How do you not care of what people may think of you?

Question

I tell myself that I won't care what anyone may think of or say about me but that's a lie; I still care! How can stop being so self-concious?

Answer 1

You must develop and follow a belief system that you feel convinced is right. Once you do that, you will have less or little concern about what others feel about how you live and what you do, BECAUSE you are already convinced of the rightness of your lifestyle, and you can defend it.

Currently, you do not have a belief system that you have confidence in, by which you can align your life. Therefore, you lack confidence in how you live and what you do.

As a result, you seek the affirmation and approval of others.

Once you develop a belief system that you have absolute confidence in, and you align your life with it, YOU will be in position to help others to see how they should live and not vice-versa.

For example, some people find their conviction in religion, based on the Bible. And become convinced that they know what is right, and therefore have little concern about the judgments of others.

Others find that confidence in other belief systems. The key is to have a belief system that you trust and have confidence in.

Answer 2

That's a really good question and I'm sorry to say I don't have the answer because I've done the same thing, still become self-concious. I guess, after a while, if you just ignore them, the feeling goes away slowly. But....if what ever anyone says, makes you feel hurt, just know they're being rude and uncaring and are probably jelous of you in some way. And your friends will always be there to help ya, don't forget that.

Answer 3

Ive got the same problem, my frend. What i do to help my self is if people laugh at me because im wearing something different, i think "well tomorrow is a new day" or sometimes if it's because of a zit, i say, "when you do start puberty lets see your face!" sometimes i just ignore them and walk away. But i must admit it's very hard to stop being self concious. No body isn't self-concoius at some point in their life, but we usually grow out of it. It's mainly a teen thing so don't worry.

Answer 4

For me, the whole 'not caring' thing came with age. I cared a lot about what people thought up until I was around 28 yrs old. After a while it just gets too exhausting trying to live to impress people. I don't know how old you are, but give yourself some time.

Answer 5

You are always going to care what others think of you it is just human nature when you have a heart. Try not to worry about it though and be the best that you know you can be and try and forget what others think are say. Most of the time anyway when you think people are talking about you they really are not.

Answer 6

You need to be comfortable with yourself and have confidence in yourself. Find your strong points, the things you are comfortable with on your body, whether it is inside or out and focus on those things. When you think you are beautiful inside and out so will everyone else! Also, when someone does talk about you, make fun, or whatever it is they are doing it means one thing... THEY ARE SELF CONCIOUS and it makes them feel better in some twisted way!

Answer 7

You never really stop being self-conscious, unless you're me and you've completely closed yourself off to feeling anything. That's not really the route to go. The point is that if you keep pretending, you probably will wind up not caring what people think about you.

Answer 8

I just remind myself that ultimately those other people are not the ones I go home with and that I spend every moment with. The only person who fits that description is myself. Thus what others think is irrelevant so long as I am ok with what I am doing or saying or looking like. If someone else doesnt like it, they can kindly leave my vicinity.

Answer 9

You have to know the difference between how you view yourself and how other may view you.
If someone says something negative about you, its going to affect you regardless of you saying you are not going to be hurt or care what they say.
So you have to be honest with youself and who you are. So when someone says something about you, you can know internally thats true and thats a flaw of mine that I will have to work on. Or thats not true and its something you are just going to have to continue to show is not true by your daily actions.
You do not need to prove anything, just continue being yourself.
But bottom line you cannot just say Im not gonna care what people say about me and then not care. You are human and have feelings, we are vulnerable by our feelings and thats why we get hurt when we care.
Just take things in stride and know who you are and stay true to who you are regardless.

Answer 10

You have to realize that if you IQ is over 100, and since you're smart enough to be on Yahoo Answers then it probably is, then most of the people with opinions of you are dumber than you. That always makes me feel good about myself.