when it comes to an engagement ring?
2007-12-05 01:35:14 · 21 answers · asked by Andy J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, bigger does not always mean better when it comes to the value of a diamond. there are a lot of things that go into what a diamond costs...now the more expensive, then yes the better the diamond.
I really think that in today's society we have forgotten about what marriage really is. This is the rest of your life when you make a commitment to marry someone!
If you can really love someone truthfully, and for the rest of eternity, then there should be no part about it that is about the ring. small, huge, non-existent. the marriage is about the love and joining of lives of two people, not about how many people gawk at your hand when you're out and about.
In fact, the two most happily married people I know never had an engagement ring, they wear plain simple gold wedding bands and that's it.
2007-12-05 02:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by stressed to the MAX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Size is one aspect.
For people who understand quality, cut, color, clarity
and carat all matter. A 1/3 carat perfect stone will cost as much as a flawed one three times the size.
So you can walk around with a big stone which is cloudy or you can get a nice smaller one shines that throws off the light.
Assuming that you will be wearing it for some time it is always nice to have the setting checked and cleaned and being told by the jeweler that it is a very nice stone.
That means more than the size.
If you do not have a LOT of money a big stone says, fake and pretentious.
2007-12-05 10:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's selfish and greedy to expect your significant other to buy you such an expensive/big engagement ring. The size of the ring shouldn't matter. What should matter is that he was willing to make such a commitment to you and that he loved you enough to want to marry you. Some people don't have the money to afford huge diamond rings and I think it is sad that people can be so superficial. Expensive things shouldn't be a substitute for love.
2007-12-05 09:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by estephania2182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the size of the ring that matters it's the Honesty, Love and Commitment behind it that matters. Any body that focused on the size of the ring is just selfish, self serving and SHALLOW. And in the relationship for the wrong reasons
2007-12-05 09:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by THIC007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all size shouldn't matter when it comes to engagement ring if you really love a person and want to spend the rest of your life with them the ring shouldn't matter it suppose symbolized love between the both of you.
best of luck
2007-12-05 09:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It matters what his intention is. The size of ring he can afford isn't what matters, but take for example my first husband who didn't even care to get me a ring. It was more than a financial issue, it was that he didn't really care that much. My second marriage I got a very nice ring but there's a lot more to it, he really loves me and cares about me, I'll take that over the ring any day.
2007-12-05 09:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jen70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not to me. What matters is that my man picked the ring out, feeling in his heart that this ring will look beautiful on the finger of the woman he loves.
2007-12-05 09:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To many young women (or their friends & families) it does.
My severe allergy to metal - nickel seems to be in everything - precludes me to accepting a ring I couldn't possibly wear even though I wanted to. If the suitor really wants to express his feelings in a financial way he will find it (even if it's only to impress family & friends). 40 years ago I thought is was unique & amusing when my fiancee bought real estate for me at a cost of $22,000.00 (put the down payment on it the equivalent of a ring) & rented it out - all in my name. After our divorce 25 years ago it was still mine & I sold it in 1982 for $395,000.00 perhaps in that economy I should have held on to it; instead I bought 3 properties & put the down payment then rented them as well. I guess he really cared for me then but as young men reach middle age & have their own problems he divorced me and married my 'best' friend. He seems to be quite happy, our children are happy & so am I. So much for an infuriating allergy.
2007-12-05 10:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by MYRA C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's the wedding band that is of significance, my ring is just under 1 carat and it's perfect for me, but if that's out of your range than any woman should be happy with what they get, that's what's wrong with people today, the thought "doesn't" count anymore and that's a shame...
2007-12-05 13:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dolly J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it matters because the kind of ring you give to a woman tells her what you feel for her, as in she can measure your love with the size of ring you give her.
2007-12-05 09:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by black&proud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋