It could be there all it is work,eat and sleep like as if your single, lack of or no internation (like conservation or doing things on weekend). With the holidays here i think its worst emotional when you are feeling alone.
2007-12-05 02:09:13 · 19 answers · asked by just hanging around 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it tends to get lonely when the kids are grown and the two of you have gotten into a routine of going your own way and doing your own thing. Thanksgiving was always special in my home growing up and when I married that all changed. He goes hunting on Thanksgiving day and sometimes I cook a large meal and he comes in long enough to eat and then he''s back in the woods. Holidays just aren't what they use to be. I never thought my marriage would become just like my parents but it has.
2007-12-05 02:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was VERY lonely in my marriage. The holidays were the worse. He would stay in our bedroom and not want to come out. It's kinda sad because he acually slept the holidays away and missed a lot of activities that he could have done with me and our children. I would have to wake him up to open gifts and have dinner. And it wasn't because of work. Alcohol, drugs and depression was the culprit. That and the fact he refused to acknowldge there was a problem and accept help.
I still spend the holidays alone. But at least now I am single!
2007-12-05 02:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by The Evolution of T. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought I had the most wonderful guy in the world for a husband. Him & I recently got married, we have a long distant marriage and he does plan to move out to where I am in a couple of months. I am feeling lonely and not the closenest I used to feel with him anymore. Now I am left wondering if I should have ever married him. Why is it during courting a man gives it his best shot. My husband was so into me, him and I talked and shared intimate feelings, he showed he cared whenever him and I had conflict. Now being married it seems as if all of that is gone. I feel he is more into a power struggle with me and he no longer opens his heart up, reveals his fears and feelings, infact he is like a polite stranger. We have conflict, he avoids me by not calling me, it is usually me that calls to make up and I have grown resentful of this. I have pulled away in the way I talk to him, he sees a change, does not like it, but still has not made any effort to change it. It is as if he is happy being a distant, polite stranger. I am getting lonely and fear I may just plan to end the marriage. I thought he was the perfect guy, turns out he is like all the rest, insensitive and uncaring.
2007-12-05 02:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what scares me about getting married. I think my Grandparents have the loneliest marriage I have ever seen. They barely talk and it's not like a loving quiet -- it just seems like they don't want to be bothered.
He doesn't even like being in the house with her. He's 75 and financially secure, but he still finds little handyman jobs and stuff to do so he's not with her.
They never go out to dinner together, they don't go on vacations. I don't know how Grandparents can stand it. They seperated once for 15 years. Not sure how or why they got back together
2007-12-05 02:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Original_Syn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. I've been married 7 years and have 4 kids. Sometimes I feel like Mom & Dad. My husband has a lot of friends and spends most of the time talking to them on the phone or going over to their house. I have learned to not let it bother me and I refuse to get into a depressed state of mind and an emotional rut. I have started doing things that please me such as riding horses, taking long walks, going to the zoo with my youngest child, etc. In general, he is no longer the center of my universe. I still love him, but I don't worship the ground he walks on.
2007-12-05 02:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone goes through those phases in any long term committed relationship.
My husband was alone for many yrs and now having me and 2 kids is just plain too noisy for him. He will occasionally spend a week or so hiding in the bedroom or garage and it used to really bother me but I have learned that if I tell him who needs him and why he snaps out of it.
Every one needs to be alone with themselves once in a while and it really is OK as long as you can keep it in check and talk about it.
2007-12-05 02:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely hear ya.. I am married and Do not get me wrong I love my husband dearly.. But there are many times I feel alone.. No real conversation.. We don't go anywhere and do anything.. It hurts and I can't help but wonder WHAT DID WE GO WRONG.. But I keep trying and I am not ready to give up yet.. This is where it is nice to have a friend to talk to..
2007-12-05 02:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Gail C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's horrible, but I'm stupid enough to stay, been "alone" for over a week now, but hey, I get the bed to myself....And I totally agree, during the holidays it's horrible, hell, he keeps turning off the tree and outside lights I put up...what a party pooper he is!
2007-12-05 04:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by Dolly J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married... and I feel alone. I feel like we pretend when we are out with other people... but at home, I feel like I might as well be by myself or just living with a roommate.
It is one of the worse feelings.
All I can suggest is to talk to your spouse...thats what I'm doing now and we are trying to work on things.
Good luck
2007-12-05 02:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I guess it is natural after reading all of the commments. I try to deal with it, and sometimes I try to talk about it with him. It helps for awhile and then goes back to the way it was. I love my husband too, but I think men just don't get into the emotional connection like us women do.
I think men are "emotionally retarded" to some degree. Not all men are like that, but it seems like the men who are connected with their wife complain that their wife is too distant emotionally.
Go figure...
2007-12-05 02:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋