I don't get it. My husband and I wanted to have a baby SO bad, and now I am 4 months pregnant, WE are happy, but when we told his family they were happy too, but we just found out its a boy and the whole family wanted a girl...I told them and their response was " Well, you should get another ultrasound just to be sure." That really pissed me off...I mean im having a BABY...should it really matter to them what it is...a baby is a blessing and it just upset me so badly when they said this. Anyone had a similar experience??
2007-12-05 03:51:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ahhh, congratulations sweetie, Im glad that you and your husband are really happy. Im 34 weeks and had a similar experience. At my 20 week scan the midwife told me the baby is 80% a girl. When I told my dad that baby will more than likely be a girl he said...
''Good, I would have been really really dissapointed if it was a boy!!!!''
Can you believe it!? Baby still could be a boy! That really annoyed me. How dare they. Dont worry hun, good luck xx
2007-12-05 04:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. You're right, they should be happy either way. I was afraid my family would be unhappy if I had a boy too because like yours, my family wanted a little girl. They want me to have a girl because I was the last girl born. That was 25 years ago. However, the ultrasound said girl. So, everyone is ecstatic. I'm sure your family will be happy when the baby arrives. Congratulations!
2007-12-05 03:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by Agia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience with my family. I found out I was having a boy and my aunt told me "maybe by the next ultrasound it will 'fall off'" I know just how frustrating it can be. I was just happy he was born healthy! Now my family wouldn't have it any other way. It will be ok I promise!
Good luck & congrats
2007-12-05 04:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may have just been joking around. I would have said something back to them. You are sacrificing 9 months of your life by turning your body into a baby machine, gaining 40 pounds, having your feet swell and your body ache. If they can't appreciate all your hard work to make them grandparents I would be more than dissapointed.
I wanted a girl as well because I would have enjoyed shopping for clothes alot more. I don't relate to boys as well as I do young girls. But I know even though Im having a boy instead I will still love him just as much.
Shame on them.
2007-12-05 03:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah. when we found out the baby was a girl, his family made the same comments about it. They said it's the first grandkid on their side, so they wanted a BOY. Uhm. Well, why didn't you give your son all little boy swimmers then? It got me upset too. But that's just how some people think. We can't change that. And also, when other people talk, they don't realize that it hurts our feelings certain things they say. They realize it too late.
2007-12-05 04:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL.... It's amazing the different reactions you can get from family and friends when a baby is coming. So many people have desires and expectations for one little person that isn't even here yet. It can be so frustrating for a pregnant mom, already having hormonal issues, to deal with the desires and expectations they may have for YOUR baby. But one thing is sure... when that baby comes, boy or girl, he/she will have a wonderful loving host of family and friends for support to be productive in life... that is what you have to focus on Mom.
2007-12-05 04:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by Queen Entreprenuer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually both of our families wanted a boy and we are having a girl but EVERYONE is thrilled that she is healthy and I am having a healthy pregnancy...I agree with you completely every baby, boy or girl, is a blessing and I'd tell them they can get behind you and support and love you baby boy or pucker up and kiss your butt...but that is just because I am pregnant and hormonal...the other part of me would just ignore them and go about celebrating your sweet baby boy!!
Congratulations on your little man!!!
2007-12-05 03:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by Notagain 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is really mean! The only thing i have similar to your experience was when we picked the name for our little boy. we told just the close family, and my husbands older sister said she hated the name and gave her reason why. this made me really upset because we had thought long and hard and made a final decision. she could have just kept her mouth shut!! we ended up naming him what we had originally wanted to anyway.
2007-12-05 04:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by potato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The gender shouldn't matter to them, and I'm sorry they actually gave voice to their feelings about the matter.
Should have kept it to themselves because once the baby comes everyone finds they are happy with the end result because the end result is always an incredible blessing.
Just wait till delivery day - they will all be overjoyed!
2007-12-05 03:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry that they are acting this way. if an ultrasound tech says it is a boy, it means they saw a penis, so it is pretty conclusive. if they hassle you about it again, just calmly tell them "whether it is a boy or girl is not as important to us as whether it is healthy" and hopefully they will see how foolish it is to get upset over it not being a girl.
congrats on your boy! have a happy and healthy remainder of your pregnancy!
2007-12-05 03:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋