2007-12-05 05:04:55 · 18 answers · asked by mama bear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask him to call you instead of you calling him and then you will probably get a different response...
2007-12-05 05:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've been dealing with this all my life, so here goes:
1. Do not talk to him when he first gets home. Greet him briefly and smile.
2. Have something ready for him to drink. Usually people arrive home from work somewhat dehydrated. He may need a snack, too.
3. Have the house quiet!!!
4. Have something on the kitchen counter that looks like the beginnings of dinner, even if you are just planning to make soup and sandwiches.
5. Don't talk so much during the week. Save it for the weekends when he's more relaxed.
6. Don't burden him with the kids problems before dinner. Try to deal with the kids problems on a set day of the week, say on Saturday mornings, following a pancake breakfast with all of you.
7. Keep your house simple. Get rid of all the knick knacks, stuff that eats up his money and yours that you don't really need, keep rooms simply furnished in neutral colors, or soft pastels, no red, and absolutely nooooooo brown, which is a depressive color.
8. Always keep yourself as neat and clean as you can. It doesn't matter how you look, it matters how you smell!!
9. Make your bed in the morning and keep the bedroom neat and inviting.
10. Don't talk to him about what he's eating while he's eating!!!!!!!!! If you have concerns about his diet, keep it to yourself, engineer the commodities in your house, and don't make him eat something he hates.
11. Follow a high protein, low sugar diet. Sugar makes these men crazy.
12. If you can get alcohol out of your life, do it.
13. When he complains, don't get defensive. He just wants to tell you how he feels.
14. Make a contract that he will express his complaints without beginning with who's to blame in the family.
15. Do not schedule him to do anything unnecessary.
16. For things that are necessary, like wedding attendance, dental appointments, just schedule him. No choices.
17. Do not ask him what he wants to eat. He doesn't know!! Just fix something he likes!!
18. Make sure he's eating lunch at work, and try to get breakfast down him, too.
19. Turn off the TV at 10 pm. Go to bed!!! Stay quiet, reading, maybe watching a little TV. See what happens. If you stay up late, he'll be tired tomorrow night!!
20. Smile!!!!!
2007-12-05 05:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Martha G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't like it when I call him at work because he has a lot going on. It breaks up his concentrateion when I call him there. I will only call him if I have a serious question or to let him know that I'm staying home sick so that he can be aware of what's going on. Then I hang up as quickly as possible.
If you get the Nice Guy him as soon as he walks in the door, appreciate that! And remember also that every man needs a little bit of time to decompress as soon as he walks in the front door. The things that seem important to us (like when our friends get pregnant), may not be as important to him. Keep that in mind.
2007-12-05 05:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not. That's actually very normal. Especially if his work is very stressful. Leave him alone for a while, don't call him at work. After a while, he will call you, keep the conversation short and pleasant. This tells him, hey, I can have a nice conversation with my wife, even when I am at work and people are getting on my nerves. Yeah, guys don't just get it, they have to be taught.
2007-12-05 05:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we had that problem, so we installed IM on our work computers. that way we can keep in touch with little notes throughout the day without feeling stressed on the phone when we should be working. don't take it personally, it's completely normal. stop calling so often, maybe just send an e-mail that he can respond to when he has a free minute.
2007-12-05 06:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by hh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is like that to. People are in a different mind frame when they are at work. Its not a good idea to call someone at work, most of the time they are busy or in a bad mood.
2007-12-05 05:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't call him at work. he's probably stressed out and busy and may not like his job that much. those are really good reasons to be grouchy at work. if he has time away from his desk to call you then let him call you, otherwise don't bug him. you calling him probably just makes him more behind on whatever it is he's working on. i get grouchy when my bf calls me at work for no reason. unless it's important dont call him. anything else can wait until he gets home.
2007-12-05 05:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
You leave him alone and let it be. Some people have a switch when it comes to work, they become more serious. I'm a different person when it comes to work and school.
2007-12-05 06:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be very busy or his boss doesn't like personal phone calls at work. Most men tend to be very focused when they are at work & tend to be a little "short" with you on the phone. Of course most men are not the "chatty" sort anyways.
2007-12-05 05:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by sugarbear0772 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
he probably hates his job and hes only working there to support the family which is u and u might just call every time he's pissed off cuz of sum 1 at work
2007-12-05 05:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by joselyn422 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him at work, you are stressing him out even more. You are putting him behind and everyone frowns upon personal calls on the job.
2007-12-05 05:10:50 · answer #11 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋