How can I get over my fear/hate of sleeping alone?

Question

I've had this problem ever since I broke up with my boyfriend (well now ex). that was about a year ago. this is why i stay up til the wee hours or the morning (it's 4:15 am here). because i am scared of trying to sleep alone and i just think about him

Answer 1

need me to help feel that void, or you can come over and feel the empty spot I have, just stay on your side of the bed when it time to sleep is all I ask
MO

Answer 2

So have you found something that works if so please share i tried everything sleeping with the light on its not the same with no one next to u i am scared of the dark and i had my roomate sleeping in my king size bed but now he has his room finished and now i cant sleep i feel so childish but im scared to sleep i tryed crying my self to sleep i tryed singing my self to sleep my tv stays on and i cant find any thing to help
Any ideas

Answer 3

I had the same problem and the fact that it has been about an year ago and you still can't get over this freaks me out. Anyways, what I have realized is that everything is in your mind and you better realize that you are complete person - you was a complete person before you met him and you have to be a complete person during a relationship and after it. This is where I am trying to point my thoughts at. I know it sounds theoretically easy and difficult to accomplish in reality. First you have to get over your ex, stop thinking only about him, then you will have good and restful sleep. Try to go out with friends as much as possible. And the suggestion of sleeping with strangers is not good, trust me, in the beginning it might feel better, but afterwards it can take you way down.

Answer 4

Yeah I know, it's 3:15 here and I have to get ready for work in 4 hours. I have had this problem since my girlfriend broke up with me. I know the feeling. Sleeping pills or bourbon are the only help!!!

Answer 5

I have this same problem. On the weekends, my boyfriend sleeps over with me, and during the weekdays, I dread going to bed at night. It's getting worse too. I'll lie there and just think of all the awful things that could happen at night. And I have this really stupid, childish fear of people under my bed.

I wish I knew what to tell you to do. Maybe sleep with a pet, if they'll let you. I don't know if that would help, but it's worth a try. This sounds really crazy, but I sleep with a not-bright nightlight, and it helps a little bit.

I don't know if this'll help any, but here's a google page full of tricks to help you sleep better. Hope this helps - good luck.
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=tricks+for+sleeping

Oh, sometimes I do word-search puzzles and they sometimes help.

Answer 6

If you're still thinking about him, you have a lot more to deal with than sleeping problems. I think if you start getting over him, you will be able to sleep better and alone.

Answer 7

Oh, I remember that lonely-empty-bed feeling, all too well. It hurts. I feel your pain. Sadly, I took drugs to help me sleep, to numb all pain. BIG MISTAKE! Truthfully, there is NOTHING you can do - there are only band-aid cures. Your only enemy is time, and as time passes, it will get easier. Go with your emotions - cry when you are sad, laugh when you are happy. That's all there is. Be strong - you'll be ok. Good luck.

Answer 8

I am married Rozd, but in the interest of helping a fellow human being, I will volunteer to cuddle with you until you get thru this thing. Just remember though.. I am married :)

Answer 9

iam always willing to help just call me iam having the exact same problems i don't like to sleep alone either it 2:48 here

Answer 10

Try getting a pet. A dog or can is fun to snuggle up with, who needs a guy anyways.