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I am 14 and all of my friends have done it but is it too soon? I want to know from an outside opinion

2007-12-05 06:19:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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In my opinion, you're way too young. Just from the statement that all your friends have "done it" shows that you're thinking of having sex for the wrong reasons.

Maturity stems from the ability to not only forsee the consequences of one's actions on him or herself, but the effects it will have on those around them. In other words, let's say you get pregnant. Not only will this effect you, the boy and the baby, but also your families.

It's sad to say, in our society, that children look at sex as a means of seeming older, more adultlike. But, this couldn't be further from the truth. I have yet to meet a single woman who lost her virginity at such a young age who has said she's glad she did. Every one of them has said they wished they had waited until they were older.

Don't be in such a rush to be an adult. Trust me, being an adult is no fun. Enjoy your childhood and stop worrying what everyone else is doing; those people aren't going to be around in 10 years most likely. :)

2007-12-05 06:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 1 0

Honestly, don't have sex. At 14, most people haven't' even had a kiss yet. Your virginity is something very important. You probably don't value it now, but when you get older and find someone who you really love and care about, you'll understand. Save it for someone you know you want to spend the rest of your life with. Your friends are superficial to have had sex already. It's sad how they can just go and give away their virginity to any random guys.

It is definitely too soon. Wait for the right person.

2007-12-05 16:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by ♠Jay♠ 5 · 0 0

Yes it's too soon! Don't do it just to do it. It's not what people make it seem, especially that first time. Are you ready for a baby? Your body to change more? Just wait until the right guy or marriage. Where do yout think you'll be in a couple years...? Still in high school with already a few partners? Once you give in the first time whats going to stop you from the next guy and then the guy after that?? Sex is a huge step...TRULY...just wait. Help yourself and follow YOU not your friends! Good Luck and THINK before you act.

2007-12-05 15:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

When you're ready for it. Don't fall into peer preassure, half of your friends probably don't even know how wipe their butt good. Remeber, at 14, a lot of the girls are not even in puberty, for them to be skanking it out, like they are some 21 year old, is disgusting and I see their future won't be a happy one. I'm 20 and I'm still a virgin, I'm not a dummie when it comes to sex, why the hell do you think I've waited as long as I have?..I can't wait for my man and I to get it on, but God hasn't brought him into my life yet, and school is far more important right now. Believe me when I say things happen for a reason and there is a time and a place for everything!

2007-12-05 14:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I definitely think u r too young. If u r asking this question then doesn't it tell u that u r still not ready?

Surely it is an achievement to save your virginity until u find a boyfriend u love and want to share the experience with?

Look, i'm not going to tell u am ideal age to wait until, i am only 15 and still haven't had sex. All i am saying is don't succumb to peer pressure, dont do anything u are uncomfortable wiv, and wen u r in a position wen u r ready - use protection.

2007-12-05 14:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jess :D 3 · 0 0

I think that all your friends are lying. 14 is very young to be having sex. If you feel it is too soon for you, then it is too soon. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you're not ready for yet. Wait until it feels right for you.

2007-12-05 14:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0 0

when u have the right guy and the right time... right now, u dont know who is the right one and u dont have experience of a good guy,, sex is a gift from god.. its ur virginity.. its what u have total control of.... its a perl u have to offer to the fortunate one... dont spoil it off on some random freak at school.. im 16 and i have friends who allready had sex... but i dont feel that i need to fit in with them.. i feel that im still valuable and i still have something important... AND IM NOT A WHORE!!! thats why you should wait till marriage.. because sex is not the same as... "should i try chocolate chip cookies?... everyone in my school has" sex is a big huge step that defines who you are....and trust me... u are more than that... and all u r friends had sex before 14.. what kinda friends do you have?

2007-12-05 14:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by oh em gee 3 · 0 0

any girl having sex at 14 would be a bad girl . and called a name beginning in W. you should find a guy who loves you aprox. in 6 or 7 more years then have sex . any guy willing to have sex with a 14 year old is a looser and needs a serious asss kicking

2007-12-09 00:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by mike f 2 · 1 0

just because all your friends already had sex doesn't mean you should too... this experience should be special, wouldn't you want it to be a good experience? rather than doing it with a guy who just wants to get in your pants? and then you'll end up regretting it after wards? honestly the right time to have sex is when you think your ready for that huge step.

2007-12-05 14:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by TheLostOne 3 · 0 0

its to late for u girl 14 god you have to start when your about say 10 or 12 NOT 14 omg 14 who is a virgin at 14 lol look find your self a bf and give him a xmas presant and make shour its sex and use delux its the best condom youll find and get

2007-12-05 14:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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