I am now 15 and I lost my daughter on april 17, 2006 and this past christmas was soooo hard because her daddy and i couldn't be together any longer because of the way he chose to deal with her death can i do to deal with the pain this christmas??
2007-12-05 02:43:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry i meant to say WHAT can i do to help with the pain of her being gone?
2007-12-05 02:45:02 · update #1
spend lots of time with family and friends
2007-12-05 02:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi. I am so sorry for your loss. While I have not been in your shoes with losing a child, I have lost people very close to me when I felt like I should have had more time with them.
One of the things that I do is to try and find a way to remember them during the holidays. Since it was your daughter, maybe you could choose a needy child from your area to buy some things for. Is there a support group in your area for grieving parents? If so, you might try joining in at least for a few sessions.
For me, the key has been to allow myself some time to grieve, and try to do things that I think they would have enjoyed if they were still here.
I think everyone handles grief differently and you just need to find out what works for you.
2007-12-05 10:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by Carol G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. There are a few ways you can look at this. One way I would choose to see it is.. You are still a child so loosing yours (as hard and unfair as it is) could be a blessing in disguise for you. Now you can have your childhood back that you would have lost. You are going to be more hardened than other children your age because most of them havent had to deal with what you have. But you have the chance to start your life over. It's more than alright to think of her, but she would want you to be happy and move on with your life.
2007-12-05 11:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by Stefani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some believe the best way to deal with that kind of loss and pain is to do something for others. Volunteer at a shelter or nursing home.
2007-12-05 10:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by jen_ny6 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Remember her and cherish the time you had with her. It is always hard to lose a loved one. Holidays make it especially hard. Time will make it better, but it isn't easier now. I lost my father 4 years ago, I miss him terribly still. As time has gone on it gets easier to deal with the loss, but it still hurts. I just try and remember him and the good times and I feel blessed I got to know him for as long as I did.
2007-12-05 11:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry for your loss, but at 15 your only a child yourself. Time will heal but for now, please go on birth control. Go to your local health dept, you can do it for almost no cost or some places don't charge at all. Get yourself a new guy too, your far to young to be all grown up, enjoy your youth, once its gone its gone.
2007-12-05 11:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Death is hard but it's a part of life. Just know that she is more peaceful. Be happy for all the good memories
2007-12-05 11:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Aware 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must grieve and move on. One should not wallow in self pity. You're life will have no purpose. I have kids and I cannot imagine losing them. Be grateful for every day you had which is probably not much if you're only 15.
2007-12-05 11:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time heals all wounds. Forget the guy, get on with your life and use birth control. At 15, you are still a child yourself.
2007-12-05 10:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You poor thing, I'm so sorry, you will be in my prayers. Please seek some counseling for yourself and urge your ex-bf to do so as well. You need a person to help you find your way through the grieving process. Also, don't isolate yourself, although I am sure that you will want to. Surround yourself as much as possible with trusted and close family (or friends). Talk to your family about your feelings so they can help to provide you with as much support as you need. Please take care of yourself, and again, prayers to you.
2007-12-05 10:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♀Redheaded Sunshine☼ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why are you having a baby at 14? Take time to grow up. Everything happens for a reason.
2007-12-05 10:59:51 · answer #11 · answered by cooter726 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋