I think the high divorce rate is primarily contributed to immature behaviors and attitudes of many Americans. Since the military develops self-discipline and respect, which are two qualities that are seriously deficient in America, I think the divorce rate will go much lower because many more Americans will respect and love their significant other much more and will develop more self-discipline, which would help prevent them from cheating or doing anything else stupid.
Also, after being in boot camp for a long time and being deprived of female companions, I developed a more heartful respectful for women. I don't know why, I guess when as a guy you go through such a painful experience for so long without women it makes you appreciate them more. Kind of like how you appreciate a nice, warm meal after going on a hunger strike.
I could be very wrong, and most people (including me) would think that this is a crazy idea. But I'm just curious to know what you guys would think about it.
2007-12-05 03:10:01 · 12 answers · asked by airforcewolf 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I totally disagree with you. The high divorce rate is due to couples getting married who are not best friends.
While being immature can be somewhat of a factor, not knowing the person that you are marrying is a much bigger factor.
I have never seen statistics that show that military personal have longer or more stable marriages.
Where I do agree with you is that beyond two people being best friends, they must respect each other. What makes a good stable and lasting marriage is two best friends who trust, respect and love each other.
Take care,
Troy
2007-12-05 04:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boot camp and AIT aren't going to prevent anyone from cheating. In AIT men and women are together and from what I heard there is a lot of cheating going on. Also, the military is not for everyone. Some people come out fine, others come out changed and psycho. My ex-boyfriend did. We dated 4 year. He was great before he joined but then he came back as an abusive controlling freak. Everyone saw the change. I have seen several people leave find and come back nuts. They do a real mind f*ck on some of those people in there. I think that they are weak minded when they go in and that is the reason.
However, I have met some that are mature grown men when they come out and the military does them a lot of good. My two cousins are both in the Mililtary. One is 101st Airborn and has served in Iraq several times. He is going to Afganastan in the winter of 08. I am very proud of him and so is his wife.
Also, we are at war. You have to take in account that the divorce rate jumps for people in the military during war time. War changes people and the distance between spouses causes issues. It did in WWII, Korean War, Vietnam, Gulf War 1 and now this one. However, the military is trying to do their part in the prevention by offering counseling to married individuals apon return of the spouse. They can talk via satallite phone and internet. Even with all that said, the distance and time apart still does it's damage.
So my answer to you is No. I don't think your idea will help the divorce rate. Good try though.
2007-12-05 11:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having been in the military, I would say that the type of discipline it instills in individuals is not helpful for the maintenance of relationships. People are only human and individuals who have been through boot camp are not less likely to cheat. I think your idea is interesting, but incorrect.
2007-12-05 13:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by smt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the military has nothing to due with lowering the divorce rate. I think compulsory service is a worse idea, since the government can't even afford to take care of its veterans now.
2007-12-05 11:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The military has one of the highest divorce rates in the US.
I can personally attest that i have three friends that got divorced as a result of one or both being in the military.
2007-12-05 11:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by FlyingScooter 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the military considers themselves a marriage counseling service. They need career people who are adept with high-tech equipment, not unwilling conscripts who are in and out in a year. In nations that have national service, career military people are usually thought of as losers precisely becuase the majority do their time and then get out.
2007-12-05 11:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by michinoku2001 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So many people get divorced in the military! The service can tear couples apart.
2007-12-05 11:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wrong...wrong...wrong.
The military makes you more of what you already are. If you are screwed up, it makes you more screwed up.
As a veteran I can tell you story after story of kids that were sent to the military by families that thought they were going to fix whatever they had screwed up in a kid only to have them return home in worse shape.
But, that being said...if you have a good foundation, it will make you great.
2007-12-05 11:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jonny B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No - the divorce rate in the military is higher than among civilians.
2007-12-05 11:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
That's crazy. Military people are MORE likely to get divorced.
2007-12-05 11:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋