Been together 8 years have 1 child BUT we live with his family, still haven't gotten a ring. Is it best I move on??
Or should I give it more time?
2007-12-05 06:13:52 · 18 answers · asked by papoose52cat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
8 years is a long time, especially to be living with family. I think be straight forth honest and just ask him. you obviously love the guy if you can put up with living with his family for that long. honesty will get you the furthest. if he gets mad or upset, maybe thats your answer.
2007-12-05 06:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by lilyjo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. After 8 years he still hasnt proposed, or you two havent moved into your own place, I think you should talk to him about whether he truly wants to be in a committment, or just have a companion.
If you are not happy, or are but feel your life still isnt complete, then he should know how your feeling. Why do you still live with his family? Is it finacial reasons?
2007-12-05 14:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by xoangeleyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. If he wants you, then you will know because he'll finally show up with a ring. It's not fair to you, even with the child you share, that he refuses to commit to you. I commend you for living with his family, as that is a hard thing to do. But if you demanded some respect via a wedding, I think you might get it if you play hard to get.
2007-12-05 14:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you want the relationship to become. God knows, he's already got you where he wants you without a ring. You already have a child with the man. I would be honest and ask him straight out. You deserve to know if this man wants to continue your relationship by marrying you or just keep things the way they are.
2007-12-05 14:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by 305Roja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well # 1 it's not good to be living with his family,and you have been together for 8 years and have a child if he doesn't want to marry you then i should think you should move on even tho you have a child, please don't mess up your life.
it happen to me after a while we did marry but it didn't work out so think about it.
2007-12-05 14:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why women should keep their britches on until you get married. What a fix you're in now. If you had done it like you are supposed to (get to know the jerk before moving right in, giving it all away), you would probably have weeded him out long ago.
Tell him things are going to have to change or you're going to have to get out. And then stick to it. This is no way to raise your child.
2007-12-05 14:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has no motivation to change. And, why should he. He gets room and board from his folks and has you there for sex and companionship. Kind of selfish??
Speak with him before you throw in the towel but if he is unwilling to move out and make a commitment after 8 years move on.
2007-12-05 14:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying "why buy the cow, when you can get the milk free". That sums it up, why should he marry you he's getting all he benefits of being married to you without being married to you. If you want to marry him CUT OFF THE BENEFITS COMPLETELY. Move out and no sex, you can still be in a relationship with him without all the other things.
2007-12-05 14:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by madeam3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has a ring got to do with you "moving on" or if you live with he´s family? Its your emotional feels and trust in each other that is most important.?????
2007-12-05 14:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by 121aloraphotos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave 8 years of yours. How much more can you give? Don't waste your time away. You need to get your own place and your own life. He will always be a mom's boy.
2007-12-05 14:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋