she wants an abortion i dont. i think the baby might not be mine, how can i find out now before an abortion?

Question

she went out with a guy behind my back for 3 days on 0ct,28-31st she thinks she might be pregnant ,last period was oct13th its now dec 2 what do you think

Answer 1

Well, here's the deal. First, you cannot determine paternity prior to birth unless the mother has one of two procedures - a chorionic villus sampling can be performed around 10 weeks gestation. It is invasive. The other option is amniocentesis, which cannot be performed until even later, around 18 weeks is idea. Also invasive.

Either procedure is something the mother must consent to. You cannot force her to have either one done.

And, similarly, you cannot stop her from having an abortion. It is her body, her choice, despite how unfair this may be for fathers who are wanting to raise their children. Its the law. Sorry.

But the thing is, if she cheated on you, this isn't the kind of woman you want to be tied down to for the rest of your life.

Let her make her decision. If she aborts, while I feel badly for the loss of this child, in the long run you will probably be better off not being involved with this girl.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

First off - she doesn't know she is even pregnant by the sounds of it. If she does turn out to be pregnant and she wants to terminate the pregnancy, there is really nothing you can do. As ovulation doesn't occur according to a set schedule there is no way to determine at this stage which specific day she would have gotten pregnant - if there was a few weeks in between, maybe, but not if you had sex with her around the same dates as the other guy. The only way to determine paternity in this case would be to take a DNA test either later in the pregnancy or at birth - but as this wont happen, you really have no way of knowing before she has an abortion.

For all of your sakes, I hope she isn't pregnant in the first place. Good luck!

Answer 3

if the FIRST day of her last period was 10/13 then the approximate conception date would be 10/27 (or within 72 hours of the 27th).

there is no easy way to tell you this but the fact of the matter is it is her choice. no matter how you feel about it or who the biological father is, she is the only one that can decide whether to carry to term or not.

as far as finding out paternity now... there are very few doctors and places that will do that type of testing because of the potential for harm to the unborn child (it would require a sample of the amniotic fluid the embryo is in). the best you could do would be to accompany her to an ultrasound and ask the technician to nail down a conception date as best they can (the sooner the better because as the baby grows that date becomes less reliable since babies develop at different rates the further along in the pregnancy).

wishing you all the best in this situation.

Answer 4

I have answered many questions on abortion, so most of you probably already know my stand- abortion is wrong, no matter the reason- however when I read some of the responses to your question I cried- because NO ONE understood that if you are the father, you have a right to this child. If this baby is yours- you help create it- no you are not carrying it, but also NO IT IS NOT HER BODY- there is a baby inside that body- different blood stream- heart beating, a separate body developing. I do not think that you can find out the paternity of this child until after he/she is born. If you were not the father, would you still want her to have this child. It should not make a difference- granted it would be hurtful. Sorry if I got a little heated here, but it is not the woman's body here- except when it is damaged by an abortion, which happens.

Answer 5

I think if her last period was on the 13th then it's not due again for a few days. Y'all guys sound like your just looking for bad news. Relax dude the good times are hard to find but you can bust your ba**s looking for something that might not be there. Find out for sure if she's pregnant, it's only been like 20 days. Then decide intelligently. Yes through fluid drawn from a fetus a doctor can do a dna.

Answer 6

Dude, let her get the abortion, and get away from her. She obviously can't be trusted. If you hang around and talk her into having the kid, she will probably put you as the father on the birth certificate, then your really screwed. Even if it turns out not to be yours, your stuck. Now your life is messed up with something that should have never been your problem to begin with. I say that in the context that the kid turns out not to be yours. And it's nice to see all the right to lifers jump on their soapboxes at this question, lol.

Answer 7

Uhm, it's her body; therefore, her decision. There may be a baby, but it's still inside HER. If she feels that she can't emotionally have it, then she doesn't have to. If she wants an abortion, the only thing that you can try to do is convince her not to. As far as the possibility of it not being your's, ask.

Answer 8

In my personal opinion there is no way to find out until the baby is born. As far as her wanting an abortion the final say is up to her. Maybe she wants the abortion because it is not yours. You two should really talk about it and see what the best decision would be and I wish you the best of luck

Answer 9

i think the sad truth it theres a huge possibilty the baby isnt yours. also if she wants to have an abortion it is her decision, as much as you want it. its a shame, but its the truth!! hope everything works out ok xo

and to that girl that said its not her body. ofcourse it is! when i was pregnant with my daughter it sure fealt like my body, only they are a seperate little human but our bodies give all our goodness to them so they can survive. it felt like my body! i had morning sickness through most of my pregnancy and had pre eclampsia in the end which almost led to kidney failure. this girl will have to deal with whatever decision she makes for the rest of her life!

Answer 10

I don't think you can find out until after the baby is actually born...sorry....

Unfortunately if she wants an abortion it's her choice because at the end of the day it's her body and she can't be legally forced to have the baby ya know...

I hope everything works out for you and my advice leave the ***** i mean she cheated on you what a skank!