Hi
im 15 . 16 in 2 months but i recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend.. the thing is we moved a bit quick & have both decidd to slow things down.
i want t do other stuff, but im reallly nervous about... my ... area...
& i really need help because we want to do more.
i feel so stupid but i no i was ready before anyone judges me on having sex. we used proection & we have been out 9 months..
Ummm
Help..
xxx
2007-12-03 20:39:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey,
its embarresing.
We get it.
But honestly, no one will judge!
But we do need a little more to go on then that in order to help you.
Specify a little more.
2007-12-03 20:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Burlesque 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, no one's judging you and well done for being sensible and using protection, there are so many people much older than you that haven't got the sense to do that! As for being a bit nervous well that's just normal we're all a little insecure about things sometimes. As you're only almost sixteen you are still inexperienced and as you get older and gain experience you'll get more confident, but believe me there is nothing to worry about. It's a good idea to slow things down a little and concentrate on your relationship and enjoying doing things other than sex, having fun. You've plenty of time to experience other things just take one step at a time and only ever do what you feel is right regarding sex and what you're comfortable with and most of all never let anyone pressurise you into doing things you're not happy about. The most important thing is you're happy, healthy and are keeping safe. All the best Kazza!
2007-12-03 21:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by clara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think you should learn to write in English before you start on you sex life. You have the next 5 decades to do that stuff, but you only get to learn English at school.
And you boyfreind will want it every week now. And he will tell all his mates. And Condoms are not 100% reliable.
Sadly, it is only when you are over 21 will you look back and realise you should have waited.
2007-12-03 21:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try not to worry too much. i went through the same as you are now, and at the same age as you are. i know it's easier said than done, but try not to think about it too much. you're bound to be feeling like this at first. it's only natural, but you'll get used to it after a while. i think you are only feeling like this at the moment because it is something so new to you. try not to worry about it. i know loads of people who have been through what you are going through now, and the nervousness that you are feeling won't last too long. good luck, and make sure you are safe. don't do anything you are not comfortable with, or not sure of. i hope everything works out well between you both.
2007-12-04 04:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to have sex. Concentrate on your studies. When you have sex at this young age, you are very likely to get pregnant, have an abortion or be an unwed mother. What would you like to be? Even if you have protection, it's not 100% guaranteed that you won't get pregnant or even get disease. Your boyfriend is not yet tired of girls. Pretty soon, he will be looking for others coz he is still young and need to exlplore. You also need to explore others. You can't if you become pregnant.Please, don't be like countless of teens who become single moms at a very early age.
2007-12-03 21:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me say first of all that you are very mature and congradulate you on using protection and looking after yourself. Furthermore, there is NOTHING to be embarrased about, it will all come with time, the positions, the comfort, the words, but for now, just relax and be yourself. Take your time and enjoy each other.
2007-12-03 21:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a father of two girls (age 4.5yrs and 9 days) my advice would be just think of the look in your fathers eyes if you had to tell him what you have done and what you intend to do. im not judging you. when you think about that conversation with your dad you will judge yourself. the outcome should help you feel either good or bad about what you intend to do. might settle your nervs a bit.
2007-12-03 20:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're feeling nervous about 'your area' then this probably means that you don't have the emotional maturity to be having sex in the first place.
2007-12-03 20:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You said in a previous question that you'd already turned 16, what age are you really? What are you nervous about?
2007-12-03 20:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ally 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look its really fine, most of my friends lost their virginity already and they r all not sixteen yet.
what do u mean when u say that u r nervous about ur area? what worries u?? get back to me if u need more help!
2007-12-03 20:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by merlin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋