I told my boyfriend about it last month and he started pressuring me to get an abortion. My period came and he thinks that I'm not pregnat. I went to the doctor and she told me I'm abouth 1 month pregnat. She even gave me an ultra sound but it didn't show anything. The blood test came back posisitve and she said that the period I had was probably my last one. I don't know how to tell him because I don't want to have an abortion and I know that that he's going to pressure me.
2007-12-05 05:37:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He thinks that since I got my period I'm not pregnat. He doesn't know it was my last.
2007-12-05 05:53:06 · update #1
After reading your other questions, I think that the right thing for you to do is dump the boyfriend. You really dont want to bring a child into an environment of constant fighting, and if you think his mom is bad now, just wait till she is trying to control things about the baby too. Just go back and read your other questions objectively. Pretend like they are about a friend of yours and think of what advise you would give them. Your life is going to be all about your baby now (and congratulations), and you want to give the baby the best life you can and unfortunatley I think that means a life without the boyfriend.
2007-12-05 06:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him alone. Get your parents' help first. Then all of you can sit the boyfriend down together and say that there is a baby on the way and that you are having the baby and that your parents are supporting you in that decision.
If he tries to pressure you into an abortion, dump him. It's understandable that he will be scared and desperate, but he has no right to force ANY woman to kill her own child.
2007-12-05 05:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to pressure you to get an abortion then he most likely would not want to be involved with the baby. You sound like you want to keep the baby and its your choice 100% however you might end up doing it without the baby's dad. I'm sure you would get support from other people though, a child is always a blessing!
2007-12-05 05:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the blood test results don't prove it, there's nothing that will except your baby-bulge. Your question was "how do you tell him", and you already did. What you MEANT to ask was "How do I get him to not pressure me to have an abortion?" and there's no way. Unless you are in some official way linked to him, if you want ANY economic support from him for this child, you're going to have to hit him w/a paternity suit. Are you ready to raise this on your own? You have a lot to consider. I'd start thinking, and then doing if I were in your shoes.
2007-12-05 05:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Stephen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have someone else there for moral support so he can't pressure you into something you don't want. Either that, or you should plan to talk to someone supportive soon after you talk with him. You are in an emotionally delicate state (due to the pregnancy) and you should have to face as little emotional arguments as possible. He helped create this child, and although he doesn't want to take any responsibility, he should have thought about that beforehand. Remain strong.
2007-12-05 05:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy of 1.5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever let someone pressure you into Anything, especially an abortion. It's your body, your baby. If he has any love for you at all he'll grow some balls and respect you're decision, whatever it may be. It isn't his body. He did it, he has to live with it. If he doesn't stop tell him he's a prick and get the hell out...
2007-12-05 06:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice whether to have this baby or not. There are many single moms out there ( i was one at one time) that make it. My dad and my ex wanted me to have one but i felt that was not their choice. this is my decesion and i will raise it myself. I did and now hes my life besides my other 2 kids with my hubby. I dont think i would have been able to live with myself. If you feel you cant do this on your own adoption is better then abortion. Good luck to you
2007-12-05 05:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing for you to do would be to go up to him, tell him you're pregnant, and tell him you're keeping the baby. Be upfront, honest, and don't budge. He can't pressure you to do anything if you don't let him. Good for you for standing up for what you believe in. It's ultimately your body, and he can't make you get an abortion if that's not what you want.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-12-05 05:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by elsie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are of age and you can take are of your baby, don't worry about your boyfriend, he will come around and love the baby very much. Abortion is not rite. Just try telling him when hes is relaxed and try not to get mad. BE strong
2007-12-05 05:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by ~EleGantLaDyY~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your choice, a lot of men react this way at first, just sit him down and tell him that abortion is not an option for you and that you will not have one and if he doesnt wanna be inthis baby's life then he doesnt have to but you would like him there, usually this will bring him to the reality of it. try speaking about this over a nice romantic candle lit dinner!! good luck!
2007-12-05 05:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋