and when people who you dont quite like offer to help you...you feel like telling them to ' shut it ' or ' shut up '.
im a clannish person and tend to want to accept help from people like me who hold similar values.
if i get a strange, weird or unfamiliar person offering to help me...i feel enraged....& i clench my teeth.
im 30 years old...with borderline personality ...i live alone in an empty flat with no posessions....ive aged....i have physical imperfections....2 missing teeth....torn ankle ligaments.
ive never been in a relationship ever, never made any friends. either.
ive never been employed....never gained qualifications and right now....my life looks very bleak.
im trying to get help for myself...but i feel ostracized...alienated by society.
people are standoffish and aloof with me...look at me strangely.
and i feel like smashing my computer apart...& my whole flat....battering everything . and then smashing my skull open.
im really depressed, angry about my pathetic life
2007-12-05 05:56:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
im 30 and have lived like this since 14...im tired of it
2007-12-05 05:57:12 · update #1
You can't blame the society itself, perhaps you see your life as pathetic that u tend to think negatively...why don't, for once, make a change about yourself?
anyways, like you, i prefer to be helped by ppl that im close with. Strangers offer help all the time, but I feel uneasy about it cause I keep thinking what can I do to help them back in return...
But sometimes it's good to know that no matter how miserable life could be, there r few good ppl that still care and offer a helping hand =)
2007-12-05 06:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by NonnyN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is wrong. You have to go with what you feel is comfortable and is going to help you recover. Think about it what if you went to a therapist and all you did is sit there and listen to her yap away and made you feel belittled for anything you said - are you going to heal? No. I don't understand what clannish person is but you have a right to a therapist you feel comfortable to open up to - or what would be the point of going? You sound like you have anger issues too - clenching your teeth etc. So that isn't going to help if you feel this way. Keep on looking for the right doctor until you find one. Best wishes.
2007-12-05 06:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While it is not necessarily wrong, it can certainly be counterproductive. If you only "get help" from others who think exactly like you do, you are only reinforcing what you think. In order to get real help, you have to consider input from a variety of people. If you don't like your pathetic life, change it, after all you are the one in control and could have done things differently at any point in your life so far.
2007-12-05 06:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you said you can't really take help from some people, the only thing I can suggest is seeking professional help. For people who can't afford it, the wonderful american system has financial help for those who seek it.
2007-12-05 06:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by annamauria 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
then make a change. get to a doctor , get a diagnosis and get medication for it. i am rather shocked your parents didn't step in and do that very thing.
2007-12-05 06:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by skittle_goddess_2525 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋