Hello
I have been married ten years. To a man that was first loving to me and then kind of drifted off in his own shadow to speak.
So After having two kids now 5 1/2 and ten boy and a girl, I got my life on track. went to college 14 units. certificate in teaching with childcare.
My husband is not knowing proper disciplne and the home gets kind f chaotic. He works 6pm to 6am as an engineer and does not know hot to adjust to things or persistance.
I am very flexible unless people do not accomodate well like 50/50 then I walk away.
I feel this marriage has been a one way street.
the only things I feel are risky are my health I have lupus
my childrens needs
and the money. I have a bit saved up but thats what it all boils down to and he does make a good salary, so I am going to be ok if he wont be a dead beat dad in the end???
ADVICE THANKS
ps we also have a 4,000 mortgage and he never listens to my advice. Two homes. lol! OMG divorce and get $? 4K?
2007-12-05 01:43:31 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, you think its that easy to leave? You need to talk to my friends, LOTS of single moms and lady, they don't even PRETEND its easy to leave a man you've had kids with. That aside, DO NOT FAIL YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE!!!!! NEVER EVER make a choice like that, and if your purpose is anything different then those kiddos, your a heartless *****, but I know thats not the truth, but my point is, that you better fight one heck of a good fight with this fella to get him to relate better or esle you'll always be stuck wondering if he could of changed, if you would of tried harder. Even that aside, you havn't tried everything, you want to know how I know? He is still the same..... lets just say its in his past, not his relationships past, but his ENTIRE PAST!!!! Get him to relate all that honestly and you can save him, if not, then yes leave, doesn't matter what you get out of it, just go, its the kiddos that are the purpose, not him...... aslo 12 hour shifts means he is wasted, their no way to get an individual who goes thru a 12 hour day to be worth a crap, and then on the weekends its recovery time, so unless that changes, he is stuck in fatigue-ville and their can be no hope to change. We don't change well under stress, nor do we do a good job relating, so that could be alot of the problem, to much money as your guy's relaitonship purpose, so your suffering for the amoralness which is the pursuit of happiness thru money.... what do you expect?
2007-12-05 07:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you not go for counseling? maybe it can help..
2007-12-05 16:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by Litereich N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋