Is it weird that a woman does not want to change her last name?

Question

My friend got married about a year ago and his wife does not want to change her last name. She has no particular reason. Is that weird?

Answer 1

I think it's alot weird! Even when movie stars do it! I think it's somewhat disrespectful to your husband.If he had a name that was Snotty.And while you didn't dream of the day you first sign your name Mrs.Snotty.You knew their name from the first date.
Who's name will the children have!Respect of carrying on their dad's name.All those names,daughter who's dad gives her away at her wedding.How legal papers are done,generations of family to follow searching for history of the family!Having to look for 2 names.Proving themselves part of the family.
There is a reason for a certain order of things.Pride in a man,asking you to bare his name!

Answer 2

Why should it be weird ? Would you get rid of your good name and pick up another persons that is a total stranger except for the fact that you slept together .
It is especially important to have your own identity if you have related professions as in the academic field where people publish and become well known. You'd start all over again with a new name . Also the husband gets credit for past work done by the wife, maybe . Forget it. Keep your name and if the other party is insecure because of it, take another look at him in other directions .

Answer 3

Well it surely does make sense to keep your own family name. He is keeping his - isn't he? Saves a lot of time & stress changing everything first to his name and after the divorce changing everything back to your own name. I have my father's surname but our children have their father's surname. The children have never had a problem with that & they'r in their 40's now & they have their own agreements with their spouses-some changed but some didn't and it's not an issue for any of them. I do believe that in the Province of Quebec, under dower rights, a woman may use her husband's name but she cannot change her own name. If this is a problem before marriage just think what it will be like after? Women don't have a problem keeping their own name, therefore, why do men? Is there some sort of controlling action happening? Times change - history reflects a great many women never changed their names even though they sometimes married many times and I suppose that's why they are remembered i.e. Eleanor of Aquitane - 11 children who all knew who their fathers were.

Answer 4

She may be one of those types, who is lets say a bit on the feministic side, or pretends to be? My guess is that she is under the age of 25, slightly imature, and wants to play the dominate force in this marriage, she will want to wear the pants in this marriage, 9 times out of 10 women who marry and dont change their last names do it to prove their in control. Why did,nt she just add her husbands last name? alot of women keep their last names but also take their hubbys, and I think thats ok.

Answer 5

No, it's not weird. It's a pain in the butt to have to change social security, drivers license, credit card, insurance policy, educational records, degrees...etc. With a 50% divorce rate, there's a 50% chance she'll have to then change it all back.

Answer 6

No it is not weird. Plus, it is a big pain in the neck to change it. Also, every once in a while you get problems with stuff like credit checks. Plus, depending on her job, it may be easier to stay with the same name. She may have built up a good reputation with her old name. Or, she just may not like the new name.

Answer 7

That is different. I'd think her reasoning would determine if it was actually weird or not. I suppose it would be partly understandable if she was proud her family's name & wanted to keep it for that reason. At the same time, one would think that she wanted to create her own pride with her own family...you know, her new husband, their children, etc. I personally think it is a bit silly.

Answer 8

It makes me wonder why these women get married. A friend of mine got married and his new wife didn't take his name either....

What's the point in marriage then? Why not just live together?

I guess I'm just too old fashioned!

Answer 9

it's not weird, it's very common specially in u.s. 1st it's the wife's choice, 2nd too much hassle to change legal documents such as driver's license,bills, passport etc. it's no big deal. if the husband is secure with the relationship there's no need to question the wife's decision. we're in the 21st century.

Answer 10

No. I think its weird that men don't change their names to their wives. Makes a whole lot more sense.