Anger Issues?

Question

I have anger problems. Today we were taking a math test which was frustrating and hard. And so I asked the teacher and all of my anwsers ended up coming out wrong. So I spazzed. A girl in my class who usually laughes at me because she knows it gets me angry...LAUGHS AT ME AGAIN! and of course i angrily respond "STOP LAUGHING AT ME!" and finally, the creme de la creme, trying to break my pencil in half...i ripped the test in half....by accident.

What do I do? I've had anger problems my whole life. It really affects peoples view of me because in my opinion, I think I'm a pretty good guy but do people see that? no. they see me as that guy who spazzes out a lot. Sure, I've gotten better than before but this is still really bad...so what do i do?

Answer 1

I spaz out from time to time, but I think that is the way your body is holding in anger, and at an end result, just bursts out! What I think you should do is to get something to hit,(preferrably not a sibling LOL) or just scream on the top of your lungs. Personally, taking deep breathes and emptying my thoughts of stress or incoming projects helps a lot as well. If this doesn't seem to work, tell a friend, teacher, parent, counselor, etc. about your feelings.

Personally, many people have major stress, but don't worry. Actually, just don't care whatever anyone thinks about you. I know many d.a's that tick me off to just watch me explode, but I just ignore and walk on. Besides, school is only a small portion of your life, so just think of this as the idiots portion of life where they feel important. Opinions are just a way of others viewing you, but facts are the way you view yourself.

Thanks for reading, and I hope this can help ya!

Answer 2

The liver is the seat of anger, according to Ayurveda. If your liver is overburdened then it can make you very irritable. There are simple and easy methods of relieving the liver of toxins. Exercise relieves the liver because it gets all the lymph glands working, increases oxygen intake, and stimulates elimination. Drinking a cup of water, is, surprisingly cooling and cleansing to the liver. You can do this the instant you are angry. (My Gurudev has recommended this to some people) Heavy foods like red meat, cow, pig etc, burden the liver and the whole elimination system. Anything toxic or difficult to digest can burden the liver. Walking is extremely stress relieving and calming. It is a great exercise for the mind, and body. Martial arts is also helpful. Too much anger can make you sick. This is a very important question and an intelligent question! If we had less anger, we would have more peace!

Answer 3

First you need to learn to accept your moods whatever they are, if you feel pissed off by someone, forget about that person for a moment and try to remember your best moments starting with the thing you've ever done or achieved at its best and then you will absolutely feel cool than what the guy thinks about you and try to make your little successes even more known to you than other people and you'll see the difference.

Answer 4

you may want to try letting your feelings out more, through something like a journal. or if that's not your style, you could try a sport or go to a gym and hit a punching bag to dispel some of that pent up anger. also find someone that you can talk to about the things that make you the most angry. i'm not sure about the effectiveness of your school counselor, but you may want to give that a shot.

good luck!!

Answer 5

We're taught at a very early age on HOW to express our feelings! Some homes do not tolerate anger at all, and it sounds as if your's was one of them. Some solve the conflicts in the ways suggested. Mine were so deep, I went high-tailing it to a counselor at UC Berkeley, before I off'd myself! Many child-rearing methods are like clamping a lid on a boiling kettle! I hope you vote for yourself and get some good counseling! Psychiatric social workers usually have good training to help others explore "inner" and outer forces that have clamped that lid on and gives a safe space in which to explore all of that!! It's like finding gold and allows the person to go on building on h/his life productively instead of always having to put on the brakes!!!

Answer 6

Anger, Rage, Resentment - They carry the spirit of fear. The Word of God tells us that "Perfect love casts out fear, because fear has torment." Christ is perfect love.

We all have fears, whether they be fear of people, fear of messing up, fear of giving the wrong answer, fear of being laughed at or fear of making a mistake.

Let me give you a jingle - "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." The Lord says "do not let any man offend you." If your heart is right with Almighty God, who can be against you? Do not worry about man and what man can do or say, but worry about God. Jesus said, "what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul?" Your world will not come to an end if that girls laughs at you or if you fail that test. We worry about what people can do to us and we should be worrying about what God can do. Salvation is a free gift and a heart and mind changing experience. With Jesus as your Savior, you'll go into that classroom with confidence knowing that your eternal life is secure and there is no fear of death. No person can offend you because you know you are right with the only One that truly matters. Knowing that Christ loves us and will never forsake us removes all self-rejection, self-bitterness and self-hatred. Christ is Perfect Love.

Ephesians 4:26-27 "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil."

So whether extenal or internal anger, it is still sin, and the result is the same. This sin of anger causes strokes, heart attacks, all heart diseases, high blood pressure, tense muscles, tension headaches, asthma, etc.

Proverbs 17:22
"A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones."

FEAR is not just an emotion (anger) but the Bible calls it an evil spirit.

"1 John 4:18
"there is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love."

Forgive the girls who laughs at you. To forgive, you don't have to condone their sin. It is done more for you, than for her.

Hebrews 12:15 bitterness defiles
"Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;"

Don't have flashbacks about things that have been done to you. Forgive and put it behind you and don't look back.

The beginning of all healing in this planet is the salvation of all people. Christ is Perfect Love and you need Him.

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Answer 8

you have to let things roll of your shoulders. sure school can be frustrating, but you have to keep your attitude in check. who cares if some girl is laughin at you. whoopie. did you ever think that she is tryin to piss you off more? ignore it. and maybe get a punchin bag, join karate or something....let out that anger!

Answer 9

uhh normally someone would tell you to release your anger and do all that excesses and all that ,in this case i'll give you another answer and a question,does and has anyone shown you love?(no of fence) if not i think you need some love,relax.........hug your parents or smth,it totally helps....

Answer 10

i too had an anger problem at one time and it took me years to learn to control it. then my son had it too. not as bad now as it used to be and he is 16. its hard to control and it makes you mad at yourself. if it is too bad you may want to find someone to talk to about it. but you need to learn that it is ok. just try to learn self control. it will be tough but i am sure you can do it especially if you say it is getting better. it takes time. learn patience (and that is hard!)