like this. are you kidding me...my pets are our life, yeah our children are our lives but you have to have the hapiness of pets. you have nothing to keep you busy. you wont be busy working at home either. you need to read your question and answer it yourself. i think you know what the answer is. if you are unhappy in your relationship soon there will be no relationship. does he know how unhappy you are? if he doesn't you need to tell him cos it isnt fair for you not to. maybe he is unhappy and he doesn't want to tell you. open your mouth girl speak up now!!!!

Answer 9

I WENT THROUGH THIS! You are currently in a rut. The good news is that you can get out. You depend on all the wrong things for entertainment...You have a break...This card you have been dealt means that it is time to do some soul searching. Get this book...NY times best seller-The Purpose Driven Life....In the meantime practice patience and set examples..Women set the bar for the family. Get organized and Confident now...You will only get sicker and you will end up taking others down with you ! Is that what you want? PRIORITIES WOMAN!

Answer 10

Sounds like you need to get your license, or if unable, find a way to meet friends. You are relying on him too much and need to find your own life fullfillments. Living rural can be super great. I love taking my own personal time to walk a trail or go bird watching, and collect odd things I find. Get a hobby, go to work. I find it rather odd though that you would consider dissolving a marriage for. What is Really wrong here? You might want to dig deeper and find the real root.