My boyfriend is really cheap. It doesn’t pay for me when we go to the movies or my drinks. He even tries making me pay for his drinks (and I have once or twice.)
The day before my birthday, he told me that he was going to take me out the day after my bday for a late birthday dinner. When I asked where we were going, he told me one of my favorite diners. Yesterday it was my birthday, and he visited me. He didn’t bring me a physical present to open. He also changed plans with me and told me we were going to a bar and grill instead.
I’m a little confused. Shouldn’t he have bought me a present? And why did he change the restaurant?
2007-12-05 03:55:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
First of all, how long have you two been together? That might make a difference. But for the most part, he should be paying for things, including your gifts. He changed restaurants because he cares more about himself then you. I would suggest talking to him and asking him to change or say that you will leave him. He should pay for things sometime. Or go dutch.
2007-12-05 04:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are really cheap. That may not be the kind of man you want. You sound unhappy with the situation so I would say that for you he is a bad bf. You can find someone that makes you happy. I don't think it is asking too much for him to do something for your birthday. Have you done things for his birthday, like presents or dinner out? Did you express to him it would make you happy to get a present or have him buy your dinner? If you expressed it and he ignored your request then he may not be worth your time.
2007-12-05 12:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Pam H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i think he is being a bad boyfriend. Hes not even being much of a man. How old are you guys?
I think its time to cut this one loose. You will find someone who will respect you and take your birthday seriously. You will find someone who APPRECIATES you, because he obviously does not.
and Yes he should've bought you an actual present, or at least a card with something nice written (by him) in it.
I'm not sure why he changed the restaurant.. maybe because this bar and grill is cheaper then the place he was going to take you.
Its really time to reconsider this relationship and do whats best for YOU.
Good luck! :)
2007-12-05 12:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking you to pay for him was foul. But may i ask, is he already working? or are you both students?
If he is already earning an income... then i'm sorry to admit that he is cheap and that he should know that once in a while, girls want to be pampered. If he doesn't treat you out regularly, you can at least expect to be treated extra special on your birthday... it is your special day.
if he is not getting any income be it because he's just jobless or he's still a student and he's only source of cash is his allowance... then you better understand that he doesn't really have that much money in his hands. My opinion is that boyfriends aren't obligated to pay for their girlfriends IF they don't have any source of income. His/your allowance is supposed to be spent on yourself... i mean, your parents aren't giving you money to feed your boyfriend and vice versa.
Why don't you at least appreciate his effort of wanting to treat you on your birthday even though it's not exactly what you had in mind.
If it still bothers you that much, why don't you ask him straight?
"I don't mean to sound like a high maintenance girlfriend, but im just a bit confused... " or "im just curious.. why did you change the restaurant?"
tell him how you feel. reassure him that it's not like the gifts and the paying for the dates are all you're after..
it would be better if you asked him for yourself to avoid confusion..
2007-12-05 12:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by bella*muerte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a little selfish... No, he is not required to give u a present. But it would b nice if he returned the favor by taking u somewhere u actually wanted to go for ur birthday. Have u talked to him about it? If yes, and he hasn't changed his tune, then u should probably find someone who wants to b an actual partner, and won't use u as a sugar momma.
2007-12-05 12:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, If you don't change the direction of this relationship, he is not going to be a better bf. I would drop him. I know its easier said then done but you are special and you should be treated as such. Your worth going all out for. Ladies we need to stop catering to these men and start getting catered to. Love you first!
2007-12-05 12:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by **kia** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just aren't loaded with money. Look into it and if he is running on a limited budget give him some slack and if you really like him settle for a little less and stay at home and watch a movie or cook a nice dinner at home......
2007-12-05 11:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by bash_brother_3_2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is not always about presents! Be happy that you are with him <3
2007-12-05 11:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by xxfun2lovexx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a cheapy. If he cant be unselfish enough to treat you nicely on your bday, he doesnt deserve you. You can find someone who will appreciate you better.
2007-12-05 11:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by NewFoundBlink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a Loser! If you wanted to pay for everything yourself you might as well not have a boyfriend.Find a guy who will treat you right.
2007-12-05 12:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by bgmcfn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋