some ladys at my work were talking about how your weak if you leave and you should stay for better or for worse...and i just thought i would get ya'lls opinion on it.
how do you feel about seperation and divorce?
2007-12-05 04:24:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i just wanted to thank you all for your answers..it helps
2007-12-05 04:55:15 · update #1
Separation is painful,of cousre! But what's next? What comes after divorse? You are single again. You can go out with men. You can have fun as a single woman. No borders,no limits. Freedom! I have friends who are divorsed. Most of them have new partners now...and they are happy.Actually happier than before.So,noone should worry about divorse. After bad things,there will ALWAYS come good ones!
2007-12-05 04:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by svetlana_89 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a hard thing to go through however staying in a bad marriage and being miserable every day is horrible.
Life is to short. The ladies at your job have it backwards. You are weak if you stay in a bad and or abusive marriage. It takes a strong person to leave.
Also for better or worse was not intended to mean being treated better or worse it was meant in better times and bad times that 2 people were a team and going through joys and problems together not one person creating the problems and making the other persons life worse.
2007-12-05 05:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think people get divorced at the drop of a hat these days, but also believe there are good, sound reasons to do so. I think it's horrible to leave your husband because, say, he doesn't pick up after himself. I also think it's horrible to stay if, say, your husband is beating you to a pulp every day, or worse, abusing your children. It's not black and white. I believed in the wedding vows I took, but when my husband cheated on me, that was the last straw. I don't think you should stay for better or worse if one is getting "better" and the other is getting "worse"...if that makes sense. I feel, mostly, that whatever is best for the children is what should be done. Should kids have to be brought up in broken homes? No, but at the same time, should kids be brought up in a home with both parents, but where their parents are constantly fighting with each other and unhappy and in turn, taking it out on the kids? Also no.
2007-12-05 04:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is not a healthy marriage then I would say that divorce is the smartest choice. I have been married for seven years and I hope I never have to deal with the pain of divorce. I don't understand how some people can call it weak. I would think you would have to be a very strong person to make such a hard decision, especially if there are children involved.
2007-12-05 04:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by Leigh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the "worse" doesn't it! I have to wonder if any of those "ladies" (gossips in my mind) have ever had their eyes blacked, or their kidneys damaged from being hit? I wonder if they ever had to work 3 jobs to put food on the table while their husbands played video games all day?
For the most part once you are married you should work hard at the marriage, be honest, communicate and try to build a life with each other. There will always be ups and downs to get through. But sometimes it is best to leave.
2007-12-05 04:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
under normal life circumstances, i believe you stay in a marriage and make it work. however, there is a place for divorce - abuse and repeated infidelity are two reasons why i would leave. everyone has their own limitations. i just think in our society divorce has been portrayed as the easy way out. people don't married for life anymore, they get married "for as long as we love each other" or "as long as we are both happy". the sanctity of marriage is fading, and minute-long marriages are really eroding its value. better or worse means just that, but divorce is a viable provision in some cases. it's very serious, as is marriage. neither are decisions to be taken lightly.
2007-12-05 04:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by hh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes divorce is VERY necessary. There are some things in this world that no one for ANY reason should stay in a marriage for. I think that most divorces now days end for trivial reasons, but divorce is a valid option when needed.
2007-12-05 04:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For worse does not include abuse. Anyone in an abusive marriage should get a divorce. That is better than enduring years of suffering and bringing children into a disfunctional family.
2007-12-05 04:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. Although it was hard, and no kids were involved, I have no regrets. Women, we are strong and move on and even if it breaks our heart, we don't give up so easily. Nobody, wants to stay in a marriage, where the "man" exercises any physical or verbal abuse ! Teach your co-workers some lesson and if they are such "moralists", it's written in the Bible that no man, should hit a woman ever !!
2007-12-05 04:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every case is different so absolutes are impossible.
Yes, it's too easy for people to get divorces these days so some people are not responsible about their choices but sometimes divorce is the best option.
2007-12-05 04:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋