Want to know more opinions,not so many from the breastfeeding nazi's tho plz?

Question

Why do women protest so much about breastfeeding in public?It really annoys me because they may feel they are doing a good job etc etc (heard it all before), but what they don't think about is what if parents haven't spoken to their young children about sex education and where baqbies come from yet this would distress a child to see this and force the parents into having to talk about it before their ready which just isnt fair. I think its all well and good that women breast feed if they choose to but is it absolutley necessary to actually get em out in public?Sometimes feel as though they do it because they feel in a way proud of it and want every one to see them do it and then winge if anyone remarks.i work in a shop at weekend where i fit childrens shoes,and it absolutley horrible when women come in and breastfeed because i have to be on my knees when i do fitting and theyr like in my face doing it its so unfair i jus dnt want to see that.Anyone agree?

Nancy:don't answer then, i did say i didn't want opinions from breastfeeding mothers because i don't like it and i don't want your opinion i couldn't have made it clearer so why answer anyway?

How dare you assume i feeling about MY body i respect mine unlike so many mothers who come in and feel the need to get their great hefty baloon boobs out in front of all the children and customers especially when im serving them, its like they think oh shes female so i feel comfortable, well im not its gross and if i wasn't at risk of being sacked if i complained then i would ask them to cover up or leave because i don't want to see that.They always do it around dinner time aswell, well yeah your babies hungry and so am i but it makes me feel sick!why are breastfeeding women always fat with huge gross saggy boobs aswel.

Did you know you have named your child after a bird house?

Pregnant women?If i had children and i didn't want to be forced into a sex ed talk then i would just say shes fat or eats too much.

The trampy women probably have nice bodies like me that we can show off and should because its nice for people to see, so stop being jealous because youv'e had children and your body is wrecked so you can't show it off and have people appreciate your figure.

Thanks anyway for giving a fair view given you a point, but no when i have children i would never ever breastfeed, i want to keep my boobs looking good.and i would certainly never do it in public.

I do not see breastfeeding as sexual at all, i think it springs off many questions for children to ask, e.g. what is that lady doing, (feeding her baby), why is she doing it with her boobs? (because she wants to)where did her baby come from (her tummy) how did it get there and so on and so forth

Why should my boss have to pay his hard earned money to equip breastfeeding mums a nice comfortable place to breastfeed, am sure he pays enough taxes anyways so he probably pays to keep them in diapers coz of child support anyway. and moreover its a SHOESHOP!not a baby cafe, my main annoyance is why wait untill they are in our shop why not go to asda and do it?its like coz were all women,what they don't know is we all disagree with them doing it.and its not discreet at all in trying to fit their babies shoes and they are literally doing it in front of my face its ignorant and unfair.

Can i just say im not american so what with the have you any idea how many US soldiers died, why would i im not american??im english and i care how many britsish soldiers fought and dies against them, my grandfather including. a breastfeeding nazi is a phrase that has been used where i come from far away from the commercialised fake frankly annoying place your from, as a term for annoying women who bully bottle feeding women into breastfeeding and do things like boycot cafe who don't let them breast feed .Americans did not do any thing about the nazis untill the last sector of the 2nd world war so dont get all patrotic on me plz...!

Can i just say im not american so what with the have you any idea how many US soldiers died, why would i im not american??im english and i care how many britsish soldiers fought and dies against them, my grandfather including. a breastfeeding nazi is a phrase that has been used where i come from far away from the commercialised fake frankly annoying place your from, as a term for annoying women who bully bottle feeding women into breastfeeding and do things like boycot cafe who don't let them breast feed .Americans did not do any thing about the nazis untill the last sector of the 2nd world war so dont get all patrotic on me plz...!

When did i say i was pregnant!!i wanna keep my figure thanks

(jen b )"Don't you dare blah blah blah" i just did??

Answer 1

You have issues with women breastfeeding, and yet you don't want to hear the opinions of nursing mothers. Lovely.

I feed my baby because my baby needs to eat, and that's how he eats. I assume that people around me would rather me feed my baby than listen to him cry. Parents can tell their children the truth- she's feeding her baby. it's not a big deal.

If you don't want to see mothers nursing babies, sounds like you have the wrong job.

Answer 2

There is either one of two things happening either he is latching incorrectly or there is a problem inside his mouth like a 'tongue-tie'. Some good points on latching a baby: 1) Keep his body turned into yours 2) When he is latched on you should see more areola visible above his top lip and much less or none visible below his bottom lip. (usually this is the most common problem with latch - when mother brings baby to the breast she also pushes her breast down which makes the nipple end up pointing at the babies tongue - when this baby is latched on momma doesn't see any areola above top lip or only a very small amount yet there is a large amount visible below the bottom lip - when positioned like this every time the baby sucks he is scraping your nipple against his tongue. 3) When latched on infants mouth should be wide open like a yawn - if not you can gently pull down on his chin to open his mouth wider 4) Top and bottom lip should be flanged out To answer your question - if there is this much pain when nursing then yes you need to do something else. If only one nipple is damaged then try to feed him off the other nipple for the next 24 hours. You could also try hand expressing and then spoon feeding him everything you get out. If you hand express correctly then you will not be squeezing the nipple should this should cause no discomfort. You could try pumping although at only 2 days post delivery it is not likely that you will get anything out with pumping. If you try hand expressing and pumping and you are unable to get anything out with either of those options and you can not put the baby to the breast then you can use formula. I strongly recommend giving a hypoallergenic formula and giving only small amounts at 2 days of age 10-15mls tops but not with a bottle nipple - you could try a syringe, cup, finger feeding. If you are still in the hospital ask your nurse to find you the most qualified person on the floor that knows about breastfeeding. If you are not in the hospital try to contact a lactation consultant (IBCLC) the hospital that you delivered at may have one. Or else call your local La Leche League - you can find there information online. I see many comments that say do not use formula and as much as exclusive breastmilk is recommended in some cases the pain is so intense that there is no other options (unless mother is able to get donated breastmilk) the baby must eat.

Answer 3

Well, I think just like everything in life, there is a wrong way and a right way to do things. I do not believe that it is wrong to nurse in public, but I am for being discreet about it. Children need to eat and breast milk is far less disgusting than the fast food I watch people shove in their mouths. Yet, having nursed myself, I believe it important to not make people uncomfortable with it. That is why there are blankets and wraps that allow you to feed and not feel exposed. I do agree there are women out there who want to make a point and in the process make people feel uncomfortable with nursing. Nursing is not a statement, it is a natural act. Yet, real class comes from doing what you need to do without making everyone around you uncomfortable.
As far as children not being educated about sex, there is nothing sexual about breastfeeding. And, children should not grow up thinking there is something wrong with it because that just facilitates that thinking into later generations. I never understood why with the big push toward organic and all natural, we still shy away from the most natural (and healthy) food we can give our children.

Answer 4

I'm a formula mother and not ashamed about it in the least bit & I entirely disagree with your opinion. You have a right to your opinion, but I'll negate it with my views since you've asked.

I don't think that a child who isn't (or is) familiar with sexual education would be distressed to see a mother breastfeeding her baby. The idea that breasts are sexual only comes from learned knowledge. And the type of birds and bees information that young children do learn most likely wouldn't include intimately sexual body parts. It would (IMO SHOULD) only be fact of life info instead.
Likewise, if an adult (you) considers this action sexual, they're either uneducated or misinformed.

I don't believe women breastfeed in public out of pride & because they WANT everyone to see it. I think they do it out of neccessity. If a baby needs to eat, then it's the mother's responsibilty to feed their child.

I believe you have a right to quitely remove yourself from any situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. Talk to your boss first, but I think you have the right to fit a baby for shoes after the mother has finished breastfeeding. If your boss doesn't agree and this situation makes you really uncomfortable, it's time to find another job... not slander mothers that are nurturing their children.

EDIT... I am pissed off that I wasted my time answering your question. You aren't looking for opinions to broaden your knowledge. You're looking to bash anyone who disagrees with you. So sad.
You're 18 & pregnant. You can't change your age and you've already declared that you're having this baby, but you can change your nasty attitude. Please try to be a bit more openminded. Live and let live. When you're uncomfortable with something, remove yourself from the situation.

Answer 5

You are kind of a sad person, huh? I have seen both of your questions and all the great answers that you have gotten. I think it's time you left this one alone. If you don't want to breastfeed, thats fine your baby would be heathly either way, maybe you should consisder not having kids at all, being that you are soo proud of your body and all. But if you truly feel so uncomfortable with seeing women in public FEED their babies then maybe you should get a new job that does not involve people. Good luck with that:)

Answer 6

do you avoid feeding your child from a bottle in public?
then why should a woman avoid breastfeeding in public?
they don't do it to "show off"--they do it to feed their child!
and personally, provocative & revealing clothing should be more of a concern than breastfeeding!! a child should be more distressed at *that*! most women that breastfeed are discreet about it & actuallly show LESS skin than the trampy women do!
breastfeeding isn't sex ed. it isn't about "where babies come from".

edit: now you're just being rude to people. grow up. i'm glad you don't have kids! what a relief!!

edit2: actually i haven't had kids. and your attitude makes you much uglier than any amount of fat in the world.

btw, PREGNANCY does the number on the boobs, NOT breastfeeding. so you may want to avoid having kids at all. (please)

odd that you're okay with women going around mostly nude (and NO they are not always in shape!) and THAT isn't sexual, but breastfeeding *is*?!? are you okay with people making lewd comments about trampiness or making out in front of kids?

well, guess what? you have to explain things to kids, that's called parenting. and the sooner you talk to them about sex, the better, since there are so many predators in the world (and many of the people that would abuse a child are family & friends, not strangers). i know of families that include their young kids in the birth of their siblings, and those kids are very well adjusted.

btw, you sound like an "anti-breastfeeding nazi"...
an annoying girl who tries to bully breastfeeding women into bottle feeding and does things like raise a huge fuss if a woman breast feeds within view

Answer 7

So women are supposed to spend over a hundred dollars a month on formula because breastfeeding makes you uncomfortable? Is it possible that you have a problem with breastfeeding women because, in your other post, you are pregnant and you're in denial about it. When you have the baby, if you can get over yourself for 5 seconds, you will notice they give other signs that they are hungry besides "screaming they're heads off". And just because a baby is crying doesn't mean its hungry either. And if you're on your knees fitting children's shoes how can the breastfeeding mom be "like in your face"? I really doubt she has you putting shoes on the baby while she's feeding.

You said you were pregnant here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=An.JRZuzXA1Uj_aMLspC6gHsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071108052131AAilap7


if you don't want you other Q&A thrown back at you you need to change your profile preferences.

Answer 8

Women don't breastfeed in public for the show of it!! They do it because their baby is hungry. What would you rather them do, go hide in a nasty public bathroom or sit in their car and baby and mother both be uncomfortable?? Breastfeeding has no impact on "sex education"! She is FEEDING her baby not MAKING one, and that's what parents would tell their children if they saw and asked. It's not the mothers' problem that you are uncomfortable with such a natural act. Grow up.

Answer 9

I disagree. For one thing, it is only in the last century that women did NOT breastfeed in public because before that, formula wasn't an option. For another, feeding a baby has nothing to do with sex, so there is no reason to have to give a child sex-education just to explain to him that babies eat that way. Puppies nurse, kittens nurse, baby humans do, too. Would you shield them from seeing puppies and kittens nursing, or would you feel like you had to tell them about sex if they saw puppies nursing? How about pregnancy? If they see a pregnant woman, and say something about her being fat, would you rather the child come away with that misconception or would you let them in on the fact that babies grow inside their mommies for a while before they are born? Or would you rather pregnant women remain cloistered until the birth so that a young child isn't exposed to the ugly facts before they are ready?

Edit after all your additional information: Oh, I see. You don't want honest opinions at all. You just want to push your ignorant point of view with vulgar comments and trashy language. Please move this discussion to the etiquette forum, and away from women who actually HAVE children and know what they are talking about.

My humble apologies for stepping into a conversation where intelligence and respect are not desired.

Answer 10

Well, first off, you asked that only people who agree with you respond. So, it doesn't look like a question to me. And secondly, a nursing babe is innocent and you have some serious issues with your feelings about the human body and the God given abilities of breasts to nourish babies. Honestly, if you are so uncomfortable with it, it may be in your best interests to seek counseling about why you are ashamed of seeing breasts, or babies nursing. I am not saying you personally have to nurse your own children if you feel ashamed or have guilty sexual feelings about your body- for any reason- whether from abuse as a child, or just your precept ion though the media, who knows? You don't eat alone in a closet, you dine in a public restaurant- why should it be any different for the most innocent and vulnerable humans on the planet?

Oh, and comparing a nursing mother to a murderous Nazi? Do you have any clue the destruction and death of the Nazi regime? Do you know how many US soldiers died - how many soldiers all over the wolrd died to protect innocent people from being used as science experiements and having their children gassed to death? You belittle the suffering and deaths of millions even using the term so unacceptably. What if someone made some horrific abuse you suffered into a joke? Or the death of your children and family into a joke.


You know so little about respect and history and biology it is frightening. It is honestly astounding and disturbing. It is uplifting to hear you have not brought children into this world. Whoever raised you did you a great diservice. Poor girl.

Answer 11

I don't breastfeed, only because I couldn't. If I had, you can bet that I would do it in "public". I have entirely too much to do to stay home just to feed the baby so that people like you aren't offended.

Have you suggested to your employer that they provide an adequate place for breastfeeding patrons? And I don't mean sitting on the toilet in a stall. I mean a comfortable chair in a quiet place.