or should i avoid even speaking to women i find attractive? i ask because a woman in one of my classes keeps talking to me and wants to email back and forth about assignments. she knows i am married and she has never been appropriate but i have a guilty conscience for even talking to her, like maybe i shouldn't at all since i know i would date her if i was single. i would never, ever cheat, so that's not a possibility. i just wonder if it's inappropriate to talk to her at all, or if it's innocent.
2007-12-05 03:37:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i mean she has never been INappropriate.
2007-12-05 03:37:59 · update #1
You should discuss such things with ur spouse. IF she's comfortable with u then it'll be fine. Don't keep the woman a secret from ur wife ever! THis will create suspicion. IF ur sure of urself, then talk to ur wife, and see how she feels. I wouldn't tell her about the woman straight on, just ask her if it's ok that u talk to women in class or where ever....that there's no ill intent behind it. Do everything u can to keep her trust in this issue if she agrees.
2007-12-05 03:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is in your class it is just probably about your class but I would be leery considering you feel guilty about it. Is there no one else in your class that you can email and get assignments from? I.E. a male classmate. You are going to run into people through out your entire marriage that you find attractive. This is called temptation. You have the choice to act or not to act and all it takes is a little self control.
2007-12-05 11:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends Harry, can you talk to women you find attractive or can't you? Only you can really answer that question.
I can't because I know I'm a freak and I adore beautiful women. I don't need anyone else to confirm that forme, so when I see a woman I would like to do something with, I just wave from a distance, act really shy and walk away.
Because if you start me up... I'll never stop!
The guy below must be Jesus himself... he obviously never sins... go figure.
2007-12-05 11:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by huckleberryjoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but reading this, I would say become more confident in your relationship with your wife first before you develop friendships that could prove costly to your marraige. As they say the grass is always greener on the other side until you actually cross over.
I do believe this woman only wants you as a contact for her class. She may sense to your interest in her and will use it to her advantage. A woman will use her assets to forge ahead.
You're reading too much into her because of your own interest.
Stay strong.
2007-12-05 11:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Coco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a faithful, devoted husband, and have no thoughts of cheating- then 'talking' to an attractive woman is as innocent as you make it to be. There is nothing wrong with find people of the opposite sex attractive, it's acting on those feelings that would make it wrong.
People are still 'human' after they marry- they don't just suddenly start finding members of the opposite sex 'unattractive'. It would be normal. As long as your spouse knows that you love and want to be with them, that's all that matters!
2007-12-05 11:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It isn't actually wrong, but it is a danger zone that will eventually lead to temptation. You are physically attracted to her, and that should be a warning to you that is a potential threat to in-appropriate feelings; and possibly infidelity.
Be nice to her, but do not initiate private communications with her. That will be leading her on. Don't say anything to her that you wouldn't say with your wife present. It would be best to run like the wind in the opposite direction Buddy!
2007-12-05 11:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by Keeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married and you have a good solid relationship with your wife then you should feel free to talk to whoever you wish. If your marriage is on the rocks and your relationship with your wife is unstable, then its dangerous to start talking to women you find attractive because eventually you will start to lie and sneak around. Why put yourself in that position? Hope I helped!
Love
Abi
2007-12-05 11:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by abigailbanksabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your wife doesn't mind you talking to other woman then i would say go for it, there is no harm in talking to other woman whether they are attractive or not. I mean how would you feel if your wife was "just" chatting with an attractive male, would that bother you? If it would bother you then i suggest you don't do it.
2007-12-05 11:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you get married half of the world's population does NOT fall off the Earth. You are allowed to talk to the opposite sex. If all you talk about is school work then there is nothing wrong.
2007-12-05 11:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong in talking with women period as long as you let them know that you are happily married and not allow things to go any further. Once things go overboard then you put your foot down.
2007-12-05 11:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋