I have a 16 year old cousin, who lives in Illinois. He has been the subject of verbal, emotional, and physical abuse all of his life at the hands of thier mother. At one point of his life he was placed in foster care, and his mother had to go to parenting classes in order to get him back, Those parenting classes did not good, and she pulled the wool over the sheeps eyes when it came time for visits from the caseworker. I tried a few years ago to get him into my custody, only to be told by DCFS that "Since there is food in the house, there is nothing they can do" My question is this, He, wants to leave home, he wants to come here and live, (Pa) What can be done to get him here, His mother will not sign papers since she knew i tried to get him a few years back, after hearing what was going on, while he was on vacation here for the summer ( I usually get him for three months during the summer, minus the last 3 years) What can he do to get here? He is looking for a job, and in school.
2007-12-05 06:09:48 · 7 answers · asked by Pit Bull Owned! 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
yes i know its illegal to transport a minor w/out parental consent, but how can I go about getting him here legally?. I will never give up on him, I have been there his entire life (he lived here when he was younger but his mother moved there about six years ago) I have been his safe haven during the summer, and have no problems with him, he is a good kid, and don't give problems to me.
2007-12-05 06:19:21 · update #1
The father actually lives about five minutes from me. He has three other kids from his new marriage, and is in poor health. He is unable to take on another child at this time. I have spoke with his dad, (the 16 yr olds) and he is comfortable with him staying with me. Plus the fact that the mother of the boy kept the father from visiting him for just about 10 years even though there was child support orders and Visitation. She disliked him, so she thought the boy shouldn't know him. He isn't a bad guy really, he has mad some mistakes, but none as bad as hers. The last time he was in for a visit (the boy) he was 13 years old, and was curious to know his father. I went against the mothers wishes and called him and let him talk to his dad. And even meet his brothers and sisters, after his mom told him "your dads kids died". It made his summer to get to spend a few hours every other day with is dad. And a smile isn't something we see often with him. :(
2007-12-05 08:03:09 · update #2
I ment to add there that the boy doesn't feel completley comfortable moving in with his father. Because of not knowing him as well as he would like. He is more comfortable with me and my husband, and would feel better getting to know his dad more before moving in. I can't blame him after all he has been through.
2007-12-05 08:07:47 · update #3
I had a friend when I was younger that went and talked to the district attorney when they were 15 and told the DA what was going on in their life and why they wanted to live with someone else and He helped make it happen for her. Teenagers need to know they can advocate for themselves if the parents are in a deadlock.
2007-12-05 06:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by happygirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would contact a good family court lawyer on his behalf about getting him emancipated from his mother; meaning that he would be able to legally seperate himself from her and then he could legally come live with you. Most judges will take into account the child's wishes with a child as old as 16.
What about his father? what does the father say?
On another note, you could advise him to run away from home and going to you- but you run the risk of being charged with endangering the life of a minor, kidnapping and other crimes.
2007-12-05 15:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live in Illinois too. Actually unless he can get emancipated, he will just have to wait it out until he is 18 years old. I know the system is very aggravating. I hate out D.C.F.S. here. But they do rule over us. Unfortunately they wait until the child is dead and then they prosecute the parents. I have seen it time, and time again. Sorry to hear such a sad story.
2007-12-05 14:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Something like this has happened to someone, now currently living in my household. His mom would do the same over and over, but what my parents did, (this was in the same state and he lived close by) was they got guardianship over him. I'm pretty sure you may have tried that though.Have you tried to get him emancipated? Then he would be able to do what he wants.
2007-12-05 14:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, first I am sorry to hear of his problems. Remember that it is a federal crime to transport a minor across state lines. You have to get his mothers permission first. I wish him the best, don't give up on cousin.
2007-12-05 14:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He could file for Emancipation from his parents. That would allow to go anywhere he wants. Even across state lines and his mother could not legally do anything about it.
2007-12-05 14:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all get off of yahoo questions and call an attorney.
2007-12-05 14:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋