It's just my Mom and I and we are struggling financially this year. No one wants to put up a tree and decorations 'cause no one wants to take them down and we aren't having any commpany. I thought maybe I should atleast put some lights outside,right? I also got a OWUI (very stupid, I learned my lesson and now am very broke from lawyers and bail) and I am worried that I'll get jail even though it's my first offense. We don't have any family to go to. We would go on a vacation like a New York City or Vancouver Christmas but I screwed that up this year! I was thinking if I could volunteer for an organization that helps the needy with Christmas gifts. We do have enough money to buy some smaller gifts and toys but I'd like to help deliver them so I could see the kid's reactions! Is there such thing as "adopting" a family for Christmas? My dog may be having pups around New Years so that is one thing to look forward to. We live an hour from Chicago so we could go there. HELP!
2007-12-05 00:15:27 · 14 answers · asked by jessica 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Im sorry to hear about you about your OWUI... i wouldn't worry about going to jail on your first offence.. and everyone makes mistakes you will get though it.. Im just pissed i didn't learn my first time... even after i told myself a million times it would never happen again....and i just got a 2nd one last month.... so it looks like im gonna be doin time... But ya.. right now its going to be rough ..but i'm guessing you are being harder on yourself then ever...and just need to know everything happens for a reason.. and hopefully no one got hurt.. you should still celebrate the holiday... don't late what going to happen in the future effect the rest of your life... Just got to take one day at a time... Put up decorations maybe it will cheer you up.. Hope you can celebrate the holiday... and if not just look at this web site it maybe it can get a smile out of you http://www.fanpop.com/external/472311
2007-12-05 10:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Farelyisgod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well begin with trying to put a smile on youre face. If you have all youre ornaments and an artificial tree which you dont have to spend any money on then put it up and this way youre spirit may rise. As well, stop about presents and all that crap it's not about that remember what the holiday is really for if youc ant give gifts thats not what its for. You giving everyone all year long the gift of you and whom has you in there lifes. I think the whole volunteer stuff is great idea. Check out Camila's House or Salvation Army, Goodwill. Youre bound to be able to help with the holidays or even Toy for Tots where youc ould help giving out little toy to less fortunate children. The holiday is not about presents and how much is worth it's about the thought you put into it and grateful that at least you have people who care about you and unlike others. Also, if youre mom really wants to go see the nutcracker she just doesnt want to go alone then be a sport and go with her because that right there will be youre gift to youre mother just spending time with her no questions asked. Good Luck and Cheer up it's the HOLIDAYS!
2016-05-28 06:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This time of year is hard for a lot of people, so I think you are on the right track by thinking bigger than yourself; by thinking of the people who have even less than you have, and who have little hope of it being better next year. Nothing like reaching out to help the truly disadvantaged to put your own problems into perspective. Think about this--even with a disappointing Christmas this year, you still live better than 99% of the people in the world on a daily basis. Break it down to what's truly important--do you have a roof over your head? Do you go to bed with a full belly each night? Do you go about your business in relative safety each day (i.e., not living in a war zone, etc.) Count your blessings on that note. Sure you can volunteer at a charity kitchen, or any organization that serves the needy. Start making phone calls--that's a great idea! Is there a church near you? Even if you are not "religious" you will get a sense of community by going to services there right now. They may have a needy family they are helping, and that you could help with them.
Even though we celebrate Christmas this time of year, it was moved to Dec. to coincide with the pagan feats that already were celebrated now. The reason was that this time of year, with the least amount of sun, cold weather for those of us in the northern hemispheres, etc., are HARD to deal with! It's almost natural for humans to wind down into a seasonal depression (the other animals are hibernating, which is the ultimate form of seasonal depression/management!) The celebrations helped people have hope and light and some happiness in the bleakest part of the year! So, put up your lights and decorations. Play some Christmas music; watch Charlie Brown Christmas; do all those kinds of inexpensive holiday things and your mood will follow!
My point is to use your creativity to make your season special. It doesn't take an expensive vacation, or a load of gifts. Use your creativity---write a poem, or a story for your mom! Read it to her on Christmas morning. Make a coffee cake for breakfast that morning--something out of the ordinary! Make it together; make it about the experience, not about what you can buy. Get up early and watch the parade on tv; have it with your coffee and cake! Focus on everything besides the material, and you will stop grieving for what you don't have this year.
I've been there, and these things worked for me. Good luck!
2007-12-05 00:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Máire Siobhán 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and write down ALL the things that you have to be thankful for. It sounds like you have a lot more than some people. You HAVE a family and you can celebrate Christmas with them. Come up with a new tradition this year! Go out and sing Christmas carols. You can go to nursing homes etc to sing. Volunteer!!!!!!! This is the best way to fill your heart with love and warmth! Animal shelters, nursing homes, schools, hospitals. I'm putting a gift basket together for my local animal shelter. It breaks my heart knowing that all those dogs won't have a home for Christmas. Isn't that terrible? While we all buy gifts and snuff over getting the wrong gifts, these poor animals have to sit by themselves on a cold floor without a home!
2007-12-05 01:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Loves Dogs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your broke!
Some of my best Christmas memories are from when we had NO MONEY, I know it's hard but Christmas really is about Friends and family. The people who know you will understand about the money. We made so many great memories just being with each other as a family and doing home made things. We look back 25 years later and laugh about how poor we were back then, and how much fun we had (without spending a lot of money) so hang in there (much better days are coming)
GOOD LUCK!
2007-12-05 00:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the time of year a lot of people feel hopeless and depressed. christmas time is not about the money or how much you can buy. the true spirit of christmas is in seeking out the joy in small things and taking that into your heart. go out and walk along a street in your area where people have lights and enjoy them. volunteer with a local homeless shelter or childrens charity to wrap and deliver presents or to help with a community meal or party. give the gifts of yourself and don;t worry about the material things. goodwill, salvation army, women's shelters, children's hospitals- even your local schools- all need help during the holidays to bring happiness into the lives and eyes of children and the needy.
if you and or your mom are crafters or knit or crochet, check with local hospitals about making booties, caps or small blankets for preemies or for sick newborns or infants. check woth a local animal shelter about volunteering to help wiuth the animals- a little extra attention is always appreciated by a homeless dog or cat... there are so very many ways to make the season blessed without spending money- you sond like you have a good heart!
2007-12-05 00:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by northcountry57 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position this year myself. Im trying to hang in there but it is depressing. Just try to focus on having your mom around, most of my family is dead and just my sister and her family is around which is great but the holidays have become depressing. I wake up with just me and my dog, if it wasn't for him I dont know what I would do. Volunteering sounds like a great way to spend the holiday and will show you that you have more than you realize just having a home to go back to and your mom to be with. Decorate! It will help you get in the spirit and always looks nice. Christmas is not really about the presents that is what corporate America made it into like all holidays, remember what it is really about ! Take advantage of the free things, like dispalys, concerts, church etc.
2007-12-05 00:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by A R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen It's a Wonderful Life? if not please do so, it is such a beautiful movie with very important and useful lessons.
Dont give up, enjoy what you already have and be grateful. I wish you and you mom the best! things happen for a reason just try to deal and work along with them. Learn from mistakes and enjoy your life as if there was no tomorrow.
Merry christmas!
2007-12-05 00:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by Manzanita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in small inexpensive newspapers you could advertize puppies
free of charge to good home.
im sure the newspaper or chuch can dirrect you to organizations where you could deliver gifts to needy kids.
the chuch may even provide you with families in need.
even though you are broke, you are healthy and together
and remember christmas is a religious holiday
you and your mother still have each other, consider
that a blessing. merry x-mas.
2007-12-05 00:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart....
Christmas has nothing to do with money......it has to do with the love of God...and the birth of Jesus....
spend your time loving others...and you will have a very blessed time.. and the best Christmas ever...maybe volunteer at a local church or homeless shelter
I have nothing either....i put up a few lights and I am enjoying them... you can also go outside and get fresh pine boughs and decorate your house with them.....they will make the house smell nice
2007-12-05 00:26:30 · answer #10 · answered by Angel wings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋