A good friend of mine wants to go out of town this weekend to see a friend of hers. Her guy is freaking out (although he was invited to go, he refuses to) he has stated that when she gets home, he will be "gone"...
My question is a WHY question, not is this right or wrong... But why do men feel that they have to be dominate in relationships? And HOW do women handle this? Please be honest!
2007-12-05 02:56:31 · 6 answers · asked by T. 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
he is probably like that in other things, probably not a first time only thing. isn't unreasonable domination a sign of weakness; low self esteem. he also would not be able to control her while she was gone.
it would depend on how she has handled that in the past, because unless they have only been together a very short while, he has acted out like this before. how much does she care about him and his little hissy fit temper tantrum? does she want this much drama every time they disagree?
how she handles it is based on what she is looking for in him. it can't be fun with that level of domination. i think he is bluffing. if he is not, hasta la vista baybee, don't let the door hit you in the *** on the way out.
2007-12-05 08:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by tomjohn2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we feel we have to be dominant because we have been raised to be head of the house. Were suppose to take care of our families and work hard for them. Honestly, sometimes when the woman is in charge some men might feel emasculated, especially if shes bossy.
My girl and i keep the powers in our relationship very even, meaning nobody is the boss or in charge. We take care of each other. But some guys are like, "no way. I'm the boss" and wont even let their wives work because they feel its their job.
I guess women can handle it by letting the man know shes capable of making decisions just as good or better. Or tell him not to over do the macho guy thing. although sometimes i get macho with my girl. lol but mostly not over doing it.
About the guy freaking out. If her wont let his woman go hang out with his friends then thats too much. Maybe hes afraid that she might cheat on him or something more than likely. So he needs to have a beer and st down and wait till she gets home.
2007-12-05 03:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by John 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married in this type of situation for 10 yrs. It was his way or the highway. I finally got up the courage to choose the highway and got divorced. NO ONE should give into ultimatims like that. I say good riddance to bad rubbish.
2007-12-05 03:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by ruby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe there was more then being donminate here!
what happend excally
did the women storm in and say I'm going here and your welcome to go (cuz that's demanding) there was no asking
did she ask her partner if it was okay (that's the nice way)
and how if her parnter says he didn't want to go or want her to go how did they talk about it. How did he exspress why she shouldn't go!
maybe he had something special planned!
i don't know the sistiation but i assume there was a lack of full commuinication! as well as comprise!
what have both of them done to make it work!
maybe if she only goes for one day or what not !!! comprimse!
2007-12-05 03:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he just needs to mature past his own insecurities. Once that happens that type of behavior will stop (so insecurity is the answer to "why")
He may grow past it, he may not.. nothing she can really do to help that along...
If you have complete control (dominance), then you don't have to worry about your insecurities.
2007-12-05 03:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are like that. In fact, most men aren't like that. It seems that you friend's beau is very insecure about himself and untrusting. She'd do well to leave him.
2007-12-05 03:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Honky Kong 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋