My partner says he can't get to sleep in our bed and has, for the last 4 or 5 days gone to sleep in the spare room. He says I wake him up. We have been under alot of stress lately. Our sex life hasn't changed much.
2007-12-05 01:59:14 · 29 answers · asked by nesta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
bring the bed from the spare room into your bedroom or go sleep with him in the spare room if he complains there is more to it than he just can't sleep in your bed.
2007-12-05 02:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't worry too much. My fiance and I sleep seperately somtimes for a few reasons. We have a new baby and my fiance is VERY loud whether he's talking, coughing or snoring and often wakes him up. I'm always hot and have a fan in the window even now (it's 20 degrees in Maine right now) and he's always cold so he sleeps on the couch. When I was about 7 months pregnant I started sleeping downstairs because I had to pee every 5 minutes and the bathroom is downstairs. As long as your sex life is ok and everything else is still good, don't worry too much.
2007-12-05 02:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by christina30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nesta, I have been sleeping separately from my husband since the last 13 months or so...Our 15 month old has been sleeping in our bed since he was about two months old and it's not as comfortable sleeping with him in our bed...Although our other two children have never slept a day in our bed this one was sick since he was born so we decided it would be bettter to have him sleep with us...Now that he is better we are trying our best to put him in his crib and it's not working very well...My point is by sharing my experience with you he might be very much be telling you the truth and it may not be anything worse then we think...My parents also slept in opposite rooms because my dad had a huge snoring problem that kept my mother up most of the night...My husband and I manage to make time together to be intimate so that is not aproblem at all for us..Communicating with your husband is important so that you both don't lose focus...Don't panic you'll both be fine...Be well....
2007-12-06 02:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does he mean you wake him up? do you toss and turn all night that would be understandable but if your not do you think he is just making it up not to sleep with you.stress is a very bad thing it can ruin the best of people i would just let it be for know.i can see if 2 months down the road he is still sleeping in the spare room then i would be concerned take him for his word he is your husband and i am sure he loves you alot men cannot handle stress the way woman handle it.
2007-12-05 02:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i always say a marriage w/o intamicy isn't a marriage. unless you really really really have an understanding and thats rare. this reminds me of my parents when i was young all the sudden my dad would fall asleep on the couch instead of his room. then came the leaving late at night, then the arguing, and then the phone call from the husband of the woman he was sleeping with for two years and has kids aswell as he does. so i think you should sit down and have a talk especially if you have kids and if it is that you wake him up maybe you should get a sleep number bed.
2007-12-05 02:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by brenpren07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens at times.Please see that it doesn't last long in this manner.Why not abstain from having sex for a few nights and just squeeze into his bed hugging and kissing him all over after a few days of restraint.I am sure , he will love it.Have your usual DO and then keep pulling him until he comes and sleeps together .....allow him to relax in his own way.......and, later on , after having some HOTTT STUFF start all those things all over again .This should be on a Saturday night .....remember.Best O' Luck !
God Bless
2007-12-05 02:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by bikashroy9 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. He's probably just wanting a good night of sleep. I've been married for 12 yrs. and my husband and I sleep separate. I cannot sleep when he's in the bed with me. He tosses and turns, sucks the wall paper off the walls when he snores, and he only sleeps in spurts so he watches tv during his waking hours. I love him dearly but he spends his nights on the couch where HE prefers to be. Thank God for small miracles!!!!
2007-12-05 02:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't sleep in your bed maybe you need to get a new mattress. If it is just because he cannot get a proper sleep unless alone and your sex life hasn't been affected, then it isn't a problem. I would miss the warm body beside me though.
2007-12-05 02:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it lasts for a while and then goes back to normal, it may just be the stress. But if it continues then you need to do a little more investigating. What are you doing that keeps him up? Try to fix the problem. Hopefully, it is the stress that's keeping him up and he just thinks it's you, so once things calm down, it will go back to the way it was.
2007-12-05 02:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't worry about it. For some people it's just easier to sleep separately...if one person snores loudly or tosses and turns a lot, the other person can't sleep and needs their own bed. I think it's really the best all around!
2007-12-05 02:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've had separate bedrooms for the last 12 years and love it. He can come visit any time he wants to. And sometimes I visit him. We'd have done it years before if we hadn't had all those kids. I know a couple, 30+ year marriage, she sleeps on the couch. No more faithful couple in the world, other than us.
2007-12-05 02:02:26 · answer #11 · answered by Little Lulu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋