do what I do in cases like these...bring a hot *** date so at least if you can't get along with the others you attention will be thoroughly captivated! you can kill two birds with one stone-be there for your friend and still have an ok time.
2007-12-05 05:42:40
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answered by jguyot786 2
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I'd give you one of two options:
1. If everyone can be mature, suck it up, go, and at least put in an appearance. You don't have to chum around with the other guests, just provide your well-wishes to the birthday boy and make a gracious but early exit.
2. The birthday boy, however, is most likely aware of the animosity between you and his other guests. If so, tell him that you don't want to go because the other friends, that you want him to have a happy birthday without drama and if that can only happen with you bowing out of the plans, then so be it. Perhaps you two can celebrate some other way at some other time. (He's turning 21,take him out for a few beers this weekend!) Just let him know, however, that your absence would not be out of disrespect to him; in fact, the opposite, that you respect him enough to avoid a conflict at his birthday party.
2007-12-05 05:33:32
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answered by SquirrelGirlOH 4
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Well, since you did say at one point you would go; I think you should go. You should explain to your friend, beforehand, that you will only be able to make a short appearance, and exactly the reason why. If there has been a confrontation in the past, then probably your friend knows this, and will understand. Honesty is the best policy, it will be much easier to explain, and keep you from having to make up excuses to cover up later; You know one lie, leads to another. Hopefully you will keep your friendship and yourself in tact.
2007-12-05 05:37:32
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answered by Ohgeez 1
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That's a tough one, I wouldn't want to be in an awkward situation around people that don't like me, especially when it's supposed to be a fun atmosphere, why don't you go for a little bit early then head out somewhere else. Let whoever invited you know you've got something else going on and you'll give him a ring later on. (That'll give him the impression that you may be coming back, when in actuality you're not)!
2007-12-05 08:30:06
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answered by Anonymous
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Good for you! You sense trouble and want to stay away from it.
Let's see, it's Wednesday. That gives you 2 days to come up with a cold, your back aches and you feel nauseous. Don't you feel it coming on?? Must be the flu. Right? Right!It may be a little bit of a lie, but it won't offend your friend as much as just saying " you don't want to go." and he will be disappoionted, but he won't try to talk you into coming .
2007-12-05 05:33:05
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answered by Barry auh2o 7
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You need to go because you said you would.
Assuming dates are welcome, try to get a date, even if it's just a female friend, to pass the time with.
Either way, remind the friend that you don't typically get on with his buddies and that, to preserve the peace, it may just be a quick visit. However, you wouldn't dream of not "stopping by" at least long enough to wish him well on his special day.
Then pray for as quick and painless as possible and have fall-back plans in place should a quick exit be necessary.
2007-12-05 05:33:25
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answered by AJ 6
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Twenty-one, eh? That's when a boy becomes a man, eh?
I like your concerns. Tell you what, be a man and set the standard. Go, have some fun, don't drink. If there's words spoke, laugh and accept it, don't escalate it. You don't have to have a dust-up with a bunch of drunken youths. They will turn their attention elsewhere soon enough, just be friendly and acknowledge them. Hell, walk in and shake their hands!
You are a bigger man than all of them - be a leader and show them through moderate, and peaceful friendship.
2007-12-05 07:22:37
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answered by geeksball 4
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If you do decide to go, don't take a back seat, you're there just like them for your friend's sake, if they wanna start somthing and ruin his day, let them (sorry dude I meant kick their as*). If you really don't want to go, don't. Explain to your friend how badly you don't want to be around these guys. Get him an amazing gift to make up for it and take him out afterwards for a night out just both of you and a group of friends you like. Get him a cake, sing the stupid song, and wish him a happy birthday. He'll be fine...
2007-12-05 05:32:04
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answered by Anonymous
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Be the better person, .... Go to the party. Stay a while, then leave. Everyone is happy! The birthday boy is glad you showed up. You are glad you didn't lie an not showed up, but instead you went and smiled and kept your word.
2007-12-05 05:35:14
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answered by Maxine PantherFan 3
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Go to the party as promised. Be cool and avoid people who may cause trouble. If something happens, simply excuse yourself - you'll leave early but at least you went. Your friend turning 21 will understand.
2007-12-05 05:28:56
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answered by Rachel 7
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You'll have no fun at the table in the corner. Go to the party and give it a try. If it's not what you'd like it to be leave. You leaving may not even be noticed.
2007-12-05 05:29:09
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answered by katobow 4
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