Does my friend sound suicidal?

Question

She says that she doesn't like the way things are going. Her husband i think has some thing to do with because he puts her down all the time. she doesn't feel like eating any more or doing any thing any more. I don't know what to say to her. how can i get her help with out her getting mad at me?

Answer 1

Does not sound suicidal, but very depressed. You as a friend, have to continuously reassure her that you are there for her and to help whenever needed. As for her husband always putting her down, I have a friend in same situation. Tell her that you are better and deserve better if she is scared to talk about it for fear or repercussion, than seek other avenues to help and if so help her find the right people to talk with and what can and cannot be done. Good luck and wish you and her the very best

Answer 2

She sounds seriously depressed. Talk to her and tell her you have noticed the difference in her and you are worried. Let her know that you are there for her if she needs you. I would make enquiries about self esteem courses and pass on the information for her. When a partner constantly puts the other down, the first thing to go out of the window is self esteem. She will not be able to stand up for herself, and will begin to believe his put-downs unless this issue is addressed, and her current behaviour indicates she may well need professional assistance in this.

I don't know what country you are in, but in Aussie we have a helpline where counsellors assist anonymously over the phone, or alternatively you can ring and make an appointment to visit a counsellor. The cost of a visit is a donation if you can afford it. The organisation is called 'Lifeline". As she hasn't opened up to you as yet, she may be more comfortable to talk to a counsellor over the phone - many people find that easier. I suggest you check any available service and provide her with this information.

As you said, you don't want her to get mad at you, so you need to be very gentle in your approach. You could consider getting all the information together, write her a LITTLE note saying you had noticed she wasn't so happy etc. and that you don't wish to intrude on her privacy, but wanted her to know you care and therefore, although you do not know whether it would be of any assistance or not, you have enclosed information she may be interested in.

Best of luck, you sound like a very caring friend.

Answer 3

I'm not sure if your friend is suicidal, but I do believe she is depressed.Her husbands put-downs are definitely not helping the situation. The only thing I can suggest you do is encourage her to fix herself up for a girls night out. Maybe the two of you could get dressed together (to ensure she gets dressed). Have a fun day or night out doing whatever it is that you all enjoy. Hair, nails, dining... that will give you time with her to see if she opens up to tell you what is bothering her. Just have a good time with her and don't pry. Sometimes a day outside of the norm opens you up to talking about what is going on and women always feel better after a nice hair do and a manicure.
I wish you and your friend the best and hope this helps.

Answer 4

well honestly i think she's going through depression, but i can't say what kind. i mean i suffer with major depressive disorder, and been breaking down b/c of it, and i don't eat either. and it's all b/c i'm in love with a man who hasn't returned the feelings every since last year, and i'm still waiting for that day to come. but if she dosen't have a therapist or a psychiatrist, just let her know the best way you know how, that maybe she should try talking to someone about whats going on, i know i sound like a hyprocrite because i don't really like going to my doctor. but if she feels soo much hurt from someone she loves, she could be thinking in that way, like with me, i don't tell people anymore b/c i'm not gonna let someone put me in a hospital that dosen't work. so i know pretty much anyone can hide if they are suicidal. just have a nice long friend chat, to see if she reveals to you what she feels inside. b/c you can make someone REAL MAD if you were trying to get help for them when they may have not wanted it.

Answer 5

there's no right way to talking to her about this problem without her getting mad at you, believe me, i would know. But even if she does get mad at you, she'll soon see things through and end up thanking you in the end. She doesn't sound suicidal, but depressed. Suggest to her to speak with her husband about how she feels. Maybe things will get better if she talks to him about this problem, the only thing you can do to help is to talk her through it and be a good friend.

Answer 6

The best help would be a real friend.Many psychiatrist will tell you the best part of therapy is having someone to listen to.She sounds like she is going through a lot and will need you to listen to her.If you can give advice that you know will help then you should because no one else will know her like a friend or family.

If she is really feeling suicidal then you will have to make a big effort to do what you can to help her, it wont be easy on you but she needs you to be cmforting and none judgemental.At times it will override things you need to do , but if you truley care then you will be willing to make the effort.

Answer 7

Be honest. Tell her how much you care about her and value her friendship and then tell her that it seems she seems depressed/down and that you are concerned for her as you want so much for her to be healthy and happy. Ask her to talk to you about how she is feeling, maybe offer to go to the doctor with her so she can get a depression screening - since depression is treated as a physical ailment - or just try to do things to cheer her up and get her to smile and realize opportunities she has in life, not always dwelling on the problems...

Answer 8

You can't 'get her help' - only she can do that. You can just listen and let her talk though. If you try and solve her problems she will find it hard to trust you - she's the best expert on herself anyway.
There are good websites for suicidal people or their friends. Try looking at any University counselling site - it'll have links to 'helping'. You sound like a good friend... just stick around.

Answer 9

First who puts her down all the time?
She may not sound suicidal, it may just be a short term deppresion... Give her space and time. Take her out to her favourite restaurant and order all of her favourite... she will be sure tempted :) Try talking to her, ask her what's wrong? Don't be too serious, try asking while your both doing something... it will make her tense if you sit her down and directly ask her. Be sure to remember not to be defensive and always act like your on her side... hope it works:)

Answer 10

just ask her if she needs someone to talk to about thing. make sure you do it outside of her home, maybe at your house, when you're both alone, no husbands or anything. make her feel confortable and cared for, let her know that you love her and worry for her. it may not just be suicidial thoughts you should worry about, think about eating disorders too.

but i've been where your friend was before. just let her know that you care, even if she gets upset, inside she knows that she needs you and appricates and loves what you're trying to do. she may use the whole denial thing like i did. i coplained, but always denied there was something wrong when someone i loved asked me about it.

take care and i wish the best for you and your friend.