This weekend I was in bed upset because my boyfriend's family completely ignored me at a family party. I thought my boyfriend follow me to bed and comfort me but he didn't come up for hours. I turned on my laptop the next day and there were pages and pages of porn displayed in the browsing history. I'm so upset, why would a man choose internet women over his girlfriend of 3 years? Can anyone explain, maybe if I understood I wouldn't feel so ugly and unwanted. How can I let him look at my body when I'm so different from the body-perfect porn stars? It hurts to think that it isn't just me who turns him on.
2007-12-05 01:16:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Two points:
1) He has a helluva nerve using YOUR laptop to watch this crap. That would be a major problem for me.
2) The fact that you were hurt and he was too oblivious to notice OR that you were hurt and maybe there wasn't really an obvious reason for it makes all sorts of red lights flash about the relationship. You need to really sit down and think about why you are with this guy. And then you need to either have a good long talk with him or say bye-bye. It does not sound like you are getting any kind of support from him. Maybe that's a case of you being oversensitive, but I doubt it. I think you need this jerk out of your life.
2007-12-05 03:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Maple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi. First I know its hard for you to believe but a guy watching porn rarely has anything to do with whether or not he's totally into you. It's hard to explain. Guys are very visually stimulated. Many of us spent our younger years looking at porn and masturbation. Sometimes it's fun to go back to what you know. There is no partner to worry about. It's just alone time. Guys love to fantisize. I look at porn sometimes myself and it has nothing to do with whether I'm getting sex from my wife, whether or not I love her or am turned on by her body. I hope that this isn't completely confusing for you. My advice is to not worry about it. Talk to him if you want and let him know what you felt bad but try not to be too judgemental about the porn. It's not about you.
2007-12-05 03:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by ictbu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, cause then they could compare our packages to the ones the guys have in porn.
2007-12-05 01:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by sandinmyspeedos5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to lose weight and not be so hung up about it, that way he won't need to get away from you, which i wanna do, even though i've known you just a few seconds. I really don't condone porn at all, as it does in fact give people a stunted view of sex, but how the women look is absolutely realistic. the way you look, if you are as overweight as most average americans, is a far cry from even average, when compared to a porn star, who is picked because of being slightly thin.
2007-12-05 01:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by joelius24 7 · 1⤊ 6⤋
Guys have always watched porn. Porn has been there since when? Nothing wrong with you. Cheer up, cheer him up.
2007-12-05 01:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
You should talk to him about that
2007-12-05 01:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by afshdyhaew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all guys do it
they just want to see something differnt
2007-12-05 07:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by KaMeRiN 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
In a word... YES.
2007-12-05 02:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by ballistik 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋